Street harassment

[EllieP]

Wanna talk a real woman's issue?

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Yes, it's horrible, and sadly, a lot of us have come to expect it and brace ourselves for it.

Still I wonder what these boys expect us to do. Are they ever successful? These people scare me because they sound desperate, and I'm not sure what will happen.

 

[TexanStar]

I was gonna link the same video, but I was worried the discussion here would degenerate due to the prevalance of Black Men doing the catcalling and general suspicion that a lot of guys here won't see it as harassment. ("He said God Bless You, he's just being polite", etc").

As for the behavior, it's really gross.

Edit: Yeah, first thing outta AYC10's mouth is a remark about the racial makeup: http://www.lpsg.com/403497-is-it-just-me-or.html

 

[Tight_N_Juicy]

Yeah, I'm glad I live in a place that kind of shit doesn't actually happen that often... I can walk down the street here and maybe get a whistle or 2, but not harassed like that.

The thing is, any of those guys would likely be elated to have 108 women hound them like that, and they don't even bother to think about it from a woman's POV. They're very small minded.

There are also women who crave that kind of attention, and actually encourage it (and likely have self-esteem issues). I dunno, I know damn well I don't ever
want to be talked *at* like that.

 

[XXXWolverineXXX]

I don't think it was so much as harassment as it was a gimmick for tv. I like how they said she was just wearing pants and a shirt but it was all tight to show of her butt and boobs. It was very much reality tv and we all should know how much real reality it is.

 

[XXXWolverineXXX]

With that being said as long as they are not touching her or impeding her way. I see no problem with them giving out a complement are we as a society that thinned skin and are women so fragile that as a man I can't say hello lady you look very nice today have a good day or heaven forbid I open a door for you and say how are you today.

 

[emperor]

She is getting unwarranted attention (different from HARASSMENT) specifically due to her body type resembling that of a rap video 'hoe'. I think its all a publicity stunt and that she should get over herself, she isnt all that facially attractive, just has a phat booty.

her face:

 

[XXXWolverineXXX]

She is getting unwarranted attention (different from HARASSMENT) specifically due to her body type resembling that of a rap video 'hoe'. I think its all a publicity stunt and that she should get over herself, she isnt all that facially attractive, just has a phat booty.

her face:

I agree with you 100% but now we are both male pigs;-)

 

[TexanStar]

as a man I can't say hello lady you look very nice today

If you're talking to your female friends, of course you can say this.

If you're passing a random woman on the street that you don't know, yes, quit being a pervy asshole. If a woman wants your opinion on her physical appearance she'll ask for it.

she isnt all that facially attractive, just has a phat booty.

her face:

Yeah, clearly you two are a real pair of gentlemen. I'll shed a tear for the extent that feminism has unfairly wounded you.

:cry:

 

[912232]

In my opinion:

#1 Racial makeup has zero to do with it.

#2 There is a BIG difference of someone calling out an unsolicited compliment e.g. "I just saw a thousand dollars walking by" or "Hello beautiful" vs. the two creepy guys that were a bit intimidating and kept following her after it was apparent she wasn't interested.

I dress up and love compliments as long as they're respectful. How does one define "respectful"? It's wide a varied. "Hey Mammi, you look fine..." is fine, in my world. "Hey baby, I'd like to fuck your brains out..." or "Nice tits baby..." is not.

I wouldn't dress up and try to look my best minus my spouse being around if I didn't want to look good for myself...and lets be honest...others, both to my female peers and men.

My political makeup is that of a progressive liberal, however, this video and what the supposed grievance is trying to portray is BS IMO.

With that said, this is simply my opinion and I respect the opinions of others whether I agree or disagree.

