Strange Request for Advice

[Lordpendragon]

I have had to deal with this issue at work. It started when a co-worker had been next to me at the urinal and then later told a load of people in my presence, including women that he wished his cock was as big erect as mine was soft.

I was extrememly embarassed and later noticed a lot of unsubtle crotch watching, especially from the guy's wife funnily enough, who would give me this bizarre knowing grin.

I decided to face it head on and attended some meetings in tight trousers and sat with my legs stretched out and crossed at the ankles which made my bulge pretty obscene (I'm a 6x5 soft with big bollocks - you can see my profile). I could see some of my co-workers who had been happy to crotch watch me were very embarassed and one morning my SO saw me going to work in tight trousers and gave me the "you can't possibly go out looking like that". Reminds me of the saying "I wear the pants - but she decides which pair!"

So I don't anymore and a couple of years on there doesn't seem to be any issue, but the reputation goes on - no-one has come onto me though Kat - so I think its just a tittle tattle thing over coffee breaks.

 

[Dr. Dilznick]

Originally posted by aloofman
If a guy is 6 x 6 soft, then anyone can assume that he's hung because at that size he's already thicker than most guys are when hard. If an erect size is big enough, then only the most extreme growers can hide that fact.

Be that as it may, the relative difference in size can be considered to be within the normal range.


Recently (well, in 1988) Paul L. Jamison and Paul H. Gebhard subjected the Kinsey data to an intense statistical analysis, ironing out certain anomalies, correcting subject bias and measurement error with various mathematical operations we need not go into here. Their results (shown below) were published in the Journal for Sex Research (vol. 24, pp. 177-183).


Mean Standard Deviation

Flaccid penis length (in.) 3.89 0.73
Erect penis length (in.) 6.21 0.77

Flaccid penis circumference (in.) 3.75 0.65
Erect penis circumference (in.) 4.85 0.71


Do the math. Her husband is hardly a "grower," also considering the fact that his average soft size is more than 6" x 6". So yeah, it's big. Good for her.

 

[Dr. Dilznick]

Originally posted by Kat
Now seriously, the only person that has seen that video besides us is my longtime girlfriend when we were both rather tipsy.

See, I knew it! I think most of us have done the camcorder thing one time or another. I'm not so naive to assume she won't share. Your husband doesn't know, does he?

 

[Kat]

Originally posted by Dr. Dilznick@Jun 15 2005, 07:33 AM
See, I knew it! I think most of us have done the camcorder thing one time or another. I'm not so naive to assume she won't share. Your husband doesn't know, does he?

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Yes, we've done the camcorder thing. It's really not that great a video. No close-ups or anything fancy. We set it up on a tripod so there is only one relatively wide angle for all of it. The major thing that you notice is my boobs bouncing all over the place. We did try to get some good penetration shots with me facing the camera doing reverse cowboy and some side shots of doggy style but they really aren't that clear. And no, I haven't shared it (and won't) with any other person but my friend. And yes, my husband does know that she has seen it. She has been my absolute best friend and confidant for over 25 years and knows just about everything that has happened to me in my life.

kat

 

[thebigO]

Gee, I can imagine the shock you got when you heard it, Kat!

But if it was me in that situation, I would have asked the woman:

"Wherever would you get that idea?"

 

[KinkGuy]

Originally posted by madame_zora@Jun 14 2005, 03:55 PM
It may well be that your husband was seen at the urinal by a few curious coworkers and that's how runors start.

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Oh, so right you are Madame. How do you think all 135 people in my office know I have a pierced dick? Men's rooms and locker rooms should be sacred....but they aren't. I was embarrassed to have everyone I came in contact with at work grinning, smiling, talking behind my back and actually asking questions and staring at my crotch (ok, the staring at my crotch part I like) and you know what? I and "they" got over it. Momentary thrills. All good gossip and rumor comes to an end...especially in my case, since I verified it and honestly answered the questions every time anyone inquired.

Kat, the upshot is BE PROUD! You've got what all of those other women (and a few of the men too, no doubt) just WISH they had at home.

