Straight guys that don't like Vaginas?

[noface60]

to ges: I usually fantasize about her sucking me off or us touching each other. I look at myself in the mirror and just picture her with me while i jack. but it's more heavily focused on me than her. this could be because I don't know if her body turns me on so much as her actions turn me on. sometimes I picture her touching herself while thinking about me, and that gets me turned on too.

to unabear09: you could be right. i had a similar experience with alcohol. I hated alcohol with all my guts for the first 20 years of my life. Then when I turned 21 and I had my first drink, I loved the drink (Pina colada). maybe I'll like pussy more when I've had sex. I still don't see myself doing oral though.

...I can't see myself having sex before marriage. I just can't do it. I'm fine with that though, remember, sex is no big thing to me really. I just want to father some children and pass on my genes.

 

[noface60]

Based on the responses, I guess people like me must really be in the minority like I thought. It's all good tho.

 

[D_Inglethorp Rumpshow]

to ges: I usually fantasize about her sucking me off or us touching each other. I look at myself in the mirror and just picture her with me while i jack. but it's more heavily focused on me than her. this could be because I don't know if her body turns me on so much as her actions turn me on. sometimes I picture her touching herself while thinking about me, and that gets me turned on too.

to unabear09: you could be right. i had a similar experience with alcohol. I hated alcohol with all my guts for the first 20 years of my life. Then when I turned 21 and I had my first drink, I loved the drink (Pina colada). maybe I'll like pussy more when I've had sex. I still don't see myself doing oral though.

Don't worry about that now, you've got to crawl before you can walk. I'm guessing you're pretty young and I can remember being a teenager and saying I would NEVER lick pussy. It was mostly due to peer pressure because nobody would ever cop to the charge of going down on a girl. Maybe it was seen as submissive...I dunno. I tried it once and was immediately hooked. Just concentrate on sliding in for right now. I'm telling you, you'll never forget your first time. Plus, it's with your wife which makes it that much more special.

 

[Skull Mason]

Dude, don't make any judgements or assessments of yourself and your sexuality before you dive HEAD FIRST INTO A PUSSY. C'mon man, it's like me saying I don't like flying without ever going on a plane. It seems more like you are scared of it whether you admit to that or not. Overcome your fears, embrace the pussy like a human being can, and then you can have a better perception of yourself.

People like you are in the minority because you are a VIRGIN to the pussy, in every way. Put your tongue to it and feel the woman you love orgasming with your lips, it is one of life's greatest treasures. Learn to enjoy her thighs against your ears and the sides of your head as you lift her ass up to get your face deeper into that pussy. Be like water.

 

[dude10188]

just wait till you put your penis in there. you and your dick will love the vag. i was almost weirded out by vaginas untill i had sex. now i can't get enough.....

 

[noface60]

haha. I'm loving this encouragement from the pussy pros.

 

[D_Inglethorp Rumpshow]

Dude, don't make any judgements or assessments of yourself and your sexuality before you dive HEAD FIRST INTO A PUSSY. C'mon man, it's like me saying I don't like flying without ever going on a plane. It seems more like you are scared of it whether you admit to that or not. Overcome your fears, embrace the pussy like a human being can, and then you can have a better perception of yourself.

People like you are in the minority because you are a VIRGIN to the pussy, in every way. Put your tongue to it and feel the woman you love orgasming with your lips, it is one of life's greatest treasures. Learn to enjoy her thighs against your ears and the sides of your head as you lift her ass up to get your face deeper into that pussy. Be like water.

^This

 

[D_Inglethorp Rumpshow]

haha. I'm loving this encouragement from the pussy pros.

I'm telling you, bro. Marry that woman, carry her over the threshold, pop some champagne, light some candles, put on a Nike headband and JUST DO IT.

 

[buzzrider7]

If you enjoy drinking pina coladas, then you must be gay.
Ok, just kidding. Seriously, though, I don't agree with the idea I've seen others allude to here that if you don't like pussy, then you must like dick, or vice versa. I guess I see sexuality as an attraction to more than just a single body part. Personally, I'm in a bit of a similar situation as you, though I'm not under any pressure to try to figure it all out. I'm happy just being turned on by what turns me on without worrying about what anybody thinks of it or wants to call it.
I second the idea that your ideas regarding pussy will probably change once you start having sex with your future wife.
However, before you get any closer to marriage, I think it is absolutely essential that you share all of these thoughts with your gf so that she understands what you're going through. She deserves to know what she'll be getting in the guy she will probably marry. If she's supportive and helps you figure things out, then that's all the more reason to marry her. If she can't deal with you being at least somewhat bisexual, then she may not be the one for you to marry.

