Big Dreamer
Experimental Member
So, you have a thing for passionately pervy women? If nothing else, you have to love the alliteration. :biggrin1:
*nods* Alliteration reaches almost orgasmic levels when it comes from you, Naughty.
So, you have a thing for passionately pervy women? If nothing else, you have to love the alliteration. :biggrin1:
or astrology more important than astronomy) I lose interest immediately.
Anyone else get really horny when the ladies are forthright and intelligent.
It gives me the horn so.
Do you think I have a little sub side coming through or is it just admiration for a peer.
Give me a smart strong woman who loves a bit of mental sparring before a hungry torrid tryst of heightened awareness and tension that unleashes itself in a explosive series of flash-bulb moments that will be imprinted in my mind long after we pant in each other's arms.
Wow!
You wore me out just reading that description...:biggrin1:
Anyone else get really horny when the ladies are forthright and intelligent.
It gives me the horn so.
Do you think I have a little sub side coming through or is it just admiration for a peer.
Does this make me a "dumb submissive?"
I think not.
You sound like an intelligent, independent, strong-willed woman.
It seems you also know what you want sexually - I get the sense from your post that you and your significant other have a reciprocal, mutually beneficial relationship.
In contrast, I have a friend who has to have dinner on the table when her "husband" gets home or he's pissed. She puts up with so much misogynistic crap on a daily basis that it just disturbs me. I think it's her lack of self confidence that keeps her in this rut of a relationship. Recently they went for over a year and a half without sex, but she hung in there and eventually they had sex again. She's submissive on a completely different level but certainly not independent or strong-willed. I don't understand either one of them - why he would treat her like this, or why she puts up with it. They both lead a basically unhappy existence, but neither makes a move to change it. Life's too short for that crap.
I could call my friend a "dumb submissive", but not you, HollyBlue.
Are there children involved, Fluoro? I've known women that were afraid to distance themselves from domineering assholes because they feared that the end result is that they would be saddled with all the responsibility of rasing the kids after the asshole got the boot. Ironically, in the specific case I'm referring to, the woman in question was the only one involved in the kids lives anyway.
You are correct, Fluoro. There's a big difference between voluntarily assuming any given role because it has a complementary function in your life (as in the case of Holly) and assuming any given role because you feel that you have no choice, or you believe "that's the way things are supposed to be" or "I'm scared to try to change my situation."
I still say that a man who treats his partner as you describe above is simply overcompensating for his feelings of being weak and inadequate.