 

[madame_zora]

Hola! That's what I'm talking about.

The best way to deal with the runor mill is to admit it's true, then they have no where to go. If they ask if it's big, say "huge, actually". If someone is trying to embarass you, just turn the tables. If they ask details of your life that are none of their business, tell them more than they wanted to hear. You'll be amazed at how fast they stop talking.

 

[KinkGuy]

I actually had one of the guys I work with inquire as whether or not my dick was pierced and as big as everyone said. My response was to offer to take him to the men's room right then and confirm the information. He declined.....the wimp.

 

[Kat]

Well, it's the end of the week and I'm feeling much better. I think it was just the initial "out of the blue...hardly know you" thing that kind of blind-sided me. My husband (and you guys) really helped put the whole thing in perspective. And the woman in question is really nice and is in fact dealing with a guy who is much larger than she has ever had. She really did want some advice. I basically gave her some of the advice I've heard here and told her to check out this site for lots of information. Maybe she will even post!

kat

 

[MASSIVEPKGO_CHUCK]

Originally posted by madame_zora@Jun 18 2005, 12:17 AM
Hola! That's what I'm talking about.

The best way to deal with the runor mill is to admit it's true, then they have no where to go. If they ask if it's big, say "huge, actually". If someone is trying to embarass you, just turn the tables. If they ask details of your life that are none of their business, tell them more than they wanted to hear. You'll be amazed at how fast they stop talking.

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Dig it there, Madame Zora, you hit the nail right on the head. That's one of the best ways to deflate rumor spreaders who feed off of people's embarrasement over them; just tell the truth, shame the devil, get it all out(No, not that way unless you wanna be arrested for indecent exposure! :wow: ) tell everyone the facts. Guaranteed the rumor spreading'll come to a screaching halt at land speed records.

 

[SexyJean]

Originally posted by Kat@Jun 14 2005, 10:54 AM
I was on a business trip last week with several other colleagues.  One evening, we were at dinner and at the end everyone left but one woman who I see occasionally at work and got to know a little better on the trip...... Anyway, I'm kind of weirded out that when people in the hall smile at me...they might be thinking "Oh, here is the woman who gets fucked by Mr. Giant Cock".  I'm probably being way too sensitive about it but it really did freak me out.  Oh, by the way, I did try to cover my embarrasement and gave her some standard advice.  Sorry, I needed to vent.  kat

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Kat, I REALLY want to thank you for bringing this topic up. It's not something I ever would have thought about but you gave me something to think about and be prepared. Thanks so much -- and yes, I thought you handled it beautifully.

My husand does not work out during the day with his co-workers which would entail showering before going back to work; however, he sometimes will shower after softball or jogging or tennis events after work (not all the time, but sometimes). It depends on if he is coming right back to the home (where he prefers to shower). Still, I know given his size that showering or seeing him in athletic shorts can reveal alot to co-workers....and co-workers do talk, as you noted.

To be quite blunt, if a situation like yours presented itself to me at a formal-like business event, I'm not sure I wouldn't have frozen in terror or tried to change the subject immediately (maybe laughing it off). In a more casual environment, like at a bar-b-que or something, maybe you expect raunchier banter and you can recover a bit more quickly (at least that's how I feel).

But at a work-related event? More formal? With people whom you either don't know at all or just barely ("Hello, how ARE you doing?" "Oh, yes, I remember....we met at so-and-so's")? Whoo.....I give you credit and thanks. Like I said, I don't know how many of my husband's co-workers are aware of his size and if they talk to other guys, wives, girlfriends, or female co-workers. But as we just started attending business dinners and parties and the like, at least I now can be prepared if somebody in his office should ask me the question you were asked. Without thinking about some possible responses thanks to your post, there's no way I would have been able to handle it like you did. I think the surprise factor (my husband and I are both pretty discreet) is one thing; having it broached at a more formal business-thing is the added factor. Like I said, it'd be a surprise but probably more manageable if it happened with friends or friends-of-friends who we see often at parties, birthdays, get-togethers, etc.

