Straight men who get hit on by gay men

[tgirlsrgreat]

Here's what I dont get. Not trying to be conceded but I've always been told I'm very good looking and I never had a problem with women. I've never been hit on by a gay guy. I've hung out with my wifes gay uncle and his bf's and never. Now my best friend is 5'7 230. Big stocky guy real real hairy and bald and he constantly gets hit on by gays but always had problems getting a girl. He is straight and now married for the record.

well you certainly have no reson to be "conceded" about your spelling.:biglaugh:

 

[aninnymouse]

I've been hit on by dudes in the past but upon moving to ny it's been happening a lot more frequently. Its usually other men staring me down or approaching me and in 1 case following me (not cool). It doesn't bother me much and actually find it very flattering but I wonder if I'm giving off gay-vibes. I don't feel I do so I don't know what it is about me.

Maybe its my good looks, my fashion sense, my awesome bod? I was telling my friend about it and she said it might be because I have a big butt and that I'm too handsome for my own good.

Any other straight men having this happen to them a lot? (And no this does not include showing your penis online).

Just from your posts on here, it seems that you give off a very sexual/sex positive vibe. Maybe that's what they're picking up on. Nothing wrong with that, but when people do not know how to respect boundaries, it sucks.

 

[Rikter8]

I don't really flaunt per say. I wear my clothes fitted to show my muscles.

That's flaunting. Same as a mini-skirt showing cheeks.

I take it all in stride. I look good and ain't afraid to admit it. I take pride in my physical appearance.

More Flaunt. Just as long as it doesn't go to your head.

I've even had dudes who were curious and/or in the closet hit on me. Now that's insane. I must really be doing something right.

Now Im starting to smell bullshit. How do you know they are in the closet? How do you know even if these guys are gay? Mabee they just have a common interest in Diet and Exercise.

This is one of those scenarios where Bi/Gay/Curious men may approach...but when the hot guy opens his mouth...it's over.

 

[basque9]

Gay men pick up on subtleties in appearance and mannerisms in other men that can trigger the chase! That you are handsome is in itself a trigger, being muscled is another; and, if you are hung, then you are indeed a gay magnet! Gays are quick to look for signals of your interest, or lack thereof! In general , it does not take much to signal that you are not interested. Try looking at the individual and shaking your head no..I believe most of the interest in you will instantly disappear.

 

[B_debonair87]

Now Im starting to smell bullshit. How do you know they are in the closet? How do you know even if these guys are gay? Mabee they just have a common interest in Diet and Exercise.

This is one of those scenarios where Bi/Gay/Curious men may approach...but when the hot guy opens his mouth...it's over.

if a guy tells you he has a g/f and he 'messes with guys on the low sometimes and nobody needs to know because its not their business' what does that tell you?

and i know they're gay because they're hitting on me, genius. if someone says they find you handsome or attractive and asks you if you're into men or asks you for your number or say "they want to know you better" etc..... chances are they aren't trying to be your bff

 

[MrHangman]

I've been hit on by gay guys before. I just deflect it in the same way I'd deflect a girl I wasn't interested in. It's no big deal.

 

[Qua]

Happens to me all the time. I'm thin, clean cut, well dressed and look like I take more care of my appearance than I do. It only gets annoying when my straight coworkers tease me about it (I work at a bar so this happens more often than you might think) and make untrue assumptions about me.

I shrug it off and take it as a compliment. If girls find me attractive and guys do too then I just consider it an ego boost.

 

[ColonialBoy]

Gay men pick up on subtleties in appearance and mannerisms in other men that can trigger the chase! That you are handsome is in itself a trigger, being muscled is another; and, if you are hung, then you are indeed a gay magnet!

If you go to the gym yourself & read up on dressing well, you can well straight away about guys that take care if their body & appearance. They dont have to be young either, there are plenty of older guys in this category too. There's nothing worse than a good looking guy dressed like a slob.

A couple of places to start:
http://forum.bodybuilding.com/index.php
http://www.askandyaboutclothes.com/forum/index.php

 

[beantownxo822]

The op is wicked cocky, but i feel like i get the same thing, mostly at the gym...its kind of creepy

 

[flawdatiger]

I'm gonna tag myself into this thread. OP there is still a nagging stereotype that buff guys wearing form fitting clothes are down with the pound.

This is especially true if you still have that mo-hawk (faux hawk) hairstyle.

So, imagine if a buff guy with a fancy hair style, wearing form fitting nice clothes on a fit body and probably some big ass shades comes walking down the street.

My money is on him being....down with the pound. I think that's the logic people use when they hit on you too.

 

[House21]

First and foremost, I admit I haven't read all the replies in the thread, so I don't know where the conversation is at. However, I did just want to give my own two cents.

Beyond that fact that I like porn with well hung men fucking women (my 1% gay in my profile) I am completely straight. I don't look for men, at men, or even consider any homosexual activity. It just doesn't appeal to me. However, I've been hit on several times by gay men at various bars and in various situations. I'm always very polite, and tell them that while I'm flattered that they are into me I'm straight and not interested. It's never been a problem.

I don't consider myself to be overly attractive, nor do I think I exhibit any "vibes" which would draw gay men to me. What it comes down to in my mind is simple. Generally speaking if you are single and interested in someone, the logical next step is to approach them and see if there is mutual interest. It has nothing to do with straight or gay. I'd expect gay men to pursue their interests every bit as much as I pursue my own. There's nothing weird about it. If there's something about me that gay men find interesting, so be it. To me, being hit on by a gay man reflects my own attempts with women. You at least have to take a chance or you'll never know.