 

[sizequeenNY]

Today a guy asked if I wanted to get in his car. Some days are worse than others. I dress down when going to some areas. BUT I will say this about the video- a big part of it was in Harlem where it is one of the worst areas for it

There are times I keep walking and ignore it
There are times I roll my eyes
There are times I curse the guy out

The reality of it is more serious than that video. A woman weeks ago was attacked after ignoring someone's advances. She was stabbed in the throat

As for the IDIOTS on here who think it's ok or because she is asking for it because of her body type- fuck you both, seriously, you are just as bad as these guys

When a guy compliments a woman in a polite way, it isn't offensive. If he is whistling, it can be annoying but easy to shrug off. If a guy walks to corner you or get too close, there is concern if he is going to go crazy when his advances are ignored

 

[XXXWolverineXXX]

I don't think any women should be treated bad for the way she dresses but it a fact that if she dresses sexy and walks down a bad street I think that is just bad judgment on her part good bad it's just the way the world is.

 

[XXXWolverineXXX]

I will just continue to do what I do which is if I see a beautify woman and want to complement her I will. It's just plane stupid to think I should say excuse me but but I would like to pay you a complement but before I do that I would like you permission to do so and for legal reasons before I do so could you sign the release form.

 

[Tight_N_Juicy]

I don't think it was so much as harassment as it was a gimmick for tv. I like how they said she was just wearing pants and a shirt but it was all tight to show of her butt and boobs. It was very much reality tv and we all should know how much real reality it is.

The guys *following* her.. the guys who call her out for not responding to their 'compliments'.. the fucking piece of shit who said "I just saw a thousand dollars walk by"... She was not asking to be treated that way just by wearing clothes that reveal that she's female. Plenty of those cat calls were definitely harassment, and I'd love to throat punch whoever raised some of those boys in that video.

Reality is full of assholes, and maybe shedding some light on the situation and making an effort to help people get some perspective and maybe see the error in their ways doesn't seem like a terrible idea.

 

[emperor]

This hilarious parody should put things into perspective for all the feminists making a big deal: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=UpJYnLrzB8I

 

[Tight_N_Juicy]

That's pretty stupid.

Like, really. Not even remotely funny.

 

[deleted848353]

That's pretty stupid.

Like, really. Not even remotely funny.

I agree but then probably him and xxxwolverinexxx are the kind of guys who would do it and not care if it makes the women in question uncomfortable. Both of them are gonna be blocked.

 

[Tight_N_Juicy]

That's one of the good things about LPSG. You can ignore someone and you don't have to hear them say stupid shit like "You should be thankful someone's acknowledging you for being beautiful!"

You also don't have to worry about them attacking you for it either.

 

[emperor]

I agree but then probably him and xxxwolverinexxx are the kind of guys who would do it and not care if it makes the women in question uncomfortable. Both of them are gonna be blocked.

Spare me your assumptions. Im not the type to approach strangers on the street, it's not my style. This woman makes a big deal out of unwarranted attention. If people aren't 'hollering' they will be leering...should we ban that too? Ban gazing? Ban peripheral glances? Where do we stop?

btw, not to toot my horn but I'm very handsome (I've been told I look like a combination of Prince and A$AP Rocky...willing to pm my photo to anyone who is interested) and receive NUMEROUS unwarranted attention from women. Walking to a 7-11 late at night and having some drunk college girls yell out their cars at me for eg, or being at the mall and having teenage girls come up to me saying 'my friend wants to talk to you'. Oh the pain!

At best, unwarranted attention is flattering, at worse it is just another of the infinite variations of 'hassles' being out on the street. The video on the OP wants to make it something bigger than that, and this woman and the 'hollaback' movement should just get over themselves.

 

[Tight_N_Juicy]

The reality of it is more serious than that video. A woman weeks ago was attacked after ignoring someone's advances. She was stabbed in the throat

emperor, This^ is why it's not ok. It's not just annoying, sometimes the shit is down right dangerous. Some of the guys in that vid, were getting offended and verbalized that she should be responding, even though she clearly is not asking for the attention. Her clothes were not revealing, maybe form fitting.. but she was fully clothed and not provoking anyone in any way.

Other women on this site can vouch for the fact that this wasn't just a TV gimmick this shit really is what we live with.

Edit: *points down* I do agree, a nice, simple compliment is just fine.. but some of the things said in that vid were just a big FUCK NO.

 

[SchlongusGermanius]

she is cute and has a great body. Some of the guys are very pushing, but some just seem to want to make her a compliment.