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Sort of a recurring theme because the community has had this discussion on "orientation" vs. "behavior"... sort of like what elixer26 and B.A.H are suggesting above. Exbiker is right that we are influenced by our cultural norms (traveling in Europe ought to resolve that for most Americans and vice versa). I think Frodo46888 is probably pretty close to my viewpoint and here's what I was thinking in 2010:
FWIW, I haven't changed my opinion much. I just thought it was interesting that Ward had studied it and it got written up in a fairly mainstream outlet.
Isn't this the real problem with labels? We all proclaim we're cool with "whatever floats your boat", but we still itch to put others into a neatly identified category when that "neatly identified category" only exists in our own vocabulary. Sexual identity, sexual attraction, sexual practice, sexual orientation and "sexual behavior" as the OP termed it are all far more complicated than we're allowing for here.
The only common element in this thread is that we are all comfortable with our own perspective. Since our beliefs are influenced by our psychological makeup, our opinions and attitudes, our cultural/ethnic surroundings and our own experiences, it is not unrealistic to expect our beliefs to be just as unique as we are.
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For what its worth, I think desiring a label is confusing and awarding labels seems problematic. I truly believe this is the only thing we're all going to agree on: we are all sexual and we are all doing what we wish to do.
FWIW, I haven't changed my opinion much. I just thought it was interesting that Ward had studied it and it got written up in a fairly mainstream outlet.