straight men fascinated by big penis?

[pepinogrande]

Even St Paul said, "No man hates his own flesh".

I think that 2,000 years later...we're still fascinated...and still making sure that we received as much "flesh" as did other men !

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[D_MastaBaiter]

I think they are in awe of what they probably do not have... to every man, his cock is the center of his being, right? Hence the interest or fascination aspect..... If they do possess a ginormous one, there is still the comparison factor...alpha male bit...

House21 said, "My "theory" for what it's worth is that when men watch porn, the male actor becomes the "surrogate" for us, (written from the straight perspective). In our fantasy world the woman we're watching is having a great time with a well hung guy who on a fantasy level we imagine as ourselves."

I like both statements, because they have the central points of where I'm at with straight men being fascinated with big penises. It is about the comparison factor and alpha male. Size matters for us. I mean I'm 6' 2" 230 lbs, but when I see a guy who's 6' 5" and 250 lbs, there are times I desire to be that big and tall. We want to be the biggest and best, especially when it comes to sex and our dicks. I don't think it's at the center of our being, but it's definitely hardwired into us. I think when we aren't the biggest and best, then we fantasize about it and live vicariously through porn. I know when I'm not watching porn and I fantasize, it still centers around the woman thinking I have a big dick and that I'm the greatest thing since sliced bread. That I give her an orgasm everytime and she can't wait to have sex with me again.

 

[Gecko4lif]

I too fall into the "I like watching big dicks" category. I've got no desire whatsoever to be with a man, but when I'm watching porn I always go for big natural tits and big dicks. My "theory" for what it's worth is that when men watch porn, the male actor becomes the "surrogate" for us, (written from the straight perspective). In our fantasy world the woman we're watching is having a great time with a well hung guy who on a fantasy level we imagine as ourselves. As a converse, imagine watching a porn video where the woman is having a great time, but the male actor is below average. No matter how much fun the actress is having, I wouldn't want to be the guy with the 4" penis.

At the end of the day, I think men watching straight porn where the actors are well hung is a simple matter of marketing. As guys we want to be big because society tells us bigger is better and we want to fantasize about women enjoying how big we are. The rub is that for the most part women don't care about size as long as you aren't in the extremes either way.

If Im taking time out of my day to watch porn I want to see a chick rammed with the biggest cock possible. If your gonna do something do it right

 

[ksrsoze]

(See quote below**)

This is the way I look at it. Sexuality is made up of three parts: behavior, desires and identity. As I read the posts in this thread I see that most of the guys have some homo' behavior, but no homo' desires (emotional/romantic) and no gay identity (identify by self and others as hetero'. I see that guys can have one, two or all three parts towards guys. And just because he has one or two area towards guys does not mean he is gay. Making sense?



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Yeah I get that...

 

[pepinogrande]

My insight would follow BF Skinner's at Harvard:

"The weaker the response...the higher you need to make the stimulus".

1. I as a person that is at least 99 percent gay, have no interest in tit....unless there is something really unusually large about them.

2. Consequently, I think it follows that for many men who are ESSENTIALLY straight, the only cocks that would stimulate them would be very large or very tick...again a stronger stimulus in Skinner's words.

3.Now, as a gay..i love big dicks to jack off with....but, hate giving a blow-job to some one big....it's too uncomfortable. My BJ preference is small, super-clean and beautifully shaped.

4. I've never been f-kd and have never licked anything or gotten into F kissing. Just zero interest and I've had sex well over 10,000 times. I'm in perfect health and still horny as hell.

5. Check out my pics...I'm still usually so hard i'm breaking-off...a number of times a day. But I'm just kind of different from the norm that stereotypes us.

Thanks
bud

 

[ManchesterTom]

In part for me it has to do with the fact that I have a stressful job in the service industry at which I am the boss. When I come home, I'm the boss again.
My cock fascination has something to do with a desire to be dominated and made to feel like I'm no longer in charge. Like someone else has everything under control and my job is simply to keep that person happy so that he can do his job, which is maybe something like be the man with the big dick; the pack leader.

I think many people feel this way.

In a way I sometimes feel that after a long week of work, it would be very nice to be on the receiving end of sex rather than the person taking the active part.

I have heard it said that many "mostly" straight men who occasionally dabble in same sex activities have a desire to be the passive partner.

