Straight guys that don't like Vaginas?

[Strontium]

Okay...

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....But, I do NOT like vaginas! They smell funny. They feel weird. And they look strange. They're not beautiful to me like a big cock. She agrees with me that vaginas aren't the prettiest things. I won't mind sticking my cock in her vagina when we do get married, but I currently don't really enjoy fingering her so much, and I would NEVER eat her out (since there's more nerve endings in my fingers than in my cock, I'm sure that I'll be alright fucking her in the future, but for some reason it just feels dirty / filthy to stick my fingers in there).

Basically, my question is, are there any other guys out there that find vaginas a little weird? Even though you are attracted to women, you're not really attracted to vaginas? I mean, I know gay guys don't like 'em, so I'm mainly directing the question at straight guys / bisexual guys. Heck, even the gals can feel free to answer. Feel free to commentate on my sexuality if you want to also.

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Oh boy, what you said doesn't bode well for your married sex life! Two aspects to this: one, your dislike of female genitals; two: your interest in cocks.

I respect your commitment to not having sex till you're married, but really in your case sex before marriage would seem a vital proving ground for whether the marriage will be successful, or not. (I'm likely to buy a few arguments from the right wing conservatives, of which there are hopefully only a few on lpsg).

The fact that you also like cocks may be a big strain in your marriage. I don't think the urge will disappear.

Marriage? hmm, be cautious, and experiment with both sexes beforehand so that you know where you stand, sexually, before taking a vow before God, family and friends.

 

[deleted509196]

Sexuality is a complicated thing. You're certainly not straight, maybe bi on some level but I'm not sure. Another thing I would like to mention though, is if I was a guy and I liked guys, I would only want to do HJs and BJs 'cause stuff to do with asses doesn't appeal to me (sure they can be cute to look at/squeeze but that's it!)... I think you can be gay or bi and just not be interested in that side tbh. Just like that doesn't appeal to a lot of women, OK it appeals to some gay/bi guys but not all. So that doesn't make you not gay/bi.

 

[eyescream]

Marriage? hmm, be cautious, and experiment with both sexes beforehand so that you know where you stand, sexually, before taking a vow before God, family and friends.

I agree with you. Sex after marriage is against the bible. So is divorce.

I personally believe the OP is torn between personal desires and religious commitments. There are a lot of people who decide to start experimenting with others AFTER they've lost their virginity. And in your case, because you plan on doing that after marriage, I think you're playing a dangerous game with yourself.

It's a true dilemma.

 

[Strontium]

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I personally believe the OP is torn between personal desires and religious commitments. ....

Yes, an awful predicament. I lost sleep, literally, and friends, and faith, because of it.

 

[MarkLondon]

I suspect you're more old-fashioned than gay, and that you'll change your mind about vaginas when you've had more (and fuller) experience of them. So far you've only exchanged masturbatory sex with your fiance, you haven't yet experienced what a vagina can do for you. I think you might change your mind when you've been gripped by a silky moist warm and living love-machine.

Come on, in the context of recent western culture, it's only been in the last decade or two that female genitalia have become desirable. Women themselves have needed thing like Cosmo magazine, the Vagina Monologues and Sex And The City (Charlotte forcing herself to look in the mirror held beteeen her legs) to help them appreciate their own bodies.

 

[StrictlyAvg]

I think I started looking at porn mags when I was doing my paper round at 13 and have never tired of looking at the vag since. But it seems to be a not uncommon thing for guys to dislike the aesthetics of the object of their desire, particularly for the younger crowd... Keep looking at them, maybe familiarity will convince you one way or the other!

 

[Chase1600]

Lastly I truly think that you don't need a label straight or bi. If you found someone you are truly happy with then everything should work out. After all there is more to relationships and life than sex. Also the openness you share with each other is awesome, and I wish that I could find someone that I could be like that with.

This is excellent advice.


You don’t mention how old you are. It seems relevant to me because you say you and your girl have been together for 7 years, messing around, but no intercourse. That’s notable.


I can’t imagine that every straight guy is particularly oral, therefore their reaction to vaginas should relate mostly to intercourse. I’ve assumed most straight guys like the aroma of a woman the way I like the aroma of men. So even if a straight guy isn’t much inclined to oral behavior, he might still find the idea of pussy desirable without particularly wanting to taste it and generally liking the smell a bit.


