madame_zora said:
This is stupid heterosexual male thinking alrighty. I swear, most of the time I hate being straight. Nonetheless, there it is- not a gay bone in my body, more's the pity. Yes, it's men forcing us into their fantasy roles, and it certainly helps them not to think of us as real people. My favorite (and this happens more often than I'd like to think about) is when some fucktard finds out I have a grown daughter and asks if we could have a threesome! Can you believe that shit? I swear, there aren't enough guns in this world.
Very few women know how much most guys despise us. Work in enough male dominated places and smoke cigarettes, and you find out soon enough that we're all useless twats. Of course, that would be sadder if they didn't have a lot of good points. Men think of women in the basest of terms, but women do little to discourage that belief.
I agree with your sentiments in the first paragraph, I'll reload for ya...but the second is seriously harsh...and as generalised. I'm sure some men do despise some or in rare cases all women (fools!) and v.v. but not most, and I doubt that anything women could do would make any substantive change in the attitudes of such people. Why should women (or men for that matter) try to pigeonhole themselves into something more palatable to those making such an assessment? They shouldn't but we live in rather a 'labelled' world and I have seen it happen and it saddens me.
I'd like to believe I don't 'despise' anyone. It's such a waste of emotion and demands a level of detirmination I can't maintain. There are women I dislike, as there are men, but that is related to how they seem to me as a person and/or their interactions with me but not related to their gender or sexuality.
As for watching two women 'getting it on' I honestly wonder if it's largely an hyped myth that it's an ulimate fantasy for all or most men who may then fear appearing somehow less 'masculine' if they don't perpetuate it.
On a more basic level it may be also as much a case of 'fnarr fnarr' as it is one of
genuine desire. I
will say that for me it's certainly a more appealing concept visually and pyschologically at least on a superficial level than two men, perhaps it's because I am subconciously visualising myself as one of them (not
as a women) whereas with two men, I really can't do that. It's not the easiest thing to articulate in a few sentences. That's theory, reality may be different, but I can't speak from experience there!
Pressurising women (or men for that matter) to partake in activities that make them uncomfortable, for ones own gratification well whichever way you cut it's just plain wrong, well it is to me anyway!