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why is it wrong or offensive to call you bisexual, if there is nothing wrong with bisexuality why do so many get angry when someone suggests that they maynot be straight but bi.

What is this obsession with being labelled straight no matter how many men you had sex with, instead of just being labelled bi??
 
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I think the label "bi" implies that you regularly have sex with both sexes. I am "straight" in the sense that I have only ever had heterosexual sex in my life. However, I am curious as hell to know what it's like to have sex with another guy that I find attractive both physically and emotionally, i.e. not just any guy that would have sex with me. There has only been 1 guy in my life that has fit that bill, and nothing happened between us. Being married now, there is 0% probability that I will ever experience sex with another guy. When I was younger, single, and free to experiment, guys were so closeted that the opportunity never arose. Guys that were out were really out and unattractive to me. It would be guys who were effeminate (which I absolutely detest even to this day), or guys that were old, fat and/or just plain gross. Four guys I knew in my younger days are out now. I'm sure there are probably more that I just don't know about because we lost touch after university. The guys who I knew that did come out were never attractive to me. It's not surprising when I think about it because they never had girlfriends or chased girls like the rest of us guys did.

The reason I don't state percentages in my avatar is because to me, sexuality is many shades of grey, not black and white.
 

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I am bi in that I have had sex with both men and women and enjoy both. However, in my every day life, I'm straight. I have a wife. I have children. I live a "straight" life (as my community defines it). If I lived somewhere else, with someone else, in a different time, maybe I'd be an open "bi" person. Hell, if I were growing up even now and going to college I may approach it differently. Maybe I'd be "gay" but keep women on the side in secret.

But in my life and my community, I self-identify as straight over gay. I present myself as straight. And I think, for practical purposes, I am straight. Not everyone needs to know that I find men attractive, too. I like the Gore Vidal quote you cite because I tend to think more that way than "what AM I?"
 
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I am bi in that I have had sex with both men and women and enjoy both. However, in my every day life, I'm straight. I have a wife. I have children. I live a "straight" life (as my community defines it). If I lived somewhere else, with someone else, in a different time, maybe I'd be an open "bi" person. Hell, if I were growing up even now and going to college I may approach it differently. Maybe I'd be "gay" but keep women on the side in secret.

But in my life and my community, I self-identify as straight over gay. I present myself as straight. And I think, for practical purposes, I am straight. Not everyone needs to know that I find men attractive, too. I like the Gore Vidal quote you cite because I tend to think more that way than "what AM I?"

:yup: Exactly what I was trying to say.
 

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"What Am I..." asks cgttown ?
You are like many today who have had a sexual awakening, partialy because of this site, that are aware and not afraid to admit to ourselves and others, that we ARE attracted to men, a penis, and or seperate sexual situations other than the norm...etc

I had experimented in my teens with a friend, what a great sexual road we traveled on. Starting out innocently enough, show me yours, I'll show you mine...to BJ's and anal...spread out over the course of a few years.

Now being much older, married, kids, professional career, I never thought the opportunity would ever arise for me to re-awake that inner sexual being that I had supressed for a couple decades. I have not taken the step, but I know the day will come again and I so look forward to it.

We have one time here, we shouldn't be labeled or criticized for who we are or who we are attracted too, as long as we act as adults. There are more of us out there than you and I would ever imagine....we represent just a small % of those that would actually speak out.
 
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The Kinsey Scale says it all. Very few people in society are truly 100% heterosexual. I remember studying it in psychology.
 

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My best friend is straight, but he appreciates a nice built cock in porn, noticies guy's bulges, and does not complain when he sees me stroking mine and cumming.
 

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My own view is that I define myself as straight because whatever I do with guys (sucking cock, getting sucked, fucking), I feel absolutely no emotional connection with the guy.
It's just a game of fun, and I think of it as a game of console with a friend, only with cocks.
I don't kiss either. But with girls there can be emotional attachement, it can go beyond the simple game.

I would find myself bi if I could go out with a guy and share something more than being just friends.

To answer the first line of the first post, if someone said I was bi, I would not find it offensive. It is just not my personal perception of the situation.
 
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