straight man gay porn?

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  1. badgirl22

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    Can any of you help me understand why a straight man would want to watch gay porn? Does it mean he's really gay or bi? I know as a straight woman I find gay porn actually more interesting to watch than straight porn and I'm certainly not a gay male. But, is it the same for a man? Just wondering...I appreciate all opinions - I'm really perplexed
     
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    Everyone gets excited their own way. If he says he is straight but you both like watching gay porn, who cares. Enjoy each other. I have friends who like watching two women and I have friends who hate it. I have friends who hate porn (if you can imagine) and others , like myself, who love it. If he starts fucking you in the ass only and starts calling you Bob or Chuck, then we have problem. :eek:)
     
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    And by problem I meant relationship wise because he is gay. Not that being gay is a problem. hahaha I have to be politically correct, someone might take me out of context. :eek:)
     
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    What if its supposed to be a secret - the person doesn't know anyone knows?
     
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    It could be curiosity. Also, perhaps because it's taboo territory.
     
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    he loves the cock. simple
     
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    I would say I am practically heterosexual... in that I only am interested in a relationship with a woman... and I prefer sex with women.

    But I love gay porn.

    In my case, it is largely because, as a kid, I was conditioned to respond to penises thru a long term molestation.
    As I got older, I found that, while I liked sex with a guy... that I liked the cock, and the sexual act... I really was not drawn to men emotionally at all.

    I started dating girls and that is where I have my most satisfying relationships.

    But I am left with the fact that, at a formative age, my brain got wired to respond sexually to cocks.
    I like porn with women in it too, but I can not deny that I still have this hard wired response.

    If your guy likes gay porn... and he doesn't know you know... you might try easing him into being more open by picking out some bisexual MMF videos and telling him that you get turned on by watching the man on man stuff.


    But I would say that interest in gay porn by a guy is either evidence of some past homosexual experience, or a warming to the idea of a future experience...
     
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    Could it not be that perhaps you are bisexual, have been since birth and always would have been, whether the molestation occurred or not?

    And that it was in fact the molestation that rendered you unable to form emotional/sexual bonds with men?

    It's important to think about things on the flip-side sometimes. You might actually be more capable of forming emotional bonds with men than you're aware of.
     
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    hmm...i think if a guy is secretly into gay porn, he's either gay or bi, OR he'd like to be & doesn't have the balls to do it...

    just my opinion...
     
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    Hmm...This is a tricky one. I personally don't know of any straight guys who watch gay porn. However I do know of gay guys who watch straight porn......but there's usually a hot guy/cock involved. I would say that if a guy who is at least practically heterosexual (which means he only practices heterosexual sex) that he is curious and turned on by the sight of attractive sexy men. There's nothing wrong with that. It doesn't mean he is interested in or would ever do anything with another guy. Guys get turned on by another guy's hard on. Plain and simple. I'm a gay guy and I get turned on by women occasionally. When it came down to it I can't see myself having sex with a girl. There is nothing wrong with a guy wanting to see what homo sex is all about. Watching gay porn is a healthy risk free way to do it. I bet you could throw a rock in any direction and hit a guy who has at least watched gay porn if not already experimented with guys. So there's my two cents!
     
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    I form emotional bonds with men just fine... Very close and very dear friendships that have lasted decades. I still am close with the guys I hung out with in High School, 35 years later.

    I am fortunate in that I did not carry away any anger or ill feeling about the experience... in fact I usually refer to it as a 'quasi'- molestation... simply because I fully recognize that i had the power to stop it at any time... and I don't even mean by 'telling' on them... I mean I simply did not have to go over there every day after school for 2 years....

    I did because I was raised Catholic and had an intense curiosity in everything sexual... I kept going because it was so forbidden and so secret... and I kept going because it was intensely pleasurable...