 

[jujube]

I have heard it said that many "mostly" straight men who occasionally dabble in same sex activities have a desire to be the passive partner.

This has been true in my experience. Most bi guys I know personally are preferentially or exclusively bottoms in their homosexual relationships.

 

[D_Jess_Kilme]

By the way....

I wish people would allow others to express their feelings/emotions without labeling them, without suggesting they're in denial about their sexuality, etc. With some guys, yes, they are closeted gays or bisexuals. With other guys, not. Who knows? Just let other guys say how they feel and don't judge them.

That about summs it up Henry Miller.

Homophobia is a curse that needs to be eradicated because it is a social construct of puritan society aimed at controlling people and their sexuality - suppressing instinctiveness in sexual expression. Makes people more pliable by the dark forces of dominator society!

But equally I find this constant whinning, especially by people who self-identify as gay, about the "real" sexual identity of people who self-identify as straight but are attracted at some level to people of the same gender, to be cumbersome and tedious.

HungJohn, you are usually such a thoughful guy. I am an ardent follower of all of your posts because you usually make sense. But on this topic you are just plain wrong. I expected more from you. But I still love you :wink:.

Sexuality is far too complex to assume that all of the billions of humans on earth can neatly fit into one of three little boxes - straight, bi and gay. We are all men - and that is about all that is universally common ito our sexuality.

My sexual and emotional make-up is like a giant puzzle. The woman in my life bring certain pices of the puzzle to the table. The men bring other pieces to the table. Somehow for me the men and women cannot ever bring the same pieces to the table. On their own neither can ever complete the full puzzle. But put their respective contributions to the puzzle together, and the confusing puzzle becomes a beautifull and clear picture of me.

But that is just me. I fully accept that HungJohn and others who share his perspective on this matter have an equally valid but different formula for their sexual make-up and the completion of the puzzle. And that is great and what makes us men such an interresting bunch.

The reality is that people are what they think they are and claim to be.

Let them be!

 

[Pecker Check]

Alexander Pope: "It is with our judgments as with our watches: no two go just alike, yet each believes his own."

A guy says he only fantasizes about sex with women, only wants sex with women, couldn't imagine kissing a man, and yet he is greatly fixated on other guys' cocks. He concludes that he is straight. As best I can remember I have only had one sexual dream or fantasy about a woman (it happened nearly 50 years ago when I was in college. And have been fixated on other guys' cocks since I can first remember. BTW, I was married to a woman for seven years in a hopeless attempt to "make" myself become "normal." I managed to have sex with my wife mainly by fantasizing about other men doing what I was doing. But here's an interesting thing: I don't particularly like kissing men -- or anybody else -- in a passionate way. I'll give either a man or a woman a quick little peck, but it's essentially asexual in either case. And I consider myself about as far to the gay side of the spectrum as one can be.

My conclusion: It is with our sexuality as our watches, no two go just alike, but each of us sometimes sees the world through his or her own.

 

[D_Jess_Kilme]

Alexander Pope: "It is with our judgments as with our watches: no two go just alike, yet each believes his own."

A guy says he only fantasizes about sex with women, only wants sex with women, couldn't imagine kissing a man, and yet he is greatly fixated on other guys' cocks. He concludes that he is straight. As best I can remember I have only had one sexual dream or fantasy about a woman (it happened nearly 50 years ago when I was in college. And have been fixated on other guys' cocks since I can first remember. BTW, I was married to a woman for seven years in a hopeless attempt to "make" myself become "normal." I managed to have sex with my wife mainly by fantasizing about other men doing what I was doing. But here's an interesting thing: I don't particularly like kissing men -- or anybody else -- in a passionate way. I'll give either a man or a woman a quick little peck, but it's essentially asexual in either case. And I consider myself about as far to the gay side of the spectrum as one can be.

My conclusion: It is with our sexuality as our watches, no two go just alike, but each of us sometimes sees the world through his or her own.

Amen Brother!

 

[tiger61]

why are straight men fascinated by big cocks? i do not think thay want sex from me but just fascinated by a big cock.

Well, penis size is something that we all want more of. Just like women want guys to be fascinated when we see their breasts or butt (which is why so many clothes accent those qualities), we want women to be impressed when they see our penis.

