Straight Men vs bi/gay men

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  1. Hjobber

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    I am really curious why straight men would be interested in looking at a cock. As a bi man, looking at cocks is a turn on, but as far as I know it is not a turn on for straight men. So, what is the interest and attraction for totally straight men? I would really like to know.
     
  2. Lordpendragon

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    I would say that generally we are not that interested in looking at cocks. There can be curiosity of course, but I seldom go out of my way to look.
     
  3. Nelly Gay

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    Gay men look at Playboy .
    I certainly do ....
     
  4. Ganymede

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    All people have a curiosity. I think men in particular are more visual than women, so we want to look at pictures. In addition to the curiosity, there is the taboo of male/male curiosity, which only makes the curiosity stronger. However, like the first guy said, for the most part penises aren't that interesting to look at. They all look the same after a point to me.
     
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    Being bi/gay I can only theorize, but it makes sense to me that straight men look at other men's penises for means of comparison, as they want to see how they will stack up when it comes to pleasing their sexual partners.

    There's also the theory that all men have at least SOME homosexual tendencies, but I'm honestly not so sure about that one...
     
  6. Ganymede

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    I think that all people have a homosexual tendency. For some straight men, that homosexul tendency only goes as far as looking. And even at that, some of us don't like to look for that long.
     
  7. Vestigial

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    I don't ~usually~ find much attraction in cocks, but I have been viewing them for the past few minutes. Why? Comparison. As a virgin incognito, I am still intensely curious.

    But when I do view them, I am interested, I see them as artwork, a small window to the aspects of an individual. I need to dismiss that before getting down to the crude measurements, so that I may compare them to my evolving self.

    However~ I do not side with Straight. Nor bi/gay. Sure, my physical attraction IS geared towards the feminine side, but. It goes alot deeper than that...


    In a nutshell: I like to look at things. ^_~
     
  8. Pjurlover

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    I think that, whether or not a guy admits it (and many won't), to some degree most guys enjoy looking at another man's hard cock . . . In hetero adult films, the guys' big cocks are as much a part of the entertainment as the woman. And aren't guys often curious?

    Sure, in adult films much of the turn-on is, for example, watching a woman suck that big cock, or seeing that guy give a woman or women a good fucking. And women who watch porn surely enjoy seeing a big cock. But let's face it, more guys watch porn than women. And doesn't everybody enjoy seeing a guy shoot a big fucking load? Besides "proving" that the people are really fucking, I think that cumshots are a regular part of porn because guys just love to watch a guy's cock as it explodes and shoots ribbons of cum.

    As for me, my orientation had always been hetero, but I've enjoyed it when guys take long looks at my cock at the nude beach. It always makes me a bit excited in fact. Some of the guys are obviously gay and oh yeah it's made me think about being with the right guy . . . perhaps in an m-m-f threesome or one-on-one.

    So when the opportunity presented itself, last May I jacked off with a guy in a sauna while I was on business travel. It was totally anonymous and hot as hell. Yeah, it was a turn-on for me to watch the guy stroke his thick cock and caress his balls. His cock looked totally different from mine and I enjoyed watching him. And fuck if I didn't go wild when the guy began to caress my smooth balls and stroke my cock, which had become extremely hard . . .

    And I enjoy it now when I'm in the steamroom where I work out and sense that a guy wants to jack off with me. Part of the turn-on is seeing the guy work his hot cock. And I've enjoyed it when a guy sucks my cock while jacking himself off.

    I've always been "straight," but what I've cum to enjoy isn't exactly heterosexual and I imagine that many "straight" guys would enjoy this sort of experience if only they'd just let it happen.
     
  9. D_Martin van Burden

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    Impressive response.

    I think it all matters in what you exactly want to do with a cock. There's still a world of difference between looking at a dick and wanting to have one parked in your rear...

