"straight" toxicity?

[nightguy13]

A little tangent that's been prickling me as of late.

Over the past 6 months or so, I've noticed I have received more requests from guys claiming to be "straight" and they're extremely sensitive about it and are fragile as hell when you even bring it up.

But, that's not the problem, call yourself whatever you want I don't give two shits, but what is it with these guys that are seeking to do absolutely everything from "fake" DL public dates to watersports... And then in an instant go completely homophobic?!

This just happened again with a guy that had been messaging me asking a ton of questions and I'm an open book, I have nothing to hide or be ashamed of, but he kept on and on with the questions. Finally I asked him a little about himself, like if he identified as gay/bi/whatever, what he was looking for, etc.

He replied back by telling me I'm not allowed to ask questions and only he was allowed to question anyone about anything, and he said he was straight, final answer, and to never ask about his sexuality again. Then he started saying he'd do stuff to me with his "11 inch BBC". Well, one thing LPSG has taught me, there are no real 10+inch dicks out here. Lolol. Maybe if he was measuring from his asshole... Lol He proceeded with call me a bunch of slurs because I sent "" to his word salad homophobic rant about how he was straight and to never question him again.

Okay? I'm sitting here in real life like ...

This is a constant thing as well, like... This whole year has been full of these fucks in DMs. What is the deal??

Anyone else finding this same issue with dating apps and stuff? Really putting a damper on me even wanting to bother with looking for people to hang out with and maybe play around with. Jees o Pete.

 

[Barberseville]

More the fool you for wasting time engaging with bigoted fantasists. Sorry, lofe is too short for nonsense

 

[elklindoxxx]

A little tangent that's been prickling me as of late.

Over the past 6 months or so, I've noticed I have received more requests from guys claiming to be "straight" and they're extremely sensitive about it and are fragile as hell when you even bring it up.

But, that's not the problem, call yourself whatever you want I don't give two shits, but what is it with these guys that are seeking to do absolutely everything from "fake" DL public dates to watersports... And then in an instant go completely homophobic?!

This just happened again with a guy that had been messaging me asking a ton of questions and I'm an open book, I have nothing to hide or be ashamed of, but he kept on and on with the questions. Finally I asked him a little about himself, like if he identified as gay/bi/whatever, what he was looking for, etc.

He replied back by telling me I'm not allowed to ask questions and only he was allowed to question anyone about anything, and he said he was straight, final answer, and to never ask about his sexuality again. Then he started saying he'd do stuff to me with his "11 inch BBC". Well, one thing LPSG has taught me, there are no real 10+inch dicks out here. Lolol. Maybe if he was measuring from his asshole... Lol He proceeded with call me a bunch of slurs because I sent "" to his word salad homophobic rant about how he was straight and to never question him again.

Okay? I'm sitting here in real life like ...

This is a constant thing as well, like... This whole year has been full of these fucks in DMs. What is the deal??

Anyone else finding this same issue with dating apps and stuff? Really putting a damper on me even wanting to bother with looking for people to hang out with and maybe play around with. Jees o Pete.

You are communicating with other people who are anonymous on the internet. They are out there to get their kicks and giggles knowing very well they will not meet anybody. So what were you expecting?

When my partner and I decided to go with other couples. We set up an account seeking other couples on an adult website. And we got nothing but single males sending pics of their 10 inch dicks. Wanting to fuck her so hard that they would rearrange her internal organs and cum all over her face. It was so stupid of us to do so and we closed the account shortly after. And we only meet new couples in person through our networks. It takes longer and is more time consuming but we had better luck.

 

[kriss78]

It could be worse. I was stuck with a guy in denial for five years. He was head over heels for me. We kissed, hugged, and slept together, but he kept insisting he was straight and that he just “liked doing that stuff” with me. Around other people, he’d flip and act super homophobic; obviously projecting his fears. He was always dragging girls around as beards, and he eventually got engaged. Later he tried to come back to me, but by then I was done. A few months later, I left the entire country and never looked back.

 

[HornyPuto69]

A little tangent that's been prickling me as of late.

Over the past 6 months or so, I've noticed I have received more requests from guys claiming to be "straight" and they're extremely sensitive about it and are fragile as hell when you even bring it up.

But, that's not the problem, call yourself whatever you want I don't give two shits, but what is it with these guys that are seeking to do absolutely everything from "fake" DL public dates to watersports... And then in an instant go completely homophobic?!

This just happened again with a guy that had been messaging me asking a ton of questions and I'm an open book, I have nothing to hide or be ashamed of, but he kept on and on with the questions. Finally I asked him a little about himself, like if he identified as gay/bi/whatever, what he was looking for, etc.

