Straight guys watching porn together

[Snozzle]

I was chatting last night to someone who has watched porn in the same room as a strait guy, both jerking off. Apparently this is not uncommon between strait guys. I'm curious about the dynamics of this.

I'm gay, so if I watch gay porn with another gay guy, it's by way of having sex with each other, with the movie as a helper. I now get the impression two strait guys can watch strait porn, both jack off, see each other's dicks, and not compromise their identity as strait. (An outsider might disagree....)

What are the rules? Affection but no kissing? Touching but no affection? No touching? No staring? No looking? Talk only about the movie? No noise? Pretend it's not happening? Or are the women on screen enough women to make it anything goes?

And when one of them (you) has a big dick and the other doesn't, does that change things?

 

[findfirefox]

Can there really be "rules"? So what if STRAIGHT guys watch porn together, does that make them gay? Not in my opinion.

 

[ledroit]

I was chatting last night to someone who has watched porn in the same room as a strait guy, both jerking off. Apparently this is not uncommon between strait guys. I'm curious about the dynamics of this.

I'm gay, so if I watch gay porn with another gay guy, it's by way of having sex with each other, with the movie as a helper. I now get the impression two strait guys can watch strait porn, both jack off, see each other's dicks, and not compromise their identity as strait. (An outsider might disagree....)

What are the rules? Affection but no kissing? Touching but no affection? No touching? No staring? No looking? Talk only about the movie? No noise? Pretend it's not happening? Or are the women on screen enough women to make it anything goes?

And when one of them (you) has a big dick and the other doesn't, does that change things?

I don't think there are any rules about this. If you fall in love with guys, and get more emotionally and sexually turned on by them than by women, you are gay. If not, you are bi- or straight.

I personally think men are a little like dogs when it comes to sex. I think we might be more sensitive than women are to sexual contagion. Meaning if somebody else gets horny, we get horny, regardless of what we think about them, or who we want ideally. The thought or sight of some other guy getting off gets us a little competitive. So we shoot to beat him. At least that's what I think.

I'm gay, and have had jerk off contests and sex with straight guys, just for sport. I don't care if they are straight or gay. I like competing sexually. What makes you straight or gay is who you fall in love with, and who you are faithful to. Not who you want to compete with, or even who you enjoy having an orgasm with.

 

[SpeedoGuy]

hmmmm...

Well, I occasionally watched porno videos with other straight guys during my college years. It usually happened during a beer party when no women were present. The guys would sit around, chug beers, and make a few ribald comments about the action on the screen. It was usually pretty dull, really.

I never heard of anyone suggesting a tug session during the video. I sure had no problem wanking alone after going to bed later.

 

[GoneA]

I'm gay, so if I watch gay porn with another gay guy, it's by way of having sex with each other, with the movie as a helper. I now get the impression two strait guys can watch strait porn, both jack off, see each other's dicks, and not compromise their identity as strait. (An outsider might disagree....)

I say certainly not, but it all depends on how comfortable you are in your own skin ... foreskin, that is. :tongue:

And when one of them (you) has a big dick and the other doesn't, does that change things?

Again, all depends. Some people have a great fascination with larger penises; others, however, do not. Surprisingly, as LPSG has so handsomely taught us, it's a great avenue of communication ... that could perhaps be the "change" in "things" to which you refer.

 

[PacknThick]

Watched porn many times with dudes, usually not a whole scene or video. FIrst time was at a buds house with his sisters bf watching it when the sis left. I was in Junior high at the time and we just watched it with tenting boners. I wore briefs at the time. Damn it was tight. Nowadays I've seen two girls double dildo fuck at bachelor parties and we all maintained control with our dicks in our pants. But it wouldnt be gay if we whipped em out and jacked. I agree with the earlier post. If it gets into faithfullness and straight out heavy sex with emotion, its Gay.

 

[D_Coyne Toss]

I've watched porn movies with friends too, and a couple of times we could not manage to keep our cocks in our pants :smile: .

We jerked off at the movie, but each of us touched only his own penis, there wasn't anything sexual between us.

 

[handcuffsfan4]

this realy just asks the definition of stright and gay. if a gay guy is a guy who has sex with men then i guess all men are gay cuse i for one let myself touch my cock. but if its an emotional thing then jerking off to porn with a bunch of guys is just jerking off with a bunch of guys. seriously people now a days are way to centerd on sex. if all of your relationships are based on sex then i pitty you deeply. love is love and sex is sex.

 

[hypolimnas]

I've watched porn movies with friends too, and a couple of times we could not manage to keep our cocks in our pants :smile: .

We jerked off at the movie, but each of us touched only his own penis, there wasn't anything sexual between us.

Same with me and brother, neighbours, buds, cousins. Pretty normal in my view.

 

[D_Kay_Sarah_Sarah]

I think its great that friends can feel that comfortable with each other to be able to do that and unless they are thinking or wanting to touch each other there is no way it insinuates any of them are gay. Granted it would seen weird to me to do it with other girls around, but maybe that just girls being more self concious about what they do

 

[ben11]

hmmmm...

Well, I occasionally watched porno videos with other straight guys during my college years. It usually happened during a beer party when no women were present. The guys would sit around, chug beers, and make a few ribald comments about the action on the screen. It was usually pretty dull, really.

I never heard of anyone suggesting a tug session during the video. I sure had no problem wanking alone after going to bed later.

