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Agreed.He wants an ego boost, NOT all straight guys assume that gay guys want every male they come across. He's just being an immature douche.
Agreed.He wants an ego boost, NOT all straight guys assume that gay guys want every male they come across. He's just being an immature douche.
Comparing inappropriate comments to tit touching. Congratulations on the stupidest comparison I've ever heard.
I all else fails, try this. :biggrin2:
i tried to ignore it, play it off, laugh it off until last week when i just had to break it down for him. i said "if you were the last man on earth i would start fucking tubes of toothpaste." just because i'm gay doesn't mean i want every man i see.
And in my opinion you're also to blame for this situation.
maxcok said:Don't call my comments stupid, you little twerp. (I also notice you deliberately deleted the question mark in my quote and selectively bolded to make it appear like statement of direct comparison rather than a question. Sleazy on your part.) Nevertheless, I deliberately used an obvious example to demonstrate for you that inappropriate conduct is inappropriate conduct period, and in neither case is the onus on the receiver of the behavior to set "guidelines" for the offender.
maxcok said:Being "out of the loop", as you put it, is no excuse. What if the situation were reversed and marley was hitting on the straight guy? What if that straight guy was you? What if marley was your boss? I ask you as someone who was the victim of persistent sexual harassment by a male boss, who was intimidated at first. When it finally became unbearable, and I stood up and reported him, it was my word against his. Guess who lost his job? Was I to "blame" for him being "out of the loop"?
Marley innocently made a double entendre, his coworker pointed it out and made a joke, and by Marley's own account he laughed. I don't know the extent of the sexual harassment you received at your previous job Max and I'm sorry you got the short end of it, but I just don't see how Marley's coworker is 100% at fault in all this.
Bullshit. You intentionally tampered with my quote to change the intention. It's obvious, and it's transparent.Little twerp? Love it.
And it was a stupid comparison. Apples to oranges. You say an obvious example but I say its more along the lines of outlandish. It's like comparing saying your going to kill someone and then just going out and killing someone. They are both crimes (1 verbal assault the other murder), so why not compare them right? The problem with comparing them is that you have now made the lesser action just as powerful as the extreme one. You might as well say double entendre's in the workplace are the same as masturbating in the lunch room.
And I agree with you on your last point. The onus is not on the receiver. Remarks like that should be shot down immediately, but they weren't. According to the OP he ignored it, played it off, and even laughed it off.
So if I'm at work and someone says "Ryan I need you" as in "I need your assistance for something". For argument sake I say "Oh I'm sure you do" in playful suggestive manner and he/she laughs, am I still at fault the next time I do and he/she flips her lid at me? No guidelines were set with the initial exchange.
Ps. I don't know how the question mark was taken out. Possibly when I was adding in the bold it got erased and without proof reading I just added a period. Completely unintentional and in no way was I trying to take away from what you were saying.
The point of giving you different comparisons was to try to illustrate to your dense little brain that sexual harassment is sexual harassment, plain and simple, and in this day and age there is no excuse for it. These examples are not "apples and oranges", as you say, they are all rotten apples. Regardless of the circumstances, the genders, the orientations, or the dynamics, it is not incumbent upon the victim to set "guidelines" for the offender, as you said, nor is the offender excused for being "out of the loop", as you also said. Why can you not grasp this? You must be an idiot.Once again you are bringing up scenarios that have nothing to do with original incident. Marley is not hitting on this straight guy and the straight guy wasn't hitting on Marley. And for arguments sake let's say Marley was hitting on me at my job. I'd ask him to stop the first time. There.
And what's with this whole boss talk. This man was NOT Marley's boss, he was his co-worker. This man was not in a position of power over Marley.
And let me say this is not some "hey nice dick, nice tits, I wanna fuck you, you wanna fuck me, I hate your boyfriend/girlfriend because I want in that, suck my dick, I'll suck your dick, let's touch dicks, tit grabbing, dick smacking, dry humping, ass slapping, bra snapping" incident.
Marley innocently made a double entendre, his coworker pointed it out and made a joke, and by Marley's own account he laughed. I don't know the extent of the sexual harassment you received at your previous job Max and I'm sorry you got the short end of it, but I just don't see how Marley's coworker is 100% at fault in all this.
What the fuck? Talk about apples and oranges. It doesn't have to vulgar to be harassment either.And let me say this is not some "hey nice dick, nice tits, I wanna fuck you, you wanna fuck me, I hate your boyfriend/girlfriend because I want in that, suck my dick, I'll suck your dick, let's touch dicks, tit grabbing, dick smacking, dry humping, ass slapping, bra snapping" incident.
Give him a break. A lot of us hetero's are a little uncomfortable around gay guys at first. It's a strange new experience that takes some guys a while to get used to. It just might be the easiest way for him to interact with you.
And in my opinion you're also to blame for this situation. You set no guide lines to what talk was appropriate or not. It would be the same as a man saying those things to a woman. She can say "Excuse that's not appropriate talk for work." and curb those comments on the spot.
If you don't let someone know it's inappropriate don't blame for being "out of the loop".
Ditto. And as previously mentioned:I've always found it entertaining that the straight guys who live in terror of gay advances seem to be the least likely to experience just that. :tongue:
The ones who are insecure and read things into it are, often times, not actually entirely straight.
And often the ones who don't have a shot in hell at getting any.
so this coworker of mine takes EVERYTHING i say and turns it into an innuendo, never missing a chance to insinuate that i'm somehow infatuated with him. "can you help me with this" is a come-on. "great job" is a come-on.
i tried to ignore it, play it off, laugh it off until last week when i just had to break it down for him. i said "if you were the last man on earth i would start fucking tubes of toothpaste." just because i'm gay doesn't mean i want every man i see.
Oh get over your damn self.I try to make sexual preference not an issue when talking to people gay or straight but that almost always leads to gay people hitting on me just because i dont treat them differently. And if i try to show that im not interest the just persist to the point that i have to be very rude.
Bullshit. You intentionally tampered with my quote to change the intention. It's obvious, and it's transparent.
The point of giving you different comparisons was to try to illustrate to your dense little brain that sexual harassment is sexual harassment, plain and simple, and in this day and age there is no excuse for it. These examples are not "apples and oranges", as you say, they are all rotten apples. Regardless of the circumstances, the genders, the orientations, or the dynamics, it is not incumbent upon the victim to set "guidelines" for the offender, as you said, nor is the offender excused for being "out of the loop", as you also said. Why can you not grasp this? You must be an idiot.
What the fuck? Talk about apples and oranges. It doesn't have to vulgar to be harassment either.
Way to take it over the top. You are an idiot. A complete idiot.