Strip club adventures

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  1. D_Selmus_Swallow

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    To set the stage: I have a friend who is a dancer at a strip club out around my way, and of late I've been dropping in on the place mostly out of boredom and also because my best friend, who recently went through a messy ending to a long (5+ years) relationship has had some desire to get out of the house and "see the sights", as it were.

    Now, I've never been the biggest fan of strip clubs: they're pricey (10-15 dollar cover at any decent one around), the drinks are expensive, and plus the whole enterprise is just a giant hustle to get your money, the dances are a tease with no sex, there's that palpable air of desperation coming off most of the dancers that mercenary motives, and not actual pleasure in the job, are what's keeping them there, the other patrons being creeps or jerks or just indifferent, and so on and so forth. Going to this one place has been more due to the fact that it closes about three hours later than any bar out here and I have a friend on the inside so why not?

    This past weekend, though, stepped the game up a notch and into the "I better check myself before I wreck myself/am I dreaming?" zone.

    There was a goth-punk burlesque/performance art-y show rolling through the club, and being a guy with some familiarity with that scene (lot of black in my wardrobe and a lot of punk and metal in my music preferences) I figured I'd go and see some girls more up to my standards (alternative-y) than the usual strippers.

    Speeding it along: My friend and I missed the first show we tried to get to on Thursday (it was running all weekend) because of snow and late work schedules, so we ended up stuck there at 2 in the morning with few others ( week day snowstorm keeping the crowds at bay) with little to do except wait at the bar and talk to the bartender, who remembers us whenever we show up thanks to us being fairly atypical looking compared to most patrons and because we're friends with a dancer.

    About an hour later, I notice a dancer getting on stage that I'd vaguely remembered from a brief sighting the last time I was there, and who fit my standards perfectly: raven hair, tats, and piercings and a wonderful body.

    This, of course, got me away from the bar and towards the stage for her set. It was good, and of course I showed my appreciation. I tipped well and complimented her on her Misfits skull tattoo, and that seemed to get her, because she found me later and we got to talking for a bit. She offered me a private dance, so I said sure. We went back to the area for that, and the grinding began. Full nude by the way.

    And then she found my cock. Well, to say the least her reaction was pretty emphatic: "Oh WOW, my god!" And while you never know with a stripper or anyone trying to sell you anything...it seemed pretty genuine. After a while of grinding and dirty talk and kissing and so forth, I decided to call it a night. She invited me to come back tomorrow so I could catch the show, and I said I would.

    Jump to the future: Friday rolls in, and in Groundhog Day like fashion, the same events of yesterday repeat themselves: snow, my friend getting off work late, etc. But we make it in time and we happen to run into my stripper friend (off work at the time) randomly there with one of her friends at the club so we sit near each other out on the floor. I'm not seeing my new stripper friend at all, until someone randomly comes up behind me and kisses me on the cheek: there she is! She goes off to work the floor, and I'm waiting for this show to get going. It isn't until around 3am that the meat and potatoes of the show gets going...and it is a spectacle. Bondage, fire-shallowing, grinders sending sparks flying, chicks whipping out dildoes and sucking them off on stage, etc. By this point my stripper has found her way over to me and is grinding away for the entire hour on me alone, and it's feeling pretty good.

    The show ends, I head back to the bar...and then another attractive stripper, this one a beautiful black girl, starts chatting me up at the bar, complimenting me on my looks, etc. I'm wary but engaged, wondering if this is someone trying to string me along for some cash, when Goth/Punk Stripper lets call makes her way over. Now I'm being taken back for a two on one scenario.

    What followed was vigorous, and included everything from grinding and dick stroking to at the end some pussy licking on my part to them and them to each other.

    Damn.
    My cock and my looks are a topic of conversation throughout this, something I'm pleasantly surprised about.

    What happens next is where the story goes off the rails. They stop this, and then offer to go back to the "very" private area: The Champagne Room.

    Now, I know what Chris Rock says to the contrary, but there can most definitely be sex had in the champagne room. For a price. And that's where I got hit with the offer.

    Man, let me tell you...tempting though it was, I had to turn it down that night. While I still would have money in the bank and my sex drive was at overheating...I pulled back from the brink. I gathered up my drunk friend, paid up and we hit the road.

    Of course, while promising I'd be back to G/P stripper. And I most likely will be.
     
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    So now here is the question: where to from here?

    This is clearly an attractive woman, my kind of woman in terms of looks and tastes in music and such, and from the time I've seen her to now it's been a fun ride...but at the same time, I don't like being hustled for anything- and most certainly would want to get my sex without all the upfront costs involved here (although I knew going in it was a strip club and "pay to play" is a law set in stone). Yet there it was, a threesome with two women far more attractive than anyone I've been with certainly, and I backed off, because I'd rather be looked at as more than a score, a john getting milked. And yet...I'd like to see what more this girl could offer me, and on what terms, if I see her again.

    So what, my readers, would you do?
     
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    Wow. Interesting scenario indeed. Tentatively I would say go for it. As long as you understand that it is what it is and practice SAFE sex. These women are masters of seduction when it comes to getting that money. I do not have much experience with strippers but I do know that I have never believed a word any of them have said to me. If you can take it for what it is (a business transaction) and not catch feelings then hey, have a good time. I do not know either of these women so I cannot say for sure but I just wonder if they were genuinely interested then why does the scene have to take place at the club and for a cost? It's business for them.