    Anyway, as men, I don't think we can help being visual creatures. I've noticed now that if I'm horny and want to get off, I really can't rely on my imagination as much now as I used to. Visual cues are just hot, whether you're admiring that woman's flesh on film or you're seeing yourself as that guy who's fucking her. Maybe being bigger guys we identify with porn stars' dicks because we have something similar in our pants. Maybe we're also growing more comfortable with allowing ourselves to enjoy and admire bodies and dicks which were once very, very, very taboo. Sign of the times and all that.
     
  10. VeeP

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    If by this you mean "why would they frequent this site", I'm quite sure for some it's strictly an ego boost. Beside that, curiousity abounds and many men are just wired that way. Whether or not they care to admit it is another issue entirely.
     
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    Nail on the head, I think.

    It's just natural curiosity. With your mates you frequently know how defined they are, how big their muscles are, the colour of hair and eyes etc. It's only natural on the rare occasions when you get naked with each other to check out the rest of the body and the cock, in particular, is almost that 'forbidden area' that you wouldn't discuss details about with each other in the pub. So, when you get the chance you have a good (sometimes sly) look. How long is his cock, how thick is it, how much pubic hair does he have, is he circumcised or intact, if he's circumcised then how tight and where's the scar, if he's intact then how much foreskin does he have etc etc. Sometimes a mate gets a stiffy, which can be embarrassing for him but is equally interesting to check out.

    For some reason the new Puritans have tried to make such natural curiosity into some kind of sexual perversion. As you say, Dee, being curious about seeing a mate's (or even a stranger's) body does not mean that you want to leap on them and roger them senseless. :eek:
     
  12. Vestigial

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    I'll amend my previous statement...

    Cocks do interest me, but i'm very spoiled. Why look at an interesting cock when way more interesting (for me) females are around? It's basically a Female >> Male pr0n scenario, since both are readily available...

    And the presense of cock in hetero porn IS appreciated, especially since it's free of any deviational stigma. (...Got Hardcore?)
     
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    Interesting Topic! I am amazed at how much stimulating (no pun intended) and thought provoking conversations are to be had on this board

    I am a primarily heterosexual man who has had some bisexual experiences in the past. To me, my curiosity in another man's penis has less to do with sexual tendencies and more to do with ego. There is not one guy on this board who cannot say that discovering another guy is not as blessed as you is a tremendous ego boost. Especially if the less endowed guy is richer, handsomer or has managed to accomplish more in life than you. We are competitive by nature and get off (again no pun intended) on being better than others in any area we can; the penis being the top of that list.
     
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    I think it is more of a question of curiosity/comparing than anything else. I think all straight guys, myself included, have checked out other guys in the locker room. Most guys like to see how they measure up. Once you have satisfied that curiosity, it really isn't a big deal. If there are people I have seen naked lots of times, like roommates, friends I work out with, or other regulars at my gym, I don't pay any attention to their dicks. If I saw someone I knew naked for the first time, I would be curious about their dick and would probably discretely check them out. But beyond looking, I don't have any desire for another man's penis.
     
  15. RoyalT

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    The gallery is a separate place from the main forum. I don't come here to look at cock. Maybe if I did I'd buy a gold membership. I can see the curiosity about 'straight' men with gold memberships.

    As for me, I'm very straight. I come here for the people. And the scarce threads worthy of posting in.
     
  16. DC_DEEP

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    Excellent observations, Dee. All that being said, I think I can speak for just about every man when I say that we look at different things for many different reasons, usually not sexual reasons. Men like to look at cars, but a very small percentage want to have sexual contact with a car. I like to look at well-landscaped lawns and parks, but I don't want sexual contact with someone's front yard. I also like looking at art, but no desire to have sex with a Degas painting of a ballerina.

    So, I'm guessing that straight men like to look at penises because they are interesting to look at, to compare, to contrast.
     
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    May be the answer. IĀ“d add that just `strikingĀ“ dicks get my attention. As red hair, big nose or tattooes do.
     
  18. Duane.Ament

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    There seems to be tons of straight men on here who respect big cocks...and apparently like to look at them and read about how they are used in real life sexual situations...
     
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