 

[D_Harry_Crax]

The sex columnist Dan Savage would say that you're really gay, and therefore so do I. You like cock too much and pussy not enough to be straight (no vaginal sex with GF after 7 years???), and the fact that you like breasts doesn't by itself mean much of anything.

 

[D_Inglethorp Rumpshow]

The sex columnist Dan Savage would say that you're really gay, and therefore so do I. You like cock too much and pussy not enough to be straight (no vaginal sex with GF after 7 years???), and the fact that you like breasts doesn't by itself mean much of anything.

I was talking with a dude at a bar a couple of nights ago. He said that he's heard that some gay men REALLY like breasts and that threw me for a loop. I didn't ask how he got this info and I'm not assuming it's true. It just didn't make any sense to me...

 

[green carnation]

dont think that because you are not interested in arse that you cant be gay. And If you could learn to like vagina you could learn to like that...

 

[D_Jay Sockafeller]

It might help you to realize what's going on if you think about what is turning you on when you masturbate. No matter what you're looking at there will always be pictures/videos on both sides that will excite you. The key is to determine what makes me so excited by them. You say that you like a big cock, but is it the idea of having one like they have that turns you on? If you're looking at a picture of a male and getting turned on there should be a reason.

Also you say that you would never take someone anally or partake in anal sex in any way, but that just may seem taboo to you at this point in your life. As people grow older they tend to lose sexual inhibitions and progress to "nastier" things. For example, I know for myself when I was younger even just seeing a topless girl in Playboy was enough to do it for me, but now I can look at that shit all day it feels like and yeah they're hot as hell but I need to see more. So maybe your unwillingness for anal is a tribute to sexual inexperience. I know you said you're waiting for marriage, and I'm guessing that's a religious view which is totally cool, but I would recommend finding out someway if this will make you totally happy.

Last I kinda know where you're coming from and I feel like I'm going through the same thing kinda. While I'm not "grossed" out by any of the things you are, there certainly are people with whom I would not perform the task.

Lastly I truly think that you don't need a label straight or bi. If you found someone you are truly happy with then everything should work out. After all there is more to relationships and life than sex. Also the openness you share with each other is awesome, and I wish that I could find someone that I could be like that with.

All the Best,
ZeroPoint

 

[invisibleman]

:scratchchin: Okay, there are gay men who don't like sex with gay men but would rather have sex with straight men.
:scratchchin: Now, there are straight guys that don't like vaginas...


Color me confounded.

I will say this. Men...whatever your sexuality is...you should be able to express what you feel...however you feel. People may not understand...but it should be an opportunity to educated.

Maybe we are all becoming very sophisticated sensual and sexual beings.

 

[buzzrider7]

Man, after reading and posting to this thread last night, I was thinking about vag and cock so much that I ended up dreaming that I was a woman (well, at least a human with a vag) getting fucked by a guy with a big cock. It felt pretty good. :biggrin1: (So what does that mean, Dr. Freud?)

 

[ConstantComment]

I wouldn't mind exploring this topic more. I dated a guy for about 2 years whom I have called on this message board Mr. Can't Ejaculate. CE liked putting his dick in my v and in my mouth but he didn't like giving at all. when it became clear to me that he was avoiding giving oral sex, we had a discussion about it as the relationship books suggest. I remember his gestures at the time he said "all the other women he had dated neither wanted nor needed direct clitoral stimulation." As he said that, he held his hand up, palm down parallel to floor. I still can't figure out what that was supposed to symbolise.

But I should also point out that in the heat of an argument with him about what was missing in our sex life, I said, well, I'll just masturbate and give myself my own orgasm. he told me that that remark was the greatest insult known to man. So he was not interested in helping a woman to orgasm but didn't like that she actively got her own without his involvement.

I also noticed that he avoided using his hands as well. I asked him if there was a problem with odor. He told me that I smelled very nice. One excuse that he used was that he was not sexually experienced. At the age of 48, he tried to convince me that he had gone 4 years without sex.

OTOH, I had noticed that he made some homophobic remarks. and when I tried to encourage to do anal with me he declined.

This guy is black; from a poor family in the deep south who climbed up to buppy status; never married and doesn't seem as if any romantic relationship of his lasted past 6 months.

Are there many men like that out there? After him, I would nver wait until marriage to, as you men would say, test dive the merchandise.

 

[Tonynyc]

Let's see you enjoy cock, and have to force yourself to enjoy vagina, correct? Doing the math...hmmm..hmmm.hmmmm...ah yes, here's the answer: Homo.

