Straight Guys Who've Been Turned On By A Guy Once In Their Life

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Well I wouldn't consider myself completely straight, but I think I know what may be part of the criteria for guys to get turned on by another guy. For me it is a close friendship with a guy I think is attractive and interesting as a person. I have to trust the guy completely that he wouldn't hurt me or use our closeness to manipulate me. I think many guys want a tight friendship but don't know exactly how to go about that without seeming weird. The sexual aspect of the whole thing might come later. The initial vulnerability of one guy to another seems to be the sticking point for most straight guys.
Maybe. I know many straight guys who are on their game, know themselves well where "manipulation" is a silly notion. I love them for that - if they do finally swirl with another guy, it'll be a complete, conscious decision to do so. The "predator" homosexual trying to turn a straight friend out is an outdated fantasy tossed in the trash.
 

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Porn is better when there's a guy involved.


What do you mean by that? You only really like boy-girl porn?

So, it is safe to say that you don't like lesbian porn like me (girls with big titties and fat pussies fucking each other with a dildos and strap-ons)? LOL.
 
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I don't think the issue is about "being attracted to guys", as in all guys or males as a group. What actually has happened in my life is that certain guys have been attracted to me...me as a person, not primarily me as a guy. In that case some supposed straight guys may want to be intimate with me both emotionally and physically. As I've said on here many times, I've had straight guys come on to me at parties when they're wasted and try to make out with me. I think it's about being attracted to individual guys not ALL guys that flips men's switches. The taboo aspect of it is strong. For instance, if I make out with another guy, it's a slippery slope into bisexuality....


What's often interesting about your posts in regards to this issue, is that you really shine light on how complex human sexuality is.

Some people seem to have a very black-and-white sexuality on the surface, but we know underneath, there are zillions of electrical "sexual" wires running in every direction imaginable.
 
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Every now and again someone will present a question that makes my head spin. This thread did just that.
I fortunate enough to had close male friends throughout my life and travels. I have never had sex with a close male friend nor ever had a fantasy or thought about them that had any hint of sexuality.
I have had sex with four men though. Guys I kind of knew, acquintances is the best word. I got to have some form of sex with them and just once with three of them. I was not drunk and was turned on by them even though they were, well, dudes. Two jo sessions. Another basically that but we jo'd each other after a while to completion. The other guy wanted more and that us just jo'ing and I liked it and as he pushed forward for more I willingly went along. It was great sex?!?! The full sex session was nearly twenty years ago and I never repeated it nor sought that level of sex out with another guy since. Yet, it was easily in my top-5 of sexual encounters and having had a "slut" period in my twenties I have been with probably as many as a hundred different lovers - 96 plus would be women.
So, I figure I am 4% bi based upon sheer encounters or 20% bi based upon rankings. lol.
But until read this thread never paused to ponder why that really great sexual experience, a gay experience, was never repeated by me???
 

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What do you mean by that? You only really like boy-girl porn?

So, it is safe to say that you don't like lesbian porn like me (girls with big titties and fat pussies fucking each other with a dildos and strap-ons)? LOL.

Yeah, boy-girl or sometimes even just the guy. I don't know if I'm a selfish lover or something, but it's so much easier for me to be turned on when I imagine I'm the guy and I'm feeling as good as he's feeling on the screen. I dislike most women in porn. They're usually visually unappealing and phony. But, girls in "amateur" porn usually do get me off. They're usually more realistic and hot. But still if it's just one girl, or girl on girl action, I don't quite feel like I'm there with them. And I do love watching a built guy power fuck a girl.
 

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Maybe. I know many straight guys who are on their game, know themselves well where "manipulation" is a silly notion. I love them for that - if they do finally swirl with another guy, it'll be a complete, conscious decision to do so. The "predator" homosexual trying to turn a straight friend out is an outdated fantasy tossed in the trash.

Thehook, I don't see where this has anything to do with a "predator" homosexual, whatever that is. I thought the topic was about straight guys being attracted or interested in each other. Maybe I missed something.
 
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But until read this thread never paused to ponder why that really great sexual experience, a gay experience, was never repeated by me???

Too bad. As for me, I went skydiving once, thought it was the most fun one could have with clothes ON, and yet haven't done it again. I simply need to put it on my priorities list.... No other reason.
 

