Straight guys level of respect for gay guys

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Do some of you suspect, as I do, that a lot of this is in the eye of the beholder. Granted the biological differences do have their influence. But, one's cultural background makes a great difference as well. I am told that as a very young child I did not want to sit on the potty-chair when all I had to do was to empty my bladder. I had seen how my brothers took care of that in among the trees outside. Growing up I learned not complain when my mother asked me to do what my friends all called girl's work. I survived! During my last two years of high school I was deeply in love with a male classmate. We had the privacy and we took the opportunity of expressing our love in ways we had never associated with boys before. But, it all seemed so natural and so right. I have always been grateful for that experience which showed me another side of my sexuality and validated for me that "gentler side" of my character which my super-regular-guy male classmates seemed to repress. After two other long-term relationships with men and two with women I finally found the one person I wanted to spend the rest of my life with. She has had many occasions to thank me for that gentler side. In any case, I have never lost sleep over the issue raised. In my life I have known too many men, and women too, who would have suffered rebuffs from some of those who posted. I"m glad to be me; but, I also see that you are just as glad to be you.
 
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Interesting thread.
Generally I try not to let somthing as trivial as sexuality dictate whether or not I have respect for a person. There are far more important characteristics in my mind that comand respect than if a person is gay/straight/bi or whatever.
 

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Only thing that irritates me are straight men who are very effeminate. I could care less what gays are like or do. They are fine with me.
 

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I have respect for ALL people, regardless of their personal affectations or bearing.

Flaming gays to butch... manly men to the softer kind.

Everyone deserves to be given the equal opportunity to be cherished, or reviled, based upon their character... not upon their characteristics.
 

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I was raised to respect a person, regardless of their sexual identity. My parents have friends from many different walks of life; and I grew up around many different lifestyles.
I am not attracted to feminine gay men, preferring someone more like my own type, but I certainly wouldn't think of disrespecting someone because they are feminine.
I have several friends who are very "open" about their sexuality, and it doesn't usually amuse me when in public with them, they get all outrageous and loud with their in-your-face attitudes, but I don't think of them as any less a human being than I am.
 

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I respect people their sexuality a lot, but I also think it's weird to hang out with gay people who are feminem. I will respect them, but I don't feel that comfterable with them around. Sorry for my honestly if it hurts someone.
 

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I think what an earlier poster said is correct: At the root of homophobia is sexism.

So if a man--who as another earlier poster said should be masculine (or at least that's the expectation)--jumps out of his gender category, or if he creates another category by not adhering to the masculinity template, he makes other men uncomfortable. Especially 100% straight men, and not-quite-(completely)-straight men who would prefer to appear 100% straight.

I think our relatively rigid Western cultural expectations regarding gender conventions keep us locked in a childlike "girls play with dolls, boys play with trucks" mindset. I wonder whether a breakdown of this rigidity will allow multiple and/or variable gender constructions to occur, particularly among people who have queer parents.

NCbear (who is just musing a bit right now)
 

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Until someone does something shitty to me, I'm pretty likely to be cordial and enjoy his or her company. I don't take sexual orientation into consideration, most of the time, because it's only one part of an entire person. However, I do find myself a little annoyed with the extremely effeminate "stereotypical" gay guy. I just find those personality traits kind of irritating--I am equally put off by high maintenance girly girls. [shrugs] I hope I answered your question?
 

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English is my second language , i hope everybody can understand me right.I believe that our sexual choices are generally based on our genes.So this make respectful to different people and different choices.I cant understand why some people are using philosophical methods to prove heterosexuality is "imaginary". By this way they are creating confusions on heterosexual people.They also say %100 heterosexuality is imposible.Why , where is the proof?If one find mans unattractive ,it is very needless to questioning whether he has homosexual tendencies.There is nothing different than questioning whether you are secret messiah:biggrin1: .

Some people always say heterosexual man is biased to homosexuals and this bias is socially constructed.Many people are afraid of dark ,unknown , and mysteries.Are those fears socially constructed or are there some psychological(biological) explanations?Why are those fears common in the many different cultures? Why most of the cultures are against homosexuality?There should be some biological explanations because its common in every culture.I think that the belief which defends heterosexuals have socially constructed biases to homosexuals is socially constructed lol.