He replied back by telling me I'm not allowed to ask questions and only he was allowed to question anyone about anything, and he said he was straight, final answer, and to never ask about his sexuality again. Then he started saying he'd do stuff to me with his "11 inch BBC". Well, one thing LPSG has taught me, there are no real 10+inch dicks out here. Lolol. Maybe if he was measuring from his asshole... Lol He proceeded with call me a bunch of slurs because I sent "" to his word salad homophobic rant about how he was straight and to never question him again.

Okay? I'm sitting here in real life like ...

This is a constant thing as well, like... This whole year has been full of these fucks in DMs. What is the deal??

Anyone else finding this same issue with dating apps and stuff? Really putting a damper on me even wanting to bother with looking for people to hang out with and maybe play around with. Jees o Pete.

Honestly I shut that shit down in two seconds. I'm actually very explicit in.my profiles that I don't engage with DLs, 'straight' or any of this 'Dom Top' stuff. I have VERY little patience for this. I remember a while back I was blow8ng this guy who starts playing straight porn while I was blow8ng him. I stopped midway to remind him I'm a man. He starts begging for me to finish and I said 'no' and showed him the door.

Then another time I hook up with this guy who used to go to the bathhouse I used to work at. I used to work naked and one day while I was cleaning a room he kept grabbing my ass. He was hot, so I gave him my number. He came to my place three times I think. He never reciprocated oral, he would cum then that would be that. Then when I'd be like, ok what about me? He'd say something about traffic and his girlfriend. The last time I got dressed and told him he better get that traffic, he looked at me stupidly asking which way he went to leave my build8ng and I slammed the door on his face.

I like sex a lot. I didn't sign up to be anyone's therapist or tolerate their neurosis.

 

[Anime2]

It could be worse. I was stuck with a guy in denial for five years. He was head over heels for me. We kissed, hugged, and slept together, but he kept insisting he was straight and that he just “liked doing that stuff” with me. Around other people, he’d flip and act super homophobic; obviously projecting his fears. He was always dragging girls around as beards, and he eventually got engaged. Later he tried to come back to me, but by then I was done. A few months later, I left the entire country and never looked back.

Honestly that's upsetting for both you and him. I'm a little bit more empathetic towards SOME DL guys because its clear they're struggling. Society isnt kind to gay men

 

[rockmusl1]

A little tangent that's been prickling me as of late.

Over the past 6 months or so, I've noticed I have received more requests from guys claiming to be "straight" and they're extremely sensitive about it and are fragile as hell when you even bring it up.

But, that's not the problem, call yourself whatever you want I don't give two shits, but what is it with these guys that are seeking to do absolutely everything from "fake" DL public dates to watersports... And then in an instant go completely homophobic?!

This just happened again with a guy that had been messaging me asking a ton of questions and I'm an open book, I have nothing to hide or be ashamed of, but he kept on and on with the questions. Finally I asked him a little about himself, like if he identified as gay/bi/whatever, what he was looking for, etc.

He replied back by telling me I'm not allowed to ask questions and only he was allowed to question anyone about anything, and he said he was straight, final answer, and to never ask about his sexuality again. Then he started saying he'd do stuff to me with his "11 inch BBC". Well, one thing LPSG has taught me, there are no real 10+inch dicks out here. Lolol. Maybe if he was measuring from his asshole... Lol He proceeded with call me a bunch of slurs because I sent "" to his word salad homophobic rant about how he was straight and to never question him again.

Okay? I'm sitting here in real life like ...

This is a constant thing as well, like... This whole year has been full of these fucks in DMs. What is the deal??

Anyone else finding this same issue with dating apps and stuff? Really putting a damper on me even wanting to bother with looking for people to hang out with and maybe play around with. Jees o Pete.

Bail. Just explain you’re looking for a Gay man. Not DL, not Straight, not Bi, you want Gay. And then block.

 

[chrisrobin]

A little tangent that's been prickling me as of late.

Over the past 6 months or so, I've noticed I have received more requests from guys claiming to be "straight" and they're extremely sensitive about it and are fragile as hell when you even bring it up.

But, that's not the problem, call yourself whatever you want I don't give two shits, but what is it with these guys that are seeking to do absolutely everything from "fake" DL public dates to watersports... And then in an instant go completely homophobic?!

This just happened again with a guy that had been messaging me asking a ton of questions and I'm an open book, I have nothing to hide or be ashamed of, but he kept on and on with the questions. Finally I asked him a little about himself, like if he identified as gay/bi/whatever, what he was looking for, etc.