    I once dated a girl that was a former stripper and she gave me quite a bit of insight into the game.
     
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    Avoid .. This is what will happen if you don't.

    The entire time you are back there they will be asking for more and more money (I will do this for an extra $$, ow the song is over time for more $$). You will not be in a porno and you will be thinking of the money more than the good time, you will also be wondering if someone is going to walk in on you or not (while they might be fine having sex there the manager prob. is not ok with it), after it is over in about 10 min (run out of money or cum which ever comes first) they will show you the way out and you will be out $300 ++ (there are 2 of them).

    The next day you will wonder if the condom was down all the way, how many other men they have done that with, if they are clean.. then you will go get tested for STDs and worry yourself to no end (chances are you are fine, but still).

    so .. just avoid or get an escort at least you would know what you are in for there ..
     
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    Ask meet her away from the club, on her day off, or after hours, and see if the attractions to each other are the same.
     
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    Good point. If she is really into him, this should not be a problem. Unless she hits him with the, "I don't date men from the club" line.
     
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    Years ago I worked as a dancer. Let me tell you the chances that she wants anything other than your wallet are slim. Sorry.
     
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    My wife worked 12 years as a stripper. They don't only do it for the money, any more than any of us do our jobs 'just for the money'. The idea that they 'must be desperate' comes from our (not mine) belief that stripping is a low, shameful, profession. What absolute bollocks. Obviously, some strippers are unhappy with their work. But that's true of workers in every profession, isn't it?

    The thing to do is to remember that when she's working, she's acting. When she's alone with you she's not (unless you're paying her to be alone with you - if you get my drift).
     
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    Dude...call it a night and stop while your ahead....that place will absorb all your money and so will she...She don't care about your dick, your looks, your muscles, your job, no she just cares about how much money you have, and if your willing to spend it now. Now if your a millionaire, then hey have fun, if you can afford it. But I don't think your that rich. If you have a few bucks in your bank, protect it and don't give it all to some girl, who when you have no money, will leave you for the next guy who does. Take your money, go to a bar, find the same type of girl, and buy her drinks and talk to her, maybe take her out somewhere, you will probably get laid, and you'll find she wants you for you.....

    If you weren't the attached type of guy, I'd say go in the champagne room and have some fun. But you seem to be attached kind, and that is most importantly why you need to run....

    Anyway, it's your life, I wish you the best of luck....
     
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    Exactly. When she's working, she's working, and wants to get paid.

    Now she knows that she is your type, and she knows you have a big cock. If she wants to interact with you outside the club, the ball is in her court so to speak.

    I applaud you from walking away from the money sink even though the situation sounds super smokin hot. I've always said that the only way I would pay for sex is if I won the lottery and money became no object...but it is tough to still uphold that when the situation is right there. (This one time in Montreal...well, never mind)

    Get her number, or give her yours (if you haven't already) and see if either of you calls the other, to meet at a different place and get to know each other outside the club. Then you'll know if she really is interested.
     
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    Yeah, uh, well, hot sex with the stripper, her real number, a meeting for later today for more fun (outside the club)...you get the idea.

    I think I did alright for myself!

    :cool:
     
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    How much did you end up paying? :p
     
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    Value for money my friend, value for money...:wink:
     
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    The $7 rum-and-cokes killed me though. :biggrin1:
     
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    Nice man....nice. :cool: indeed.

    And so far as $7 rum-an-cokes go....don't go out at a club in Boston lol! That's on the inexpensive side of average.
     
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    Keep us posted and let us know how everything goes outside the club. Have fun:biggrin1:
     
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    A man at a strip club is a human ATM... the chemicals stir in the brain when you see the tits and ass, and although you know the "OMG, you are so hot" lines are bullshit, it feels good. You might as well have a magnetic strip in your ass crack so they can swipe your card.

    That said, if you have the cash and are willing to go for the ride, then go for it. Otherwise, stay away.

    I like the idea of asking her to see you outside of the club to see if there's anything between you... but keep in mind that if you do hit it off, you'll have a girlfriend who grinds against guys and shoves her tits in other guys faces. Can you live with that?
     
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    I'd mostly agree with the last poster. If your looking for love or a girlfriend, I'd be wary. Most guys don't appear to be able to handle their girl stripping after a little time.

    Now for the other side. I too share all your worries about strip clubs in general. Strip clubs are mostly about making money, and that means management too. As long as you know that going in, you or any guy should be fine. Now I've known of guys who gave there entire paycheck to a stripper in one night, and had to borrow money until the next one....please don't be that guy. Now fun can most certainly be had at some strip clubs, but I'd say that probably happens earlier in the day than at night. Nighttime is a lot more about the money IMO. Now if you can spare it, and feel reasonably safe, I say go for it. If it doesn't feel right, I'd say trust your first judgment...it's rarely wrong. Sounds like your first judgement was spot on though. Nothing wrong with a more even playing field.
     
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    Your alarm bells are going off for a reason. She's a stripper. You're an attractive guy with a big dick. Act like it. Act as if. As if you've done all of this before and she is just another vagina in the sea of lovely snatch.

    Get her out of there. Put her on your terms, your turf. Do it your way.

    In the end, remember, she is just tits and ass. You aren't going to marry her. No worries.
     
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    Ugh. Just...ugh.
     
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