Do some of you suspect, as I do, that a lot of this is in the eye of the beholder. Granted the biological differences do have their influence. But, one's cultural background makes a great difference as well. I am told that as a very young child I did not want to sit on the potty-chair when all I had to do was to empty my bladder. I had seen how my brothers took care of that in among the trees outside. Growing up I learned not complain when my mother asked me to do what my friends all called girl's work. I survived! During my last two years of high school I was deeply in love with a male classmate. We had the privacy and we took the opportunity of expressing our love in ways we had never associated with boys before. But, it all seemed so natural and so right. I have always been grateful for that experience which showed me another side of my sexuality and validated for me that "gentler side" of my character which my super-regular-guy male classmates seemed to repress. After two other long-term relationships with men and two with women I finally found the one person I wanted to spend the rest of my life with. She has had many occasions to thank me for that gentler side. In any case, I have never lost sleep over the issue raised. In my life I have known too many men, and women too, who would have suffered rebuffs from some of those who posted. I"m glad to be me; but, I also see that you are just as glad to be you.
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