I’ll assume most straight guys do not find other guys cocks very appealing; that they don’t like the idea of the feel of a cock, that they don’t like the taste or smell of a cock, that basically they can get along just fine unaware that other guys got the things.


About not being gay because you like boobies and don’t like arses and would never let a guy penetrate you nor would you want to penetrate a guy.


I’m as queer as they come; I love a good pair of knockers; I’m extremely oral, don’t much care for screwing another guy, usually don’t want to be screwed but – boy oh boy – have I made some exceptions to that rule.


Mostly I’d only consider that I might be gay if there were guys around whom I wanted; if I never really wanted a particular guy, it wouldn’t occur to me to think I’m gay.


And mostly, I think it’s weird that the two of you have been playing around for seven years and haven’t married or done it.

 

[noface60]

Just like one can think that ranch dressing tastes horrible or like a person can think that a certain color that is ugly, I think that sex before marriage is ugly. I think that anal sex is nasty. Ask yourself, why do you love the color blue? Can you come up with a rational answer? This is the same way that I feel when people question my sexuality. There's no real rational way to answer to how I am chemically composed. I am what I am. My sexuality does not fit neatly into the categories of straight or gay. Therefore, I must either be bisexual or asexual. Is sexuality based on just your fantasies, or what you would actually be willing to do in the real world?

There's no "guy" in the real world that I'd ever be willing to be involved with sexually. I mean, I think some guys look nice (just like I think that some girls look nice), but I'd never even think about flirting with anyone other than my partner because I am loyal to her. When I say that I like big cocks, that's all a big cock is to me. It's something pretty to look at. A sexy naked man is something pretty to look at. A sexy naked woman is something pretty to look at. But that's all. None of those things are temptations to me. I understand that they are unattainable and I accept that. No big deal.

I'm not like other people. I cannot break up with my partner. As young as I may be (early 20s), I have found THE ONE. There's no more dating, hook-ups, or anything for the rest of my life. I was done with that over 7 years ago. Break up is not an option. I love her. I love her as a person, not as a tool to use to get orgasms. So regardless of if I don't really like her vagina so much, I still love HER. She is not her vagina! Me saying that I do not like vaginas is not me saying that I do not like girls! I've said it before: sex is not an important part of my life. I could probably go my entire life without sexual intercourse (I've already gotten through a good 1/4th of it just fine!). She couldn't care less. She's been begging me for a fuck for many years now. But I refuse each and every time. And it drives her wild. Why? Maybe I'm crazy. Maybe I'm fucking insane. But we don't cry and bitch about it like other couples. We don't break up over it. Why? Because we love each other. She is willing to accept me for who I am. She is willing to wait for me because I love her and she knows that I love her. That is one of the strongest reasons for me loving her. I know no other person on this planet who could be as patient as her with something like this. People are always so early to fuck, so quick to get it overwith. But she is the one who will wait with me for that special day. But all I know is that when the time comes, I want it to be with her. I do want to please her. Just not so much with my hands, and certainly not with my mouth.

I do agree with those that are saying that over time (once we've fucked), I will probably change my mind on these things. But I still find it hard to see myself eating her out.

 

[Chase1600]

Was there a point to all of this?

You obviously are who you are and have a right to decide how to live your life as best your can. If your girl likes you the way things are, and if you like it the way things are, alright!

There’s no law that says people have to have intercourse. I’m sure there are married couples who never do. It’s odd. So what? I’m a queer. That’s odd too.

I’m old and people older than me didn’t much talk about intimate things; my guess is that among Americans of the sold-called Greatest Generation and prior, oral sexual behavior was much less common. If your grandparents or great-grandparents were typical, I bet they and their predecessors thought much like you. My point being, you’re not necessarily peculiar just because you seem out-of-step with contemporary people who participate in discussions in the Large Penis Support Group forum – of all places.

Next point: there’s always a big difference between what might seem like a good general rule and what seems good in a specific situation. As a general rule, I think it is disconcerting to read that a couple have been messing around quite intimately for 7 years but feel no rush or compulsion to have intercourse.

