Struggling To Find Size Queens

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On numerous occasions girls have lauded my size, so much so that I became kind of addicted to the intoxicating feeling of turning someone into a size queen (it happened at least three times) or seeing the excitement in their eyes when they first lay eyes on your penis.

These occurrences were always in the context of girls having sex with me for other attributes, with my penis becoming only a bonus. Recently, I started looking for girls who actively seek large guys.

I've found a few who declare that preference (on dating profiles like OK Cupid or verbally). I've subtly made them aware of my size but to my surprise this has not led to one single sexual encounter.

In one glaring case I had two very steamy dates with someone in which we made out intensely. She felt my bulge and we discussed her preference for thick members, we kept on making out in the street so intensely that some drunk guys were shouting encouragements from across the street and she was clearly dripping ... Only for her to decide to part ways. I never saw her again.

Basically: it seems that most women like a big cock but almost no one wants a guy who mentions it before sex? To the point of not even trying it?

Just to anticipate any objections: I'm sexually very active, it's not an attractiveness issue. But I'm yet to get a size queen to want to have sex with me on the basis of my size. Does anyone have any advice?
 
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Actual size queens are a tiny, tiny minority out of women who are into men. Most women don't care. General rule of thumb I would suggest is not to bring up your size unless the woman brings it up. Even when I had multiple FWBs and did casual, if someone sent an unsolicited dick pic or started talking a bunch about how amazing their dick was? Pass. Not interested.
 

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Size is a novelty item for most women. Women joke about large being a preference, but it’s not really true when you get right down to it. It’s just a tired old joke. Like @Fade says, size queens are few and far between, and even they would admit to choosing partners based on other attributes first, rather than size. For them, size is a bonus once their other criteria is met. Just my impressions, cuz I am definitely not into size.

Calling @TinyPrincess for confirmation, though. She’s size queen royalty!
 

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Size is a novelty item for most women. Women joke about large being a preference, but it’s not really true when you get right down to it. It’s just a tired old joke. Like @Fade says, size queens are few and far between, and even they would admit to choosing partners based on other attributes first, rather than size. For them, size is a bonus once their other criteria is met. Just my impressions, cuz I am definitely not into size.

Calling @TinyPrincess for confirmation, though. She’s size queen royalty!
This is very interesting and what I suspected. I'm a bit confused since these girls had actually vocalised (or written) their preference for large members. One even said to apply only if well-endowed. My being as frank about it however caused the conversation to end abruptly.

Basically, a large penis is usually far down the list of priorities in what a woman looks for in a man, even for size queens, and is simply a bonus?
 
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I hope the ladies on the site will correct me if I'm wrong, but just as a general rule, I would suspect that if a guy is making a sexual encounter all about his own penis size that a woman might feel like, "What do you need me for? You and your hand can go off and enjoy your big dick to your heart's content." A partner who seems egotistical or narcissistic and overly preoccupied with his own body, will make anyone, even someone who likes larger penises, head for the hills. (I'm not saying that's what you're doing necessarily, just as a general rule)

There has to be more than just dick size involved, even with a so-called size queen. Unless there's some strong reason to bring it up, it's best, in my experience to just let one's size speak for itself. Because if you have a reputation as a great fuck who also just happens to have a large penis--rather than just another guy who is hung up on his own hungness--then most likely the size queens will start finding you. ;) (Although again I'm not say all of this applies to you personally--just speaking very broadly.)
 

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One even said to apply only if well-endowed. My being as frank about it however caused the conversation to end abruptly.

I think that her saying this might mean that she won't be interested in a guy that is not well endowed, but it does not mean that she's desperate for a big dick and will have sex with anyone who has one. I imagine that she has another set of attributes that she prefers, and you didn't meet that criteria.

I feel like I learned relatively young that women don't like to hear about the size of your penis. Even if she is clearly into large ones, she probably doesn't want to hear to talk about it. I tried to flirt with a woman I really like once by telling her about my size, I didn't get the reaction I wanted and never tried that again. My face still turns bright red when I think about doing that.

I think most people don't like people who talk about their attractive attributes, especially when they imply that the person they are talking to should want them because of that attribute. If I was on a date with a very attractive woman and she kept talking about how pretty she is then I would get annoyed and end the date.
 

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This is very interesting and what I suspected. I'm a bit confused since these girls had actually vocalised (or written) their preference for large members. One even said to apply only if well-endowed. My being as frank about it however caused the conversation to end abruptly.

Basically, a large penis is usually far down the list of priorities in what a woman looks for in a man, even for size queens, and is simply a bonus?
That’s my impression. Again, I don’t really care about size, so I can’t say for sure, but that’s what I’ve gathered from the other ladies here. I mean, there might be exceptions.

I hope the ladies on the site will correct me if I'm wrong, but just as a general rule, I would suspect that if a guy is making a sexual encounter all about his own penis size that a woman might feel like, "What do you need me for? You and your hand can go off and enjoy your big dick to your heart's content." A partner who seems egotistical or narcissistic and overly preoccupied with his own body, will make anyone, even someone who likes larger penises, head for the hills. (I'm not saying that's what you're doing necessarily, just as a general rule)

There has to be more than just dick size involved, even with a so-called size queen. Unless there's some strong reason to bring it up, it's best, in my experience