The reactions of some people to knowledge of your personal identity - whether you like men or women or both - is often difficult to understand. My close young friend of five years got the impression I liked him more than just a friend. I never did or said anything to seduce him. What I did was gradually get to know and like him and spend more time together. I usually hugged him when we met. On a few occasions I did something like sit next to him in his truck with an arm around him. Or on one occasion I kept my hands on his shoulders while he played the piano. He never protested. We had some intimate sexual talk in our fourth year in which we each revealed a few things. Recently we spent more time together, but then he acted strange about getting undressed for the hot tub and stuff at the gym. Then he interrogated me. I told him I thought I was bi. Now he won't have any contact with me. All I did was like and help him. Nothing more. Five years of close friendship gone.
That truly blows.
My heart goes out to you, my friend.
There was nothing you did wrong.
Homophobia is a horrible thing. I find that people insinuate a lot in my direction. I've had two sex partners in my adult life. OnBe before that.
Been with the same woman since age 16. People see the 30%, and immediately assume, then act strange. In real life, I don't let anything out, but people still treat me as if I am coming on to them when that is something I am not capable of doing...in real life.
I think the important thing is that you were a friend, and showed you were trustworthy. Maybe some day down the road, he will think it over, and things in his head will change. Maybe not. But either way, you can respect the guy you see coming back at you from the mirror.