    But those were all just physical sensations and suppressed sexual curiosity.
    I never kissed a guy, and never have I felt the slightest inclination to kiss a guy. While I would stare, drooling and slack jawed at a well made cock, I never turn my head to gaze at men walking down the street...

    But I have all these emotional responses to women... this yarning and delight in their company, this fascination in them as persons...
    So I see myself as genuinely preferring women... even though I know that sex with guys is just as, if not more pleasurable, physically... it is not as pleasurable emotionally...

    That being said... I have never regretted or wished I had not had the experiences I had at that young age. It was, if nothing else, eye opening.


    However... As to your point about being bisexual... I think EVERY man is born bisexual within a range of preferential leaning... one way or the other... What we call homosexual is just that 10% that overwhelmingly prefers men. And I would venture to say that only 10% overwhelming prefer women.

    And the rest of us fall somewhere on the spectrum between those extremes... most of those who are 30 or 40% gay inclined choose to live heterosexual lives simply because it is easier to live that life in this culture.


    I would say that I got seduced into the molestation at least in part due to that inborn flexibility of sexuality that most males have.

    And, I would say that early experience tends to crystalize the final nature of that sexuality.

    I would recommend the OP discuss with their guy the guy's feelings and whether they relate to something that happened in his past... or something he wishes for in his future.
     
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    If, as you say, he watches it in secret, well, he is in the closet then. With all the straight guys on this site saying that no way would they ever let another guy suck him off or there is not enough money for them to appear in gay porn, I get their point, straight is straight and they never stray from that opinion. So if this guy claims he is straight and yet watches gay porn...well, okay, I'll give him bi-curious.
     
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    Well some gay porn is erotic. I'm not sure exactly why though. I find that I relate better to the gay stuff if it's romantic. I'm just the opposite of a lot of guys who are only interested in the dick part. I think it's erotic if two attractive guys make out. It's not heavy masturbation material but more just emotionally exciting. Maybe it's the forbidden factor or the aspect of the vulnerability of men to each other. I like to use the example of the film "Brokeback Mountain" when the main characters were making out. I would say it's a very liberating thing to watch.
     
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    very relevant points Phil. thanks for explaining more!

    is there ever a 'final nature' to sexuality?
     
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    at a certain time in your youth, the brain is particularly plastic... if not exposed to language by age 3... you will never be able to master language...
    and your sexuality is similarly being defined by early experiences... this is part of how humans have such adaptability in the face of changing circumstances and times.

    I don't think our sexuality is ever really FINAL... but our options DO narrow based upon how the brain is permanently wired in youth.
     
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    There are a LOT of guys who are switch hitters and I ain't talkign baseball. Just look at all of the "Str8" guys postings on Craigslist looking for another dude to suck their dick or fuck them in the ass. lol
     
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    MSN.com had an article about this a while back.

    Basically it boils down to Men are Goofy and Self-Conscious. I was confused for a few but after trying it, and disliking it PROFUSELY, I was sure i wasn't gay and/or bi. I just "Wished I could be like them"

    the article stated that Some men have "self-esteem" issues which can manifest in the desire to watch a man, more handsome than them, in action.

    Honestly, I dunno. I'm not gay, I'm not Bi, but i'm here on this gay site doing what? Talking with guys about how to care for these penises we've got and catching a peek here and there.

    Maybe there's something wrong with me.

    I've recently found www.NextDoorHookups.com but I've also been trying to give up porn... so Catch 22
     
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    all men are obsessed and fascinated with their own cocks, we can´t stop playing with it, so i find it rather normal for a straight guy to be somewhat curious about other dicks as well...that´s my take.
     
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    i dunno, but i like man's ass...haha
     
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    I think for a man to be totally heterosexual(absolutely void of any homosexual thoughts or inclinations), he would have to be void of admiration, envy, and covetousness which are universal human emotions that know no gender. We are all worshiping animals. Gay to me means to be given up to universal homosexual inclinations and out with it. Many men have homosexual capacity but don't act out on it, which spells straight.
     
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