Stretching your boyfriend

[DiaDussol]

So my boyfriend and I have been together two years. I'm definitely more versatile than he is. Because of my size, I end up bottoming alot, I think cause I have more experience, and because he's in pain for a few weeks after I fuck him. Needless to say, I get to top once every two months or so.

Any tips on how to stetch him open for a more permanent basis. Once we get started he's fine, but hell to recuperate.

Thanks for any tips and advice.

 

[DiaDussol]

One other thing, I'm more oval shaped than round so I really stretch the sides of his ass the most.

I've tried varying the position to see if it helps but nothing has so far.

 

[yngjock20]

Dr. Drew as well as Dr. Sue say that if someone has difficulty with anal sex, then it isn't for them.

Maybe some digital stimulation at best, but as far as penile penetration, I'd say it's a wrap for him.

IMO

 

[Bbucko]

If he wants to be more open, he'll open up. If he wants to remain tight then he'll resist.

Fisting's a great way to stretch anybody out, and fucking a rosebud is way hot.

 

[B_Italian1]

Any tips on how to stetch him open for a more permanent basis. Once we get started he's fine, but hell to recuperate.

It would be easier if you would accept the fact that he doesn't want to do that. Maybe he doesn't want to risk becoming incontinent or having to "recuperate" each time.

 

[D_Audemar_Awfulass]

Tightness is in a man's brains, the sphyncter will relax if the man is willing to do that. Yet, there may be unconsciousss reasons why he doesnt, for which he will need some therapy or help, if he wants to. Now, poppers usually helps too, a man can do that a feww times and it doesnt have to become addicted to it.

 

[B_Nick4444]

Tightness is in a man's brains, the sphyncter will relax if the man is willing to do that. Yet, there may be unconsciousss reasons why he doesnt, for which he will need some therapy or help, if he wants to. Now, poppers usually helps too, a man can do that a feww times and it doesnt have to become addicted to it.

the few times I've tried receiving, I've had the same problem ... had heard about poppers, and of course, booze, but none of that seemed to help ... wonder what a therapist I found leafing thru the yellow pages would say ...

 

[D_zzb06bco]

I have to say using toys really helped me, esp for taking big dicks. Had a friend that worked at a porn shop n he gave me some dildos. I started using them all the time, daily for while then whenever i wanted to have a good work out lol. I also had a friend that would help me out by doing sessions on my ass with all the toys. He really helped to stretch my hole out and get it used to takin dicks. He was about 6.5" around. At first I could never take him, after working my ass out for a couple months it got to the point that I could take his cock no problem.

Now I don't have problems takin big dicks or toys any time I want. It's made bottoming a lot of fun. And hung guys def like that they don't have to spend an hour tryin to get it all in.

 

[B_Think_Kink]

It would be easier if you would accept the fact that he doesn't want to do that. Maybe he doesn't want to risk becoming incontinent or having to "recuperate" each time.

Oh please, if that was the case I'm sure he would have spoken up about it.

 

[DiaDussol]

It would be easier if you would accept the fact that he doesn't want to do that. Maybe he doesn't want to risk becoming incontinent or having to "recuperate" each time.

My only response to this one is that he is the one who instigates getting penetrated. I know it's hard for him so I don't force the issue. He gets the "tickle" as it were and starts the whole thing. I just feel bad afterward cause it's great at the time, but I know it's going to be a long time before we can really do it again. He even attempts in between healing times but it just hurts to much.

To MexMuscle: I also know that anal control is very much in the brain. MOST OF THE TIME. There is a period during or after penetration when the opening is relaxed. THAT does NOT happen on him. He's always tight, painfully so at times.

To BigFeelsBest78: Another friend suggested that in a chat on here on Friday. I suggested it to my significant on Saturday and he said it sounded like fun. He just wants to start out with some smaller stuff than what I own. So we are going shopping next weekend. We're going to try it. Have you every by any chance used "Anal-Ease"? He want's to try it but wonders if anyone has ever had weird side effects.

Anybody every try those numbing gels such as "Anal-Ease"? I'd like to hear any stories about them you have.

 

[B_Think_Kink]

Google is your best bet for results on the product.

 

[D_zzb06bco]

I haven't used anal-ease. Guess I haven't felt a need to. May wanna try it at first to see if it helps. The smaller toys is a good idea. I started smaller but quickly worked up to bigger n thicker sizes.

 

[kundalinikat]

My advice is, don't use any numbing gels, because if your guy ever becomes seriously hurt he may not feel it at the time!

The best thing to help comfort with anal sex is, frankly, more of it. I think you may be allowing your boyfriend to beg out of the amount of sex you want. If You want your boyfriend to get used to your size, practice practice practice Seriously, I have had some large men and in my humble experience the thing that makes it easier is to go at it more often. The more often he experiences your giant wang, the less extreme it will feel to him.

 

[bigbrick]

Since it sounds like he wants you inside, get him a set of graduated butt plugs. Have him start with wearing the small one around the house and over time work up to gradually bigger and bigger sizes. That plus lots of lube and some dildo play with something a little smaller than you before you enter him should help a lot.

 

[PECTACULAR]

Are you trying it with him on top? Have him squat on your penis while you lie on your back. He will mentally and physically have more control. Works wonders. And when it comes to lube, go for the best and alot of it! Not a place to try and save money!

 

[DiaDussol]

I like the graduated butt plug idea. I really don't mind what I do to his ass cause he has the most beautiful ass.

We got a couple for him to try and the smaller ones went great. BTW, huge shot afterward. HE LOVED IT. The medium one was uncomfortable for him.

kundalinikat: I took your advise and we're not using numbing gels.

We have tried him on top but still had problems. Allthough so far the toy play is going well so we're going to do that for a while. Besides, he's never been much for oral but likes sucking on me while I'm using the toys on him. ALL GOOD for me

Lot less discomfort afterward this time, granted I didn't penetrate him, just the toys. So that is a plus. It's been a week and he just sent me a text that he want's me to use the toys on him tonight in the sling so the week turnaround is a lot better. Thanks to everyone for their suggestions. I'll keep everyone posted. Hopefully get a pic or two with some of the butt plugs in.