Long story short, if you're being hit on enjoy it. At least you know someone finds you attractive. Not everybody has that.

 

[Juicee Jubes]

I feel ppl are harsh with their words beyond a joke unnecessarily, consider being in the other persons shoes. Ive seen friends and have been cruised by gay/bi men to the point its sometimes disturbing. I know its the thrill of the chase but sometimes its bit too meat market for my liking.

If your good looking or gymbuilt or hung or wearing tight clothes or not. Does it give someone the right to pursue you beyond a normal comfortable level. what defines that level? when does it become too little or too much? Do we draw that line or does the pursuer...so if Debonair says his happy to be complimented but politely declines the advances and now wants to hear other ppls thoughts why is it presumed arrogant.

Is it arrogant or simply confidence. whichever it is, or more. I prefer to back someone who has conviction over someone who is judgemental. If we all complimented eachother more, would there be an issue? ;p

Cupo

 

[B_debonair87]

I'm gonna tag myself into this thread. OP there is still a nagging stereotype that buff guys wearing form fitting clothes are down with the pound.

This is especially true if you still have that mo-hawk (faux hawk) hairstyle.

So, imagine if a buff guy with a fancy hair style, wearing form fitting nice clothes on a fit body and probably some big ass shades comes walking down the street.

My money is on him being....down with the pound. I think that's the logic people use when they hit on you too.

Hahaha. "Down with the pound".

I usually rock a low cut cesar. No crazy faux-hawks.

And I don't wear my clothes fitted to the point where all my cuts show and my nipples poke out and I'm bulging out my pants. Just fitted to the point where my clothes gracefully hug my body.

 

[B_blessed boy]

yea this happens to me also, when i asked why they just say cause i look good. its not you its them, remember they going to walk you down and shit because thats what they used to do to girls..... at least that's what i think.

quickly it moves from flattering to annoying though, a compliment is fine but active pursuit isnt

 

[flawdatiger]

Hahaha. "Down with the pound".

I usually rock a low cut cesar. No crazy faux-hawks.

And I don't wear my clothes fitted to the point where all my cuts show and my nipples poke out and I'm bulging out my pants. Just fitted to the point where my clothes gracefully hug my body.

Well, there you go. You are probably a snappy dresser, which back in the day would be called a dandy. Dandy - Wikipedia, the free encyclopedia

This is what's referred to these days as being "metro." The people who are young of soul think this is a new thing but it's really not.

The supposed strangeness is associated with homosexuality and therefore you must be gay. Most gay folks can tell you, the right clothes on the right body will fuck up anybodies' gaydar.

You're not one of the bulge guys are you? Do you wear clothes that show off your boy parts? Conversely, do you wear clothes that show your butt? Graceful hugging of those areas could add to the perception that you're gay. I'm just going through a mental list, so don't be offended

I know some people on this site sound like predators when they talk about men in the shower, lockerroom and on the streets; you may be running into some of them offline..hahahaha

 

[rayray]

Quote "flawdatiger;3841680]Well, there you go. You are probably a snappy dresser, which back in the day would be called a dandy. Dandy - Wikipedia, the free encyclopedia"
I got a spark when i read your comment..My best friend of many years has his very own style to dressing..He is straight, i am gay..I dont dress in shabby clothing, i dress very casually so in a crowd i would more or less blend in as the way he dresses he would stand out in the same crowd. For a straight man he has great taste in clothing and everything he wears is very well thought out. I was talking on the phone about it one day to my sister and she said he dressed like a "Dandy"..I wasnt familiar with the term so she explained it to me..I have always liked the way he dressed..He can pull it off because he is VGL with rugged manly features..It is funny when we are out in public because the way some men and women check him out, you know with that extra glance he'll get. Of course he loves the attention he receives, there are some looks i perceive to be as wow that's different. He also gets frustrated because most people assume we are a couple, which is not the case.He will make comments to me about not liking to be seen with me around other tennants he's got to know when i come over to visit. I am on the west coast and he the east in Florida. It's funny because he blames me for the vibes he gets for the aboved mentioned. I define it as a lack of confidence on his part. Otherwise he is very masculine acting and outgoing to people in public...I see the comparison to the OP of this thread in what he gets from other people, if that makes any sense.

 

[DevonTexas]

I'm not gay but somewhat bi. Still, I wouldn't be attracted to you because I'm not attracted to insecure men who are shallow with pumped up kicks.

 

[B_debonair87]

I'm not gay but somewhat bi. Still, I wouldn't be attracted to you because I'm not attracted to insecure men who are shallow with pumped up kicks.

That's fine with me

its not like I said every gay man wants to fuck me . Plus I'm not understanding why you think you matter..........

 

[D_Balls Cezanne]

I have gay men attracted to me, as well as women. I like to think it's because my personality is attractive enough for them to not even consider my sexuality. It's me that they find attractive and not what I do with my dick. In this regard I feel it is a compliment, why get stressed about it.

 

[laser90]

For whatever reason, you are making this happen.

You are the creator and interpreter of your own experience.

Well said and true!

Body language speaks louder than words.

Question for you:
What do you do when a women you are NOT attracted to comes on to you?? Do you look away? or do you tease her?

Why not post a few shots (g rated) so we can all straight/gay can take a look at you and we can all tell you what we think.