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They'll probably also admit to having fantasies about fucking cartoon characters, robots, vegetables, and maybe cars. All of them will be honest admissions. Or maybe I'm just weird in that I've fantasized about all of those things. Hell, I've rubbed one out to the thought of myself rubbing one out..... That's the only one of my non-hetero fantasies I've acted out in person though.

Man, I busted up reading this. How true.

I'm definitely in the same boat. The ages of 11 to 16 were pretty wierd.
 

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Is this true of anyone on LPSG? Were you ever once turned on by a guy, perhaps someone you knew, but never with anyone after that? What was it about them that attracted you?

I really just have to say that I believe that this thread has gone somewhere else. I always enjoy such threads, because you can always see and understand different ideas, and why people justify what they do. Can we all be real for a moment? Lets! If you've read, glimpsed over, or responded to this thread, or hell- a member of this forum, you've been turned by a guy AT LEAST once in your life. You know how I know? Because you're a member of this site! No one comes to this site without the intention of experiencing a little bit of pokey poke in their boxers; whether you decide to jerk your poke or fingerbang yourself to someone elses is on you. Lets face it, it's a sausage fest. And you can't just say "Oh, I was bored...", because you could've done something else that wasn't sexual in nature...like facebook!

Some of you discuss how close you are with some of your male friends, and how they'd never think of messing around with a guy, and you'd just never cross those boundaries. I'll try to believe that it's never crossed some of your minds- I only say that because we all know how much some people on this site fucking lie. But I don't believe that it's never crossed any of the minds of your friends. I don't know your friends from Adam, but your Aunte' Dante' does know people. And I will tell you straight up that everyone on this planet has either done something or had a thought that they wouldn't even tell their own mother on her death bed out of fear of judgment, disappointment, and rejection. And if we were to share such information, it would be with someone or a group of people who either play no role in our day to day lives, or are less likely to have a negative impact on our lives.

Some of you may say that you're straight and you're not really into guys, but I've seen your whisper fails to other guys and watched you request cam2cam with other "straight" guys in the chatroom. I identify as gay, but I am sexually bisexual. I'm not into dating women, but it's the beauty that a woman possesses on the inside that turns me on, not the outside- it hasn't stopped me from lubing up, bottoming out, and wrecking her walls. Call that shit for what it is, Boo Boo!

And even if you feel that you just know these things with your friends, I'm willing to bet that either a select few, or none of your friends for that matter, know that you do the following: Get on this site. Post pictures and videos of your junk. Comment and rate the junk of others(some of you). And from time to time, jerk off with or get off to another man(again, some of you). If they don't know any of that about you, what makes them any different?

At the end of the day, what we all have in common is that we all have our own perceptions of life and we all possess information some piece of information that we keep from others, even those we love the most.
 

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Human sexuality is complex. It isn't a black and white issue. Most people fall somewhere on the spectrum between totally straight and totally gay with the majority of us just left or right of the middle. So yeah, you can identify as predominantly straight and still have some attraction to the same sex. Likewise, a gay man can feel sexual attraction for females. Do we have to label it? A wise man once said, "a hard dick has no conscience."
 

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Yes, he was petite, looked like he had a A-cup, hairless bod, long hair with a tiny uncut cock and a perfect fem bod and fem face. I guess he could be considered a trans,ts,twink, whatever....He/she said he was just a freak, but a pretty one.

Does that count?
 