I ran the math again, to check my equations, thinking maybe the answer was bi, but there were missing elements, such as equally enjoying cock and pussy. After second run, it came up Homo again.

Not that there is anything wrong with that!

 

[eyescream]

Okay...

Let me start off by explaining my sexuality. I'm pretty sure that I'm either straight or bisexual. Why? I know that if I were ever put in a sexual situation with another male, the farthest I'd go would be to give them a handjob. A blowjob would be tempting and if it's the right person... maybe I'd do it anyway. But absolutely under no circumstance would I allow that male to penetrate me (which is why I don't think that I'm completely gay).

I like cocks. I like the look and feel of cocks. I've never really been sexually intimate with another male. I've seen a few guys naked, but it's never been anything sexual (just showering, etc). I've only touched 1 other male's cock. And that was my cousin during a sleepover almost a decade ago. But I didn't jack him off or anything, just touched it and held it. It was really huge and beautiful. And obviously, I like (big) cocks if I'm a 4-year member of this site.

However, I am in a 7+ year relationship w/ my gf. We haven't consummated our relationship yet b/c I'm holding out for marriage. Yes, we're "virgins" even though she's given me countless handjobs/blowjobs and I've fingered her many times. I have all intentions of remaining with this woman for the rest of my life once we get married. She's seen flashes of my bisexuality when I mention things about how hot a guy is or whatever. So, my bisexuality shouldn't be any surprise to her.

But, I do NOT like vaginas! They smell funny. They feel weird. And they look strange. They're not beautiful to me like a big cock. She agrees with me that vaginas aren't the prettiest things. I won't mind sticking my cock in her vagina when we do get married, but I currently don't really enjoy fingering her so much, and I would NEVER eat her out (since there's more nerve endings in my fingers than in my cock, I'm sure that I'll be alright fucking her in the future, but for some reason it just feels dirty / filthy to stick my fingers in there).

Basically, my question is, are there any other guys out there that find vaginas a little weird? Even though you are attracted to women, you're not really attracted to vaginas? I mean, I know gay guys don't like 'em, so I'm mainly directing the question at straight guys / bisexual guys. Heck, even the gals can feel free to answer. Feel free to commentate on my sexuality if you want to also.

Additionally, if it's sexually unhealthy for me to feel this way about my gf's vagina, are there things that I can do (in my circumstance) that can make vaginas more appealing to me? Thanks.

You're not straight. You've pretty much listed down the reasons why I consider myself 100% straight (and I'm female). If you finger your girlfriend to do her a favour instead of doing it because it pleases her and turns you on at the same time then you really shouldn't call yourself straight.

 

[D_Inglethorp Rumpshow]

I wouldn't mind exploring this topic more. I dated a guy for about 2 years whom I have called on this message board Mr. Can't Ejaculate. CE liked putting his dick in my v and in my mouth but he didn't like giving at all. when it became clear to me that he was avoiding giving oral sex, we had a discussion about it as the relationship books suggest. I remember his gestures at the time he said "all the other women he had dated neither wanted nor needed direct clitoral stimulation." As he said that, he held his hand up, palm down parallel to floor. I still can't figure out what that was supposed to symbolise.

But I should also point out that in the heat of an argument with him about what was missing in our sex life, I said, well, I'll just masturbate and give myself my own orgasm. he told me that that remark was the greatest insult known to man. So he was not interested in helping a woman to orgasm but didn't like that she actively got her own without his involvement.

I also noticed that he avoided using his hands as well. I asked him if there was a problem with odor. He told me that I smelled very nice. One excuse that he used was that he was not sexually experienced. At the age of 48, he tried to convince me that he had gone 4 years without sex.

OTOH, I had noticed that he made some homophobic remarks. and when I tried to encourage to do anal with me he declined.

This guy is black; from a poor family in the deep south who climbed up to buppy status; never married and doesn't seem as if any romantic relationship of his lasted past 6 months.

Are there many men like that out there? After him, I would nver wait until marriage to, as you men would say, test dive the merchandise.

If he's in Atlanta, he's probably gay :jester:

 

[helgaleena]

Dear OP,

It matters who you marry as a person, not just what the person has between their legs.

What you like yourself is simply what you like.

You say you want to spend your life with this person, who is female. You are a male and you want children with with her. That makes you at least fifty percent straight.

There was a thread here recently about an Afghan group, the Pashtuns, who believe women are not for pleasure, only reproducing. I learned that in the USA this is called 'on the downlow' and is socially acceptable.

I notice you are not asking for relationship advice, but I am giving it--- Be very clear with your intended about how faithful you are going to be to her. And if you plan on fooling around with persons of eithersex, be prepared to let her do the same. That is only fair and equal.