"oh it is so big"
"I'm not sure it will fit"
"Wow! I haven't seen one this huge"

those are things every guy would love to hear. True? Well, I have never had any woman tell me those things, and I doubt I ever will, because mine is smaller than average. I actually had one woman tell me that she was worried that should would even feel anything (she told me this much later of course, and not at the height of the moment).

So I guess that us guys with below average penis sizes fascinate on what it would be like to have that large cock. To have our women brag about it to their friends and to have their eyes get big with amazement as they see it or have it enter them the first time.

Just like smaller chested women get surgery because they want larger boobs to get that "WOW" factor, us guys would like the same for our penis. So in answer to your question, I think that we are living out our dream in a way through the large penis guys in this world. That is my opinion anyway.

 

[D_Dewey_DeLong]

I am becoming increasingly aware that many men here (lpsg) have a partialism -

"Partialism refers to a sexual interest with an exclusive focus of a specific part of the body.[1] Partialism is categorized as a paraphilia in the DSM-IV-TR of the American Psychiatric Association.[2] Individuals with partialism sometimes describe the anatomy of interest to them as having erotic attraction for them "

With this defined - I think a dude can have an erotic attraction to the male penis and not be gay, because there is not homo-romantic or gay-identity.

 

[LeftCoast]

As a gay man I can safely say that I look at pictures of big cocks or men with great bodies out of envy or admiration more often than out of sexual desire. I read Men's Health and Men's Fitness not as jack off material but as a source of inspiration. Sometimes I'm attracted and sometimes not. The same with dick pix.

I would like to say I appreciate reading about straight men discussing this subject without freaking out.

 

[D_Cock_Hudson]

I think many men compare sizes probably out of concern that they are 'normal' at least.

 

[malito]

Great question. I am definitely fascinated by big dicks. However, I cannot think about kissing a man. Still, I think about sucking a big dick or stroking one all the time. It feels really foreign and I swear to god I do not feel gay in the sense of how I know I think about women. I find them totally delicious and want to hook up and connect with women regardless of how pretty or fit they may be. Guys, however, feel weird and I have yet to feel that feeling to go to the next level when one on one. I check craigslist for hookups and think about pulling the trigger but I'm concerned I'm just into beating off to dicks on the internet and will just ruin an in person encounter. Plus, I feel like a willing, inexperienced "straight" mouth isn't enough to lure a decent guy. I want to try sucking a dick but my standards are only for a hung dude without disease. Any ideas?

This pretty much sums up how I feel too.

 

[avg_joe]

Well, penis size is something that we all want more of. Just like women want guys to be fascinated when we see their breasts or butt (which is why so many clothes accent those qualities), we want women to be impressed when they see our penis.

"oh it is so big"
"I'm not sure it will fit"
"Wow! I haven't seen one this huge"

those are things every guy would love to hear. True? Well, I have never had any woman tell me those things, and I doubt I ever will, because mine is smaller than average. I actually had one woman tell me that she was worried that should would even feel anything (she told me this much later of course, and not at the height of the moment).

So I guess that us guys with below average penis sizes fascinate on what it would be like to have that large cock. To have our women brag about it to their friends and to have their eyes get big with amazement as they see it or have it enter them the first time.

Just like smaller chested women get surgery because they want larger boobs to get that "WOW" factor, us guys would like the same for our penis. So in answer to your question, I think that we are living out our dream in a way through the large penis guys in this world. That is my opinion anyway.

Wow, I felt the same as you do when I was a teenager.

 

[lasolasbud]

I visited my buddy today for a morning blow job. He’s married and loves to suck cock and he’s very good at it. When I visit I usually strip down but he stays dressed. Today he unzipped and jacked off while sucking me. It was the first time I ever saw his cock; it was average and I didn’t pay too much attention to it. He eventually placed his cock up against mine and mentioned how small his was in comparison. He was right, my cock looked like a monster compared to his. Now I know why he’s fascinated with mine.

 

[TheW]

Is it possible that men are more fascinated by big cocks than women are ?

 

[AlphaMale]

Men have a penises so therefore they like penis. It's a pretty straightfoward concept. :wink:

 

[D_Joseba_Guntertwat]

I'm straight and I like big cocks - by that I mean that I like having a big cock, and I like women to worship it. I would never want to kiss a man or suck a man's cock, but there is a sense of awe there. When I see big cocks in porn I like to imagine that could be me. In porn I like seeing a woman submitting in pleasure to the hugeness.