Thanks again for sharing your experience. This is one of the reasons I joined LPSG -- to get a heads-up on anticipating problems or possible scenarios that I would never think of on my own.

Thanks, Kat !!

 

[Dr. Dilznick]

Originally posted by Kat
I did mention it to him. He doesn't talk about his size unless it is with a couple of his best friends and they initiate the topic. But again, they are not associated with our work. His best guess is the locker room.

I'd say it's more than just a guess. If your dick is twice the size of the other guys in the locker room, people are gonna talk. And not just behind your back.

He must have known.

 

[citygirl]

Originally posted by Kat@Jun 14 2005, 10:28 PM
First off, thank you all for letting me vent and for your input. It helped me calm down quite a bit.

Just an update on the situation. I'm working on a project with the woman in question and was driving her home tonight from a late meeting. I took the opportunity to ask her how many people at work know and when she found out. Well...she said it is common "knowledge" that my husband is built like a horse. She actually heard the "rumor" of his size only a couple of weeks after he started work at the company; almost two years ago!!! That actually made me feel a little better - that I had no clue anyone knew until she mentioned it the other night.

My husband in good humor said that now I know what he deals with every time guys fix on my boobs when we're out! He actually mentioned a few times over the years when guys would talk about "the stacked woman over there" not realizing that her husband was standing right next to them! He actually doesn't mind guys looking at me...as long as that's as far as it goes. I guess I'm going to learn to do the same for him

Anyway, thanks again.

kat

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Hi Kat! I think you handled this situation wonderfully, especially the intial 'out from left field' comments by your co-worker. As others said she didn't mean any harm, just wanted to get some advice. Though she should have gotten to know you better before asking something so personal.

Its ironic how hung guys can be treated like objects just like women!!

 

[thirteenbyseven]

Kat, you seemed at first to have painted yourself into corner, then deftly extricated yourself. Let's see, your husband is a shower/grower at work who's rumor of endowment is being spread by the best communications network in the world, women.

Now I assume by your description of a gym and work associates that this is not "Lou's Brake & Transmission" over on W25th & Pearl. So what we are really talking about are professional women with careers, egos, and possibly some hiddens issues with you who would love to "try him on for size" behind your back.

My G/F only loves to show me off in vacation spots like nudist resorts or beaches. I am resonably certain my endowment has never been a source of topic at her work place or her health club. The only other person I know she has told is her older sister, and probably by default, her mother (a scary thought.) I found this out early in our relationship when she was over to our place and I came into the room wearing some Tommy Bahama shorts and a T-shirt. Although I wore a pair of jockey briefs, my garden hose was folded under and I was not showing, Jen's sister looked right at my crotch and cracked, "where DO you put it all." Needless to say I was startled as the two began giggling like a couple of school girls. There have been many other light-hearted comments since then, but I never have gotten the feeling she wants to get-it-on. Besides, she has two kids and her husband's a nice guy.

But your situation, Kat, sounds as if a scheming divorced women (plural) at your workplace would love to get back at you via your husband, even if he had 4". Think about it.

 

[Kat]

Originally posted by citygirl@Jul 8 2005, 06:59 AM
Hi Kat! I think you handled this situation wonderfully, especially the intial 'out from left field' comments by your co-worker. As others said she didn't mean any harm, just wanted to get some advice. Though she should have gotten to know you better before asking something so personal.

Its ironic how hung guys can be treated like objects just like women!!

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Thanks citygirl! I agree that she didn't mean any harm, and as I've gotten to know her better over the last few weeks she is a really cool lady.

kat

 

[Kat]

Originally posted by thirteenbyseven@Jul 8 2005, 08:56 AM
Now I assume by your description of a gym and work associates that this is not "Lou's Brake & Transmission" over on W25th & Pearl. So what we are really talking about are professional women with careers, egos, and possibly some hiddens issues with you who would love to "try him on for size" behind your back.



But your situation, Kat, sounds as if a scheming divorced women (plural) at your workplace would love to get back at you via your husband, even if he had 4". Think about it.