He replied back by telling me I'm not allowed to ask questions and only he was allowed to question anyone about anything, and he said he was straight, final answer, and to never ask about his sexuality again. Then he started saying he'd do stuff to me with his "11 inch BBC". Well, one thing LPSG has taught me, there are no real 10+inch dicks out here. Lolol. Maybe if he was measuring from his asshole... Lol He proceeded with call me a bunch of slurs because I sent "" to his word salad homophobic rant about how he was straight and to never question him again.

Okay? I'm sitting here in real life like ...

This is a constant thing as well, like... This whole year has been full of these fucks in DMs. What is the deal??

Anyone else finding this same issue with dating apps and stuff? Really putting a damper on me even wanting to bother with looking for people to hang out with and maybe play around with. Jees o Pete.

Far to many in the closet, they dont want the world to think they might be gay when they really are. It's just an excuse to hide behind. Yes some gay guys do get married because they want a family but how many regress?
For those guys who ask all the questions and want to tell nothing, they really are the worst type of QUEER,

 

[kriss78]

Honestly that's upsetting for both you and him. I'm a little bit more empathetic towards SOME DL guys because its clear they're struggling. Society isnt kind to gay men

That's why I never gave him a hard time. His struggle wasn’t really with me; it was mainly with himself as he followed a faith that condemned homosexuality, and that kind of conflict is unbearable. I could see he was suffering, and probably still is. That’s why I chose to let him go and slip away quietly without any confrontation.

 

[Anime2]

That's why I never gave him a hard time. His struggle wasn’t really with me; it was mainly with himself as he followed a faith that condemned homosexuality, and that kind of conflict is unbearable. I could see he was suffering, and probably still is. That’s why I chose to let him go and slip away quietly without any confrontation.

I really hate that this happened to you. Plenty of gay men aren't so empathetic and I get they're not wrong. But I just can't help it it's not easy for a lot of gay men pretending that it is I think is a bit delusional.

 

[ItsNatural]

First, I think you are quite tolerant, and that is a positive sign about your personality. Your question also tells me that you are not a fool, that you can see through layers of crazy and identify them without being driven to beating the shit out of someone. Again, another positive sign about who you are. There are people here who may feel you should just ignore/abandon/tell-them-to-fuck-off/whatever, but your engagement with this guy, at least to present, is perhaps helping you to understand something about how homophobia can really warp a persons mind in ways that they, themselves, may not even see. This guy may well be playing conscious games. He may also be completely lost in layers of homophobic madness which causes him to act out as he is acting out.

Have you tried being calmly rational with him? Perhaps you have and it gets you nowhere. It's often very much like trying to have a rational conversation with a drunk. Doing that with the latter gets you nowhere.

Countless gay men have been homophobic at one point or another, some still are. There's no judgement in this comment. It's not easy being gay for most guys, not in this world, at this time. Improved but not great. So, this guy is dancing all over the plateau of himself and he has no idea where to stop and take a stand. If he is not game-playing, I actually feel sympathy for him. If he is game-playing, it might be his way of coping with his inability to admit who he is on a deep level.

Humans are very complicated creatures and lack of self-acceptance only exacerbates that complexity. Ignore him if you must. No judgement on that. If you want to continue being engaged with him, again, no problem. Just understand that you are on a different mental plain and that the connection will put you more in a place of a person who is trying to understand (maybe help?) another through their issues which they cannot self-identify. Clearly he is a challenge to openminded sanity.

There are no statistics on the number of homophobes in the world but I'm fairly sure they run in the billions. There's no way to avoid these people. It is very specifically the bane of gay men.

 

[nightguy13]

Yeah, I don't have the patience to give these guys my time anymore. I'm in rural West Virginia and it's like 9/10 guys are all closet cases who are homophobic. So stupid. I feel like we are still in the early 1900s..

 

[8Cylinder]

A little tangent that's been prickling me as of late.

Over the past 6 months or so, I've noticed I have received more requests from guys claiming to be "straight" and they're extremely sensitive about it and are fragile as hell when you even bring it up.

But, that's not the problem, call yourself whatever you want I don't give two shits, but what is it with these guys that are seeking to do absolutely everything from "fake" DL public dates to watersports... And then in an instant go completely homophobic?!

This just happened again with a guy that had been messaging me asking a ton of questions and I'm an open book, I have nothing to hide or be ashamed of, but he kept on and on with the questions. Finally I asked him a little about himself, like if he identified as gay/bi/whatever, what he was looking for, etc.