On the one hand, most parents want their kids to wait, on the other they want their kids to end up in an intimate relationship with someone who is nuts about them and they about him or her.

Just saying: they two of you have drawn a line in the sand that I find disconcerting.

 

[dc46064]

to ges: I usually fantasize about her sucking me off or us touching each other. I look at myself in the mirror and just picture her with me while i jack. but it's more heavily focused on me than her. this could be because I don't know if her body turns me on so much as her actions turn me on. sometimes I picture her touching herself while thinking about me, and that gets me turned on too.

to unabear09: you could be right. i had a similar experience with alcohol. I hated alcohol with all my guts for the first 20 years of my life. Then when I turned 21 and I had my first drink, I loved the drink (Pina colada). maybe I'll like pussy more when I've had sex. I still don't see myself doing oral though.

...I can't see myself having sex before marriage. I just can't do it. I'm fine with that though, remember, sex is no big thing to me really. I just want to father some children and pass on my genes.

Boy, I really dont undersatnd a few things. Your girlfriend has gave u a blow job, you have fucked her tits and fingered her. Whats up with that? I mean, you would do all of that but wouldnt fuck her because you wont have sex till marriage? Havent you already had sex, just havent fucked? Whats the big difference... Just dont understand. Hell, If you dont want to fuck her, maybe u should go out and get some from some where else so you can figure this out.
I will tell you one thing dude! You better make up your mind before you go to long with this women. I am gay. I have been married twice and have lived with my male partner for the last 14 years now. I like breast . I know alot of gay men that like breast. How could you not like them, they gave u life! I dont like the smell or the taste of pussy. Have fucked alot in my time, would rather be with a man. As far as fucking, I dont like to be fucked either. But, I will tell you one of the biggest mistakes that I made in my life was to bring a women in on my sexual situation after we were married. Not fare to that women. Who ever you end up with, u better be honest with all up front, and I mean all...... When it comes out later, and it will( you just talk to much about dick) this will tear her apart. Make sure you tell all, be honest up front. Most women cant handle that. There are a few, but not the norm.
The United States is cool with females being gay, no problem. Gay men and Bi-men have a different situation here. They are not liked and you will have a real different life, usally hated by all around you in the straight world. Be honest to yourself. I didnt leave my second wife till I was 32. I know you wont want to hear this, but we are children until we are 30, hell your brain wont even stop growing until you are 28. Just be honest dude and good luck........

 

[eyescream]

I agree with dc46064 who sounds very wise indeed.

The Bible condemns sex before marriage. The Bible also condemns a man "touching" a woman before marriage in terms of "sexual immorality". You've had oral sex, that's just as bad as vaginal sex.

By definition, a virgin is immaculate and "someone who's never had sex".

If the virgin olive oil I cook with had 10% sunflower oil, margarine, water or anything else in it, it shouldn't be called "virgin" olive oil.

Is your girlfriend aware that you have no intention of going down on her? She is already sexually unsatisfied before marriage (well, you did mention she wants to have sex and you don't), how happy will she be after marriage?

It is a scary situation from my perspective. You've had your toes in the water, you don't like the water yet you're choosing to dive in, headfirst.

 

[D_Portelay Porquesword]

There are some mighty fine looking transvestites who are not planning to have their penises cut off. Maybe you would be happier with a man who likes to bottom, has a great female figure, and looks more female than a normal female?

I understand one of the Baldwin brothers is comfortable with a gorgeous "transexual" who has yet to have the final operation.

Good idea MLB.

I am in the business of DICK. I am particular about the kind of dick that appeals to me but I cannot imagine being a gay man and not liking dick.

I am not judging or criticizing. What I am saying is there is a definite need for further self examination as to what this is about. Could be as simple as being the equivalent of a finicky eater. (No pun intended)

Best of luck with your situation there.

 

[james_o_88]

Hiya.

Don't worry about it. I think you're thinking that ALL gay guys want to be penetrated... Which they don't. I'm ... well... let's not get into that.... Gay but wud try stuff with a girl... Anyways... What i'm trying to say is that i'm gay but don't like being penetrated. I'd rather do it to some1 else. But even then, I can take it or leave it. But you can't really be as final about these things, coz when u're in the moment n it feels right, you just do it...

