Straight Guys in Gay Clubs

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  1. goodwood

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    Whatchya think about this:

    Straight guys in gay clubs? Specifically straight guys who go to gay clubs to pick up women? I have done this and it has worked out well for me. It has also worked out to make new friends. Gay guys are very nice to me and great conversationalists and are nice enough to hook me up with their hot, single women friends. The guys know I am not gay and am not looking for anything gay but are still good enough to be decent and conversational. Many business deals have been precipitated by visiting gay bar/club. No. Not THAT kind of business, but actual 'Hey - I know this person/I know that person>call so and so' and done.
    Is it odd or unusual for a straight guy to pop into gay bar/club for the purpose of A.)hooking up with hot women and B.) Facilitating business deals?
    I realize this is probably not very common, but neither am I. Thoughts please.
     
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    I reckon it shouldn't matter, goodwood. I go to 'straight' clubs, pubs and bars and have a great time.

    If the issue of my sexual orientation comes up, I'm pretty honest and upfront, and have never had a problem with the guys or gals.

    I do think that gay-friendly venues have a reputation of being a bit more relaxed. The guys, once they've been told you're straight, are probably intrigued that in our current less-than perfect social culture, that you are happy to be amongst them! Most gay folk just wanna have a good time, though there are a small minority that have to make political statements about EVERYthing and EVERYone...steer clear of them.

    And, there is something strangely attractive about a '100% straight man' hanging out with us bum-pirates!
     
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    Ah, a great subject. There is nothing wrong with a straight guy in a gay bar. My fraternity brother went to a strip club with me just to hang out with me. He did meet a nice girl there too. Straight guys progressive enough to be willing to hang out in a gay bar are often welcomed by the guys there. Ok, if the straight guy is cute, he'll get several propositions, but it will be generally light hearted. Meeting women in a gay bar. That's not so unusual. Again, straight guys that feel comfortable with themselves can hangout anywhere.

    I applaud you for hanging in gay bars. If you ever come to Baltimore, I'll take you around town. :)
     
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    I only hang at gay clubs when I'm in the city. I don't go straight places because I feel I can't be myself there. That said, I don't go to gay clubs to pick up; I go for the music, dancing and overall atmosphere.

    Gay clubs in NYC = great music (love the dark tribal house):biggrin1:
     
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    I'm confused. :confused: Who is the'self' you can be at gay clubs that you can't be at straight clubs?
     
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    I like going to gay and straight clubs, I feel very comfortable in either, I have to agree with bigbull about the music in gay clubs, it can be fun, overall gay clubs can be more fun at times.
     
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    Thanks Kim. If I get there anytime soon, I wll expect to be taken out.
    Bigbull - you are right. the music is fantastic and the atmosphere is great.
    I am from new york so i know of what i speak.
    NJ - you need to go out with me to a gay place and see how its done! lol!
    really.
     
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    NJ - having dated models who had lots of gay friends i was regularly dragged to gay clubs and was surpised at how many hot, single women there were there with their gay friends.
    Monster - if I make it out to the west coast let's hit it up. yeah?
     
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    I was thinking this is a non-issue, since I'll be in a straight bar this evening to watch the UFC ... then I re-read your post & noticed this ... you've actually gone into a gay club for a business deal? do tell!
     
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    Sounds good bud, some great clubs in San Francisco, Ive never been in the clubs of NYC but, I can imagine.
     
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    I love gay clubs! It's a nice, fun, low pressure environment with great music and dancing.
     
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    Monster - we need to take NJ out. She thinks no pressure and low stress, but you watch, she will get hit on like a pinata. AND we can hook up and reprot back the next day. lol.
     
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    Well....I sympathize with all you pussy-deprived hetero men....it must be so terrible to be handsome, built, horny, intelligent, witty, sophisticated and STILL not be able to get laid. I guess that trolling for pussy at gay clubs must be one alternative to get laid.

    But I'll tell ya, as much as I hated all of the gay clubs in my youth and prime, rarely went and always regretted going, whenever I saw wide-eyed hetero men and women hanging around, I wanted to slap them with a wet and rotting fish. As fucking horribly toxic as the gay bars were for gay men in general, adding thrill-seeking heteros to the mix made it even worse. In a hetero setting, similar gay adventurers would be beaten to death after severe humiliation, for daring to darken that door. For hetero men, don't ever feel welcomed in a gay bar...the guys who fawn all over you want your dick and/or ass.
     
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    Hi Ck -
    Thanks for the input. Excellent. That is nice of you to sympathasize with people. Pussy deprived is not part of the equation necessarily. And no one ever mentioned about not getting laid.
    How is anyone wide eyed different from anyone else being wide eyed? Het. or hom. ? In 'straight' clubs plenty of gays there and they are welcomed. I am sorry if you have been treated badly or disrespected for who you are.
    I would love to hang out with you wherever you suggest as appropriate. Is Starbucks a neutral territory?
     
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    I forgot, I was hit on once in a gay bar . . . by a 6'2" lesbian in Sergio Valente jeans and a gold lame top. :biggrin1: :yuck: :tongue:

    I think thats when I stopped hanging out in gay bars. :cool:
     
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    In general, I feel much more comfortable dancing in gay clubs. So, I am better able to express myself, making me feel incredibly at ease.

    I don't know of any straight clubs that play tribal house music the way it's played at a few gay places in NYC, btw.

    If dark tribal is playing in a gay club, it's like a natural high for me. The sounds of this music pulsate through me body in a way that I can be anything or anywhere in my mind (no, I never take drugs, even when dancing to this kind of music:biggrin1:).

    Do I sound crazy enough for you?:eek:
     
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    Chicks go to gay clubs to be with guys, get their testosterone fix, and dance their asses off without having to worry about getting hit on.

    Get the right girl at the right time, her defenses will be non-existent precisely because she doesn't expect to be hit on in a gay club. A few drinks and dances and she won't know what hit her. Unless she's a true fag hag she won't know what hit her. This is a classic flanking maneuver and kudos to the men who can can accomplish it.
     
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