Straight Guys Who've Been Turned On By A Guy Once In Their Life

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  1. cocktaste

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    Is this true of anyone on LPSG? Were you ever once turned on by a guy, perhaps someone you knew, but never with anyone after that? What was it about them that attracted you?
     
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    Well I wouldn't consider myself completely straight, but I think I know what may be part of the criteria for guys to get turned on by another guy. For me it is a close friendship with a guy I think is attractive and interesting as a person. I have to trust the guy completely that he wouldn't hurt me or use our closeness to manipulate me. I think many guys want a tight friendship but don't know exactly how to go about that without seeming weird. The sexual aspect of the whole thing might come later. The initial vulnerability of one guy to another seems to be the sticking point for most straight guys.
     
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    That's very interesting. I'll be interested to hear if other "straight" men agree...or if they even respond. This isn't a topic without repercussions, so many self-described straight men aren't in a hurry to be labeled as "bisexual" or "bicurious" or anything like that, so they'll be less than eager to share that summer camp experience, or "that time in the steam room when I just closed my eyes and let it happen."

    But I'm hopeful! : )
     
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    Do you mean turned on as in simply fantasized about, or turned on involving some sort of contact with the other person? I would hazard a guess that if drunk enough, nearly all straight men will admit to having the rare fantasy while thinking about being with a man. They'll probably also admit to having fantasies about fucking cartoon characters, robots, vegetables, and maybe cars. All of them will be honest admissions. Or maybe I'm just weird in that I've fantasized about all of those things. Hell, I've rubbed one out to the thought of myself rubbing one out..... That's the only one of my non-hetero fantasies I've acted out in person though.
     
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    I have a number of guys I'm very close to who identify as straight. Although we trust each other completely (in some cases with our lives), allow ourselves to be in vulnerable positions with each other, comfortably hang out naked together, verbally express that we love each other and have very close hugs when we greet and part, I can say almost for sure that the idea of us having a sexual connection is not something that would ever enter their minds. They are sexually turned on by women, not by men, and even though they are able to be intimate with a man as a friend, that does not translate into wanting anything to do with them sexually. I think the same would hold true for 100% gay men who have extremely close female friends. I'm sure these woman have had their fair share of fantasies about being intimate and sexual with these guys, but I can't imagine this ever actually happening in most cases.
     
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    I wasn't always straight. Went through a bi/curious phase, during which, yes, I was turned on by a guy at least once.
     
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    So did you just lose interest? Didn't turn you on? Or does the thought sometimes still cross your mind?

    Please advise.
     
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    That pretty much covers it.
     
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    You can't be sure what goes through their minds, no matter how strongly you feel their heterosexual vibe.

    Just because a man goes to a stripclub to look at naked women all the time doesn't mean he never got turned on by a big dick he saw in a porno (out of sexual jealously, etc). He may never want to do anything with a man in reality, but that one thought of arousal is plenty enough to make you less than 100% straight (safe to say 99.9% are not, unless you're a transsexual lesbian, though, as they're repulsed by men).

    So many men in our society will never confess to same-sex attraction because of the societal taboo - never ever!

    And, no, I'm not saying that all men are secretly gay or bisexual - far from it! It's just that we are still far from a sexually "sophisticated" society (still can't see beyond black-and-white labels, denying out true sexualities and robbing ourselves of pleasures galore).
     
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    The fact that at one time or another, when I've casually expressed how horned up I am, almost all of them have sincerely said something along the lines of "I wish I were attracted to guys so I could help you out!" leads me to believe that they're probably not open to it, even secretly.
    These are just my friends of course, and a very small sample of guys on the whole - I realize that.
     
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    Not attracted to guys at all, but turned on by jerking off with one maybe. Haven't done it though
     
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    That comment doesn't convince me, either (men say lots of things to affirm their heterosexuality).:biggrin1:

    I've made lots of affirmations/declarations in my life that were complete lies (societal pressure, etc); and they were often said jokingly as to appear even more true than true, but were really anything but.

    I'm not saying these male friend are not predominantly very heterosexual, or that they secretly desire to have sex with you, but straight men do have homosoexual thoughts ("jealous" homosexuality, curiosity, emotional reasons, etc), even though some may have little desire to do anything with a man in real life (some of it's due to the societal taboo, some of it's just from their sexual make-up).
     
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    I don't think the issue is about "being attracted to guys", as in all guys or males as a group. What actually has happened in my life is that certain guys have been attracted to me...me as a person, not primarily me as a guy. In that case some supposed straight guys may want to be intimate with me both emotionally and physically. As I've said on here many times, I've had straight guys come on to me at parties when they're wasted and try to make out with me. I think it's about being attracted to individual guys not ALL guys that flips men's switches. The taboo aspect of it is strong. For instance, if I make out with another guy, it's a slippery slope into bisexuality....
     
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    Exactly. This describes to a tee the good group of dudes I've fallen in with since moving out here a few years ago. We're really close and we hug each other in greeting, and as much as we just hang out, we all have pretty solid capacities to talk about serious and vulnerable things. Although they have occasionally joked with me about my dick (not that the jeans that fit my build don't give them ammunition for jokes), I have a hard time believing that any of our friendly contact would turn sexual. I don't even see them that way; they're my friends.

    That said, I don't think "turning on" is the best way to say it, but I think straight guys can concede when another guy looks attractive or has a great build or a huge dick. Just 'cause we're not into it doesn't mean that it goes unnoticed or not discussed. And we know the guy who possesses these things, and we can make that connection.

    It's probably more important to parse out, exactly, what one would do in a situation instead of recognizing an attraction, however innocent it might be.
     
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    To the original poster....sure i have been hot for a few guys..hangin out here will do that to most of us...even had a few jack sessions with guys met on here...watchin how others guys rub one out to me and most guys who care to admit it is harmless guy stuff..kinda like live action porn....most who try it agree..and belive me a few beers and porn out come the cocks...
     
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    Porn is better when there's a guy involved.
     
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    A guy on the screen, or another guy in the room with you?
     
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    On screen, haha. I didn't realize I had to clarify that.
     
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    I consider my self to be striaght, however I very much enjoy looking at well endowed men. While I can also appreciate a guy with a good body, it there equipment that turns me on. I am not emotionally into guys at all. I have guy friends that i am very close to and care dearly for, but I never really find myself wanting to engage them physically.
     
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    Ok so ive been coming on here for years but have never posted (yeah im one of those people sorry) but yes I know exactly what you are talking about, I dont consider myself to be gay or even bi, but I am turned on by the fact that I have such a good guy friend who I do think is an attractive guy, Ive never had sex with him or anything nor have I ever with a guy but I would actually do stuff with him if he made a move too because I do trust him and dont think of it as romantic, more like bonding or something. Dont know how to describe it. So yes I have been turned on by a guy though I would consider myself straight......like straight as a candy cane
     
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