Don't stress urself worrying about how to categorise youself, just be you mate

x

 

[buzzrider7]

Thanks for further clarification, NoFace. It sounds to like me like you're gravitating more in the direction of asexual at the moment more than anything else. If you're aware of this and feel satisfied with it, then I say go with it. I like the fact that you're open to the possibility that your thoughts probably will change down the road.
It seems to me that the biggest issue here is still not whether you like guys, girls, or neither, but whether your soulmate is comfortable about how you feel and whether she is open to the idea of marrying a man who may not be into vaginal sex with her even after marriage. You haven't mentioned how much of these thoughts you have shared with her. Are you comfortable enough about it to show her this thread? If not, then I think you have some more communicating to do before you start considering marriage. If you have talked to her about it as openly as you have with us and she knows what you're all about, then it sounds like you're doing just fine.

 

[gwmasiahk]

I knew a guy in his young twenties years ago in my hometown in England. He had been dating a girl since their teens. It was so obvious to me that this guy was an outright flaming bottom queen and I couldn't understand how it wasn't so blatantly obvious to everybody else, especially the girlfriend!! I'm sure it actually was but they all seemed so happy in denial, until the actual wedding which ended three short months later!! He now lives happily with his male partner and I'm not sure what happened to her, but it created a lot of hurt all way around at the time. If you truly love her, be honest with your-self and do not hurt other people.

 

[D_Dick_Dock_Doe]

I don't understand how a str8 guy could not like pussy. That's oxymoronic.

BLUE SCREEN OF DEATH!
SYNTAX ERROR!

 

[gwmasiahk]

He's quite apparently not straight, but has many issues dealing with being gay. I feel he's using the fiance as his "beard". If like the couple that I knew (described above) where family and friends are also in denial, it's going to hurt a lot of people eventually, when they all wake up!! I wish that they can all recognize what's going on and come to terms with it earlier.

 

[beachbum1971]

I have a couple thoughts.

1. Not wanting to have sex before marriage is usually based on a religious upbringing. I was raised this way, so I can understand wanting to wait.
2. I didn't wait, because I was too horny, and felt a lot of guilt because of my upbringing.
3. I don't like the taste of pussy, and the only one I've tasted is my own, after my guy pulls out and I give him head. But, I have gotten used to it, because I like giving him head and he loves receiving it.
4. If you love your partner, you should want to make your partner happy too.
5. Maybe if your girlfriend shaves it will make it look more appealing. It does minimize the odor, because the hair holds the scent.

To conclude, I would guess that your religious upbringing has stifled your sexuality, that you are young and dare I say a bit selfish, but if you love this woman, then you need to work through it, go to therapy, or love her enough to let her go to someone who wants to make her happy.
Best of luck to you, in any case.

 

[eyescream]

I have a couple thoughts.

1. Not wanting to have sex before marriage is usually based on a religious upbringing. I was raised this way, so I can understand wanting to wait.
2. I didn't wait, because I was too horny, and felt a lot of guilt because of my upbringing.
3. I don't like the taste of pussy, and the only one I've tasted is my own, after my guy pulls out and I give him head. But, I have gotten used to it, because I like giving him head and he loves receiving it.
4. If you love your partner, you should want to make your partner happy too.
5. Maybe if your girlfriend shaves it will make it look more appealing. It does minimize the odor, because the hair holds the scent.

To conclude, I would guess that your religious upbringing has stifled your sexuality, that you are young and dare I say a bit selfish, but if you love this woman, then you need to work through it, go to therapy, or love her enough to let her go to someone who wants to make her happy.
Best of luck to you, in any case.

That makes sense. I'm straight and the first time I had to give a guy a blow job I thought it was really gross. I even started thinking maybe I wasn't straight.

It took me a while to actually enjoy doing it.

 

[leila85]

my boyfriend was a virgin for a long time. he was questioning his sexuality too. but he *loves* vagina. even showed me a website called vulvavelvet. i was kinda surprised by that.

i also had an ex that claimed he was asexual. he said he just didnt want sex anymore. what he meant was he wanted blowjobs and handjobs but he didn't want to do *anything* to me. we didn't last too long after that lol