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I've participated in a couple of other threads that were related to this topic. The term "bromance" comes to mind here after reading many postings. I consider myself straight in the sense that I've only been with women and am happily married. I will never know what it's like to be with another guy in reality, so I have fantasized about it many times.
I had an intense "bromance" with a friend of mine about 19 years ago. A few times, we came very close to being intimate with each other, but then backed off out of fear. When I was younger, it was much different than it is today. The worst thing a guy could be called back then was "gay", so many guys I knew back then who were gay remained in the closet. They only came out years later when the shame and stigma was not as severe. I always had a surface attraction to some guys in the sense that I thought they were good looking, but didn't really want to do anything sexual with them. However, my one true bromance brought me very close to it on more than one occassion (usually when we were both loaded and our guards came down). I backed off out of fear that it would destroy our friendship and that my fraternity brothers (who were my entire social circle back then) would find out because my bromance partner knew many of them as well even though he wasn't in my fraternity. The strange thing is that even though we didn't do anything physical with each other, our friendship ended anyways. My fraternity brothers also have disappeared from my life over time. When he and I first met, I didn't find him physically attractive at all on a surface level like I had with other guys I met. As our friendship developed and intensified over time, I had began to have massively strong feelings for him that were very confusing for me. I know he did have strong feelings for me as well, but I think that he was also afraid to act on them because of a long term relationship he was in with a woman. I have always wondered what would have happened though if we had just gone for it. Who knows? I can honestly say though that he is the only guy I could have considered trying a M2M relationship with even though I have been physically attracted to many men over the years. He married the woman that he was in the relationship with when we were good friends about 16 years ago. The last time I saw him was at my wedding reception almost 8 years ago. He completely changed towards me after that. I tried to remain friends with him, but our friendship pretty much ended a short time later because he was always angry and terse towards me over the phone and via e-mail. I always wondered if it was out of jealousy that he acted this way. It was like he was mad at me for getting married even though he had done the same thing 8 years before I did! I do remember that a couple of times he got really possessive of me when we were friends in university, and would get mad if I was out with my fraternity brothers when he called. It doesn't make sense, but it is what it is. I still miss the guy terribly, but I remind myself that I miss the guy he was, not the guy he is today.
 
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AG09: Sounds like he may have had really strong feelings for you as well, he maybe even was in love with you. Maybe he married to be safe, and regreted it latter. Then you got married so that killed any hope of him getting with you. Funny how love can turn so quickly to anger. Thanks for sharing that. Don't you think it's kind of sad that we are so worried about how others think about us that we make ourselves miss out on things? These things always present themselves when we are younger and we inveritably walk away only to spend years looking back and wondering "what if?". It's just sex, it doesn't always define who you are.
 
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AG09: Sounds like he may have had really strong feelings for you as well, he maybe even was in love with you. Maybe he married to be safe, and regreted it latter. Then you got married so that killed any hope of him getting with you. Funny how love can turn so quickly to anger. Thanks for sharing that. Don't you think it's kind of sad that we are so worried about how others think about us that we make ourselves miss out on things? These things always present themselves when we are younger and we inveritably walk away only to spend years looking back and wondering "what if?". It's just sex, it doesn't always define who you are.

I'm so full of shit. As if I know anything about anything.

I think you are correct DQSundae. I think he did marry for a sense of safety, and later regretted his decision. As I mentioned, he married long before I did even though he was about 2 years younger than me. He seemed to really resent the experiences and fun I was having as a single guy. He told one of my fraternity brothers that he lived vicariously through me. I know that he and his girlfriend cheated on each other when they were dating, so I don't think they were exactly a match made in heaven. Him and I were in bed together the night of his stag because we were both drunk, needed a place to crash, and the bed was far more comfortable than the floor. That night he pulled me on top of him, and stroked my hair, face and back. He then later reached into my boxers, began to fondle my balls and rub my penis. He then pulled back. The next morning he denied that anything at all happened, immediately changed the subject, and called his fiance to tell her how much he loved her. Fast forward to a couple of year later when I was living in a different part of the country, and he and his wife came out to visit me. I was still single then. After heading to a bar that night, we came back to where they were staying to crash for the night. I slept on the floor beside their bed, so he and his wife could sleep in the only bed. In the middle of the night I felt his hand slip into mine. He interlaced his fingers between mine and it remained there for the rest of the night. I know that he absolutely had feelings for me that he couldn't come to terms with.

I guess the difference with this guy and other guys that I have been physically attracted to is that I felt an emotional connection with him that I had only ever felt with women before, not men. This is why I chose to live my life as a straight man. I just never felt an emotional connection with guys before except for him. With other guys, it was just a raw physical thing, but they second they opened their mouths, I immediately lost interest. With my bromance partner, we connected on every level possible.

I absolutely agree with what you said "Don't you think it's kind of sad that we are so worried about how others think about us that we make ourselves miss out on things? These things always present themselves when we are younger and we inveritably walk away only to spend years looking back and wondering "what if?"." This is so true.