You and I must have gone to the same school. Synchronized masturbation was not a sanctioned sport for straight guys at my Alma Mater. That was before title IX though.

 

[rippedmuscledad]

I have jacked off with other str8 guys watching hot gang bang porn.... we all have the need and why hide the fact that we need to do it alot....I have many other married buds that we sit around and stroke it watching porn... it's natural and very necessary... Just because you jack openly together dosen't make you gay...:tongue:

 

[zygomatica]

this is an intriguing topic. i wonder how the institution of men masturbating in the company of others varies in different cultures or countries. this seems to have a distinctitive american slant; as many would agree that watching porn together with some kind of exposure, masturbation or intimate conversation is a sort of rite of passage. yet, i would imagine with some men, it could change the dynamic of a relationship.

any comments from people outside the U.S.?

 

[Wonderboy]

I watched porn once with my straight mate. We were sober, I had a new porno video he wanted to see. We were both sober and had cushions covering our cocks.

Neither of us are [or were] gay.

 

[bareamigo]

I've watched porn movies with friends too, and a couple of times we could not manage to keep our cocks in our pants :smile: .

We jerked off at the movie, but each of us touched only his own penis, there wasn't anything sexual between us.

I agree with the Proud Italian--I've done it, and I would say that there ARE rules, unspoken perhaps. The first one being "hands to yourself". And no, it isn't gay. You break that first rule, though and I'll bet your sexuality would be questioned. And no it doesn't mean you're sexually attracted to anyone in the room. You don't even have to be good friends. It IS camaraderie and (I hate to use the word, but) bonding.

Does a big dick change things? Yes. The only time it's fair game to talk about someone else's dick or boner seems to be if it's huge. Generally to compare it to some porn star--or say what you could or couldn't do with a woman with it, etc, etc. So that answers another question--yes, the guy's eyes wander. guess just about everyone's curious!

Been there!
Gabe

 

[B_RoysToy]

hmmmm...

Well, I occasionally watched porno videos with other straight guys during my college years. It usually happened during a beer party when no women were present. The guys would sit around, chug beers, and make a few ribald comments about the action on the screen. It was usually pretty dull, really.

I never heard of anyone suggesting a tug session during the video. I sure had no problem wanking alone after going to bed later.

I identify with your reporting of events, SpeedoGuy. I especially remember the stag party of my newly-pledged-to fraternity where a hetero porno was shown and crotches were tented. Sure, there was some touching by their owners, but no pulling out and play. I was a newly married 24 year old, still denying my gay side, so my erection was saved until after the party.

 

[Pene_Negro_Grande]

Funny I probably have done that like 3 times with 3 different straight guys....One guys jacked off kind of hidden by a pillow but once he really got into it, he really was holding the pillow....Another guy just came out and suggested - lets watch a porno and jack off together....Kind of shocked but curious (started thinking about some of the stories I have read on LPSG.org)....I kind of thought he wanted me to initiate something so I asked him if he wanted me to jack him off but he was like no but after awhile he wanted me play with his hair and rub his hair while he got off....Thought is was a little awkward was like what the hell, I don't mind helping my boy get off....He kind of laid back w/his head in my lap and was giving like a head massage....Dude went wild and shot off like crazy....It was pretty weird but very cool to see a guy get off....The third time was a couple of days ago and one of my closest friends was over and feeling bad about him and his girlfriend breaking up....So we went out to pick up girls so he would get over his ex and he got a little too trashed trying to hook up and wanted to crash on my couch....He was like he was really horny and wished we had got some of the girls to come back with us....Then he was like do you have any pornos and I was like yeah....So I got my best one and threw it in and we started to watch it....I could see how turned on he was getting by watching the porn....He had his boxers on and he kept trying to adjust himself....I kept noticing he was watching me when I was watching the porn....After while he was like turn it off, I can't watch this with you and I don't know what you do to me but I need to leave before something crazy happens and then proceeded to tell me he needed to bang his ex right now so he called her and she actually came and picked him up and it was like 5am at the time....He called me the next day and we hung out and he was like - sorry dude I freaked out like that and you really took good care of me....He was like I know you would not allow me to do anything I wasn't comfortable with....I thought it was funny because I could tell while watching the porno - he was about to jump out his skin....

 

[hypolimnas]

Granted it would seen weird to me to do it with other girls around, but maybe that just girls being more self concious about what they do[/quote]

I have never met a girl who understood, or was interested in, understanding the relationship between a guy's hand and his cock. I think your really have to be a guy. :redface:

 

[Snozzle]

...after awhile he wanted me play with his hair and rub his hair while he got off....Thought is was a little awkward was like what the hell, I don't mind helping my boy get off....He kind of laid back w/his head in my lap and was giving like a head massage....Dude went wild and shot off like crazy....

Funny that, I was reading in Cosmopolitan magazine today about things strait couples could do to each other and one was tidy their hair... said it was like grooming between apes.

 

[Snozzle]

Thanks all. I think I get the idea now. If really strait guys watch porn together, there's a bit of male bonding, the main relationship is between hand and cock, with both concentrating on the porn (and presumably fantasizing that they're the guy on screen, ugly though he usually is).

Sometimes a guy who identifies as strait will have sex with a guy, and even initiate it, but god help anyone who suggests that he is gay (homophobic panic). Is this a risk during the joint porn-watching sessions?