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Both of us work for a large company so that explains the gym. My husband uses it every day so guys do see him regularly in the locker room/showers. In regards to women wanting to "try him on for size" I think that could apply to any good looking guy (forget about size). I mean, we all check other people out to some degree even if it is totaly innocent. I just don't think many people would be so spiteful as to actually want to fuck my husband to get back at me. And by the way...why would they want to get back at me...I'm a really nice person, LOL!!

kat

 

[thirteenbyseven]

I'm sure you are Kat!

 

[SexyJean]

Originally posted by thirteenbyseven@Jul 8 2005, 09:56 AM
My G/F only loves to show me off in vacation spots like nudist resorts or beaches.

Thirteenbyseven, I had meant to ask you this over the summer when I read your post but got sidetracked.

For the last 2 years, my husband and I have been invited to a nudist beach and getaway. We haven't gone yet, but next summer we're either going to have to go or tell them to stop inviting us permanently. 3 couples our age -- all friends -- have gone. My husband has never been to a nudist beach, I have (about 5 or 6 years ago). It was OK...if we go, it'd really just be to hang out with friends rather than the excitement of being at the camp.

I'm wondering if there's alot of joking and kidding among women towards well-endowed men. None of my gf's have ever seen or heard about my husband's size and I'm wondering if it's something he or I need to worry about. You mentioned your gf liked to "show you off" -- we're in the opposite situation, I think he'd just like to lay low.

How did you feel going to the nudist places? Were you ever made uncomfortable? What about your wife or gf -- how'd she handle the situation?

I'm wondering if it's something that once women at these camps see a guy, they pretty much get their fill right away looking and gawking. Or is it going to be a constant avalance of stares and "oh my gods" and women and guys coming up and asking questions about how big it gets, sexual practices, etc.

I didn't mind comments years ago when I went about my breasts because I was just with some gf's. But this is a couples event, and I'm wondering if our friends and the others at the beach are going to be probing or just ignore the two of us.

 

[BigBen]

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Originally posted by aloofman@Jun 14 2005, 10:21 AM
If he&#39;s a super-huge guy, then word will get around because people like to talk.  It was really only a matter of time before a bunch of people had heard about it.  I wouldn&#39;t think that for a woman to ask another woman out of the blue would be as common though.
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I think the big difference is that my husband and I work at the same place now. That has never happened before. I guess people at his old work places could have known but then, they didn&#39;t know me...at least only on occasional company related social events. It just is weird to know that other collegues could know something that personal. I know it sounds strange coming from someone who posts on lpsg but I feel that my comments here (while seen by many people) are more anonymous. I can talk about some pretty personal sexual stuff here and not have to deal with the chat behide my back (particularly at work). The woman who asked me is really sweet and we spent alot of time together last week (breakfast, lunch, dinner). We hit it off. I just wasn&#39;t expecting that question.

kat
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I learned a long time ago that women do talk. Some women will do it at the drop of a hat, others have to "have a few drinks" to loosen up their tongues. This has been pointed out to me many times in my life with one of the most notable examples was while I was in college the time several carloads of inebriated sorority house girls showed up at my door one night and asked if they could "see". Another year another house had their annual pledge scavenger hunt around campus. Points were earned for checking off items. Some "smart" upperclasswoman thought that it would be a "hoot" if I was on the list.
Now, many years later, I still occassionally come across the situation because women do talk. I am under no illusions though as some men are just as guilty. I have on more than one occassion actually had people track me down because they had heard. I try and keep an even keel about it and sometimes it can be embarrassing and sometimes amusing. But it can be very disquieting when someone out of the blue shows up at your front door. And yes, men get stalked too.

 

[Simon9]

If several carloads of drunken sorority girls showed up one night on my door, obsessed with making an acquaintance with my willy, I should think it only basic Christian charity to invite them in for coffee.

Which they could have in the morning.


Relax, I&#39;m just kidding.





I wouldn&#39;t really offer them coffee.