He replied back by telling me I'm not allowed to ask questions and only he was allowed to question anyone about anything, and he said he was straight, final answer, and to never ask about his sexuality again. Then he started saying he'd do stuff to me with his "11 inch BBC". Well, one thing LPSG has taught me, there are no real 10+inch dicks out here. Lolol. Maybe if he was measuring from his asshole... Lol He proceeded with call me a bunch of slurs because I sent "" to his word salad homophobic rant about how he was straight and to never question him again.

Okay? I'm sitting here in real life like ...

This is a constant thing as well, like... This whole year has been full of these fucks in DMs. What is the deal??

Anyone else finding this same issue with dating apps and stuff? Really putting a damper on me even wanting to bother with looking for people to hang out with and maybe play around with. Jees o Pete.

You've touched on a much deeper theme here, and it's time we all speak up with truth. Every day we're inundated with the current vocabulary that's "acceptable" where the Republic we were born into and are citizens of guarantees free speech. With free speech comes truth.

I grew up during a time when bigotry was presented honestly on its face. Have we really made progress in society, or simply succeeded in shutting people up to simmer and grow pressure inside that will one day burst out in compensation for its lack of expression over time?

Awareness and honesty are the most desirable qualities, but when we see an entire culture and subcultures posing in every feasible way, one can no longer rely on anything they see, hear or read. I much prefer an open homophobe to one who will court my open dialogue and then use it against me. Yeah, it has happened.

We are today seeing a backlash from an exaggerated force feeding of others to accept what they may choose not to. I for one find a standard American dream fantasy of 2.5 children, white picket fence, dog, station wagon, and cookie cutter decor deplorable. Absolutely intolerable. I never accepted the force feeding of that whatsoever, and remain today over-sensitive about that now passing "norm".

True freedom lies in allowing people to be, feel, express and say what they wish. The more we try to control that, the less freedoms we have, and the greater the danger of wolves in sheep's clothing.

 

[8Cylinder]

Honestly that's upsetting for both you and him. I'm a little bit more empathetic towards SOME DL guys because its clear they're struggling. Society isnt kind to gay men

I like this sort of empathy, but must respectfully disagree. Society is not kind to those who project what is perceived as weakness. Some of the most iconic stars of cinema and television are the most out, effeminate people ever. Dom DeLouise, Paul Lynde, so many others have been embraced by larger society when they themselves present honestly and without any apology. In the animal kingdom anyone with an aquarium or that raised farm animals knows that the weak are picked on. While this does not excuse bullying, sometimes we ourselves can take the driver's seat affirmatively and not be the willing victim.

 

[SoEuroBoy]

A little tangent that's been prickling me as of late.

Over the past 6 months or so, I've noticed I have received more requests from guys claiming to be "straight" and they're extremely sensitive about it and are fragile as hell when you even bring it up.

But, that's not the problem, call yourself whatever you want I don't give two shits, but what is it with these guys that are seeking to do absolutely everything from "fake" DL public dates to watersports... And then in an instant go completely homophobic?!

This just happened again with a guy that had been messaging me asking a ton of questions and I'm an open book, I have nothing to hide or be ashamed of, but he kept on and on with the questions. Finally I asked him a little about himself, like if he identified as gay/bi/whatever, what he was looking for, etc.

He replied back by telling me I'm not allowed to ask questions and only he was allowed to question anyone about anything, and he said he was straight, final answer, and to never ask about his sexuality again. Then he started saying he'd do stuff to me with his "11 inch BBC". Well, one thing LPSG has taught me, there are no real 10+inch dicks out here. Lolol. Maybe if he was measuring from his asshole... Lol He proceeded with call me a bunch of slurs because I sent "" to his word salad homophobic rant about how he was straight and to never question him again.

Okay? I'm sitting here in real life like ...

This is a constant thing as well, like... This whole year has been full of these fucks in DMs. What is the deal??

Anyone else finding this same issue with dating apps and stuff? Really putting a damper on me even wanting to bother with looking for people to hang out with and maybe play around with. Jees o Pete.

I've noticed more "str8" or "curious" identifying men probably ever since the pandemic. This isn't scientific data, just what I've experienced, could be a real trend, can just be a coincidence.
On the other hand, people are also going out less, having less sex, staying at home, etc and so maybe they're also more uptight because they're not having real life experiences and thus, they stay curious but very uptight.

 

[Anaconda71]

Sounds like the guys in question aren't actually straight.. now, are they?

 

[nightguy13]

I've noticed more "str8" or "curious" identifying men probably ever since the pandemic. This isn't scientific data, just what I've experienced, could be a real trend, can just be a coincidence.
On the other hand, people are also going out less, having less sex, staying at home, etc and so maybe they're also more uptight because they're not having real life experiences and thus, they stay curious but very uptight.

