I get why the gay community is fighting for gay marriage, it's the most blatant, government based discrimination that there is. And so clearly unconstitutional that it should be an easy target... (should). But my question is, Why does the government have anything to do with it all. If it's sacred to you, go to you church and get married. Why get the government involved with it? Do you need government approval? As a gay man, the thought of getting married makes all the blood drain out of my head. I'm not against committment to another or many people. I just don't feel any need to pattern my relationships after the failed straight institution of marriage. My commitments will be of my choosing. It may be with 5 or more people who live in a polymorphous situation. Our wedding may be a naked gathering on the full moon in the woods, exchanging cock rings and fucking like animals on the ground. tax incentives, licensing, etc... it's all just creepy social control. Like China telling people they can only have one child. this should be considered the most outrageous violation of the seperation of church and state. the simple fact that churches can decide who they will and wont marry is enough of a reason to ban any and all marriage law... for straight or gay. Again, I ask... why does the govenment have anything to do with our relationships at all...?