Cheers! :cool:
 

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I think you are correct DQSundae. I think he did marry for a sense of safety, and later regretted his decision. As I mentioned, he married long before I did even though he was about 2 years younger than me. He seemed to really resent the experiences and fun I was having as a single guy. He told one of my fraternity brothers that he lived vicariously through me. I know that he and his girlfriend cheated on each other when they were dating, so I don't think they were exactly a match made in heaven. Him and I were in bed together the night of his stag because we were both drunk, needed a place to crash, and the bed was far more comfortable than the floor. That night he pulled me on top of him, and stroked my hair, face and back. He then later reached into my boxers, began to fondle my balls and rub my penis. He then pulled back. The next morning he denied that anything at all happened, immediately changed the subject, and called his fiance to tell her how much he loved her. Fast forward to a couple of year later when I was living in a different part of the country, and he and his wife came out to visit me. I was still single then. After heading to a bar that night, we came back to where they were staying to crash for the night. I slept on the floor beside their bed, so he and his wife could sleep in the only bed. In the middle of the night I felt his hand slip into mine. He interlaced his fingers between mine and it remained there for the rest of the night. I know that he absolutely had feelings for me that he couldn't come to terms with.

Poignant, sad, pathetic, and worst of all, apparently not uncommon.
 
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Poignant, sad, pathetic, and worst of all, apparently not uncommon.

I've participated in a couple of other threads that were related to this topic. The term "bromance" comes to mind here after reading many postings. I consider myself straight in the sense that I've only been with women and am happily married. I will never know what it's like to be with another guy in reality, so I have fantasized about it many times.
I had an intense "bromance" with a friend of mine about 19 years ago. A few times, we came very close to being intimate with each other, but then backed off out of fear. When I was younger, it was much different than it is today. The worst thing a guy could be called back then was "gay", so many guys I knew back then who were gay remained in the closet. They only came out years later when the shame and stigma was not as severe. I always had a surface attraction to some guys in the sense that I thought they were good looking, but didn't really want to do anything sexual with them. However, my one true bromance brought me very close to it on more than one occassion (usually when we were both loaded and our guards came down). I backed off out of fear that it would destroy our friendship and that my fraternity brothers (who were my entire social circle back then) would find out because my bromance partner knew many of them as well even though he wasn't in my fraternity. The strange thing is that even though we didn't do anything physical with each other, our friendship ended anyways. My fraternity brothers also have disappeared from my life over time. When he and I first met, I didn't find him physically attractive at all on a surface level like I had with other guys I met. As our friendship developed and intensified over time, I had began to have massively strong feelings for him that were very confusing for me. I know he did have strong feelings for me as well, but I think that he was also afraid to act on them because of a long term relationship he was in with a woman. I have always wondered what would have happened though if we had just gone for it. Who knows? I can honestly say though that he is the only guy I could have considered trying a M2M relationship with even though I have been physically attracted to many men over the years. He married the woman that he was in the relationship with when we were good friends about 16 years ago. The last time I saw him was at my wedding reception almost 8 years ago. He completely changed towards me after that. I tried to remain friends with him, but our friendship pretty much ended a short time later because he was always angry and terse towards me over the phone and via e-mail. I always wondered if it was out of jealousy that he acted this way. It was like he was mad at me for getting married even though he had done the same thing 8 years before I did! I do remember that a couple of times he got really possessive of me when we were friends in university, and would get mad if I was out with my fraternity brothers when he called. It doesn't make sense, but it is what it is. I still miss the guy terribly, but I remind myself that I miss the guy he was, not the guy he is today.

As I mentioned in my original post Swede82, it was a different time back then. I was far more open back then than many of my friends were. I had no trouble hugging other guys, giving a friendly kiss on the cheek to close guy friends and telling them that I loved them. This wasn't a gay thing, it was just me expressing how I felt. I can't say though that many of my guy friends were as open towards me out of fear of being labelled "gay". One friend of mine ansolutely refused to hug another guy because he was so intensely homophobic. Since graduating, 4 fraternity brothers of mine came out of the closet that I know of, probably more that I don't because I lost contact with them.

I had hoped that by broaching the subject with my bromance the morning after his stag, something would come of it, but he completely shut down on me and refused to even acknowledge it. When we travelled overseas together before that I tried to bring up the subject, but he wouldn't deal with it at all. After many attempts to stay friends after we were both married, I had to give up on him because he became so nasty towards me.

Sexuality and life is not always black and white. This is the reason why I don't state a percentage in my avatar. I just am what I am and don't judge others for what they are. At my age now, I just don't give a fuck what others think anymore.