Eh, it's just been a growing issue since forever and now with the extremes of politics and the openly accepted bigotry and backtracking of general discrimination taboos, it seems guys who have been pulled into the wrong side of the political spectrum for what they actually feel and believe are now seeing the repercussions of their actions. They're feeling scared by the shit storm they helped to create and this isn't just one specific country, this is world wide.

I just don't have sympathy or empathy for the ones wanting to cherry pick and have their cake and eat it, too.

If you're truly a closeted person that is scared to come out because of where your life is and the fact it could be either life or death if you are outed, that is completely different and I will stand and fight for you at every turn... But these guys that are just looking to use gay men who went through the struggle of coming out and dealing with that backlash that many of us had to experience... Only to use that same information to try to belittle us, while acting like they weren't just begging to get fisted.. can GTFO.

 

[Garer99]

Honestly I shut that shit down in two seconds. I'm actually very explicit in.my profiles that I don't engage with DLs, 'straight' or any of this 'Dom Top' stuff. I have VERY little patience for this. I remember a while back I was blow8ng this guy who starts playing straight porn while I was blow8ng him. I stopped midway to remind him I'm a man. He starts begging for me to finish and I said 'no' and showed him the door.

Then another time I hook up with this guy who used to go to the bathhouse I used to work at. I used to work naked and one day while I was cleaning a room he kept grabbing my ass. He was hot, so I gave him my number. He came to my place three times I think. He never reciprocated oral, he would cum then that would be that. Then when I'd be like, ok what about me? He'd say something about traffic and his girlfriend. The last time I got dressed and told him he better get that traffic, he looked at me stupidly asking which way he went to leave my build8ng and I slammed the door on his face.

I like sex a lot. I didn't sign up to be anyone's therapist or tolerate their neurosis.

You. I like you. Too many men with no standards entertaining that bs with "straights" and "I have a gf/wife". Trying to justify it "im not the one stepping out of my relationship"....you're still a homewrecker and a side piece so you still have no standards

 

[eridim]

I've noticed that no one is more discriminatory towards a group than members of the same group (gays to gays, women to women, immigrants to immigrants etc.).

So closeted guys who haven't had the chance to come out (and in many cases want to keep convincing themselves they are straight) are gays being assholes to gays. Not because they are inherently bad people, but because their internal conflicts make them act badly.

I also approach these situations with compassion. I've never been homophobic to gays to fit in but I know the struggle of living in a homophobic society and having to keep down low. If I treated gays badly and gays responded with the same token by treating me badly too, it doesn't teach me a lesson to be a better person, it only justifies my bad actions to keep mistreating them. So in a world of mean (closeted) gays, I choose to be kind.

 

[BIGBULL29]

A little tangent that's been prickling me as of late.

Over the past 6 months or so, I've noticed I have received more requests from guys claiming to be "straight" and they're extremely sensitive about it and are fragile as hell when you even bring it up.

But, that's not the problem, call yourself whatever you want I don't give two shits, but what is it with these guys that are seeking to do absolutely everything from "fake" DL public dates to watersports... And then in an instant go completely homophobic?!

This just happened again with a guy that had been messaging me asking a ton of questions and I'm an open book, I have nothing to hide or be ashamed of, but he kept on and on with the questions. Finally I asked him a little about himself, like if he identified as gay/bi/whatever, what he was looking for, etc.

He replied back by telling me I'm not allowed to ask questions and only he was allowed to question anyone about anything, and he said he was straight, final answer, and to never ask about his sexuality again. Then he started saying he'd do stuff to me with his "11 inch BBC". Well, one thing LPSG has taught me, there are no real 10+inch dicks out here. Lolol. Maybe if he was measuring from his asshole... Lol He proceeded with call me a bunch of slurs because I sent "" to his word salad homophobic rant about how he was straight and to never question him again.

Okay? I'm sitting here in real life like ...

This is a constant thing as well, like... This whole year has been full of these fucks in DMs. What is the deal??

Anyone else finding this same issue with dating apps and stuff? Really putting a damper on me even wanting to bother with looking for people to hang out with and maybe play around with. Jees o Pete.

I totally understand.

I've been over it, since day 1

I'm pansexual. I don't deny what I like. I like men and women, ftm's, etc.

Also, saying I'm pansexual doesn't me better than a man who identifies as 100% gay, or bisexual.

We are who we are. Stop lying to yourself, especially on a porn site.

I am over homophobia and insecure men. Tired of it. Stop projecting your self-hatred/discomfort onto me. I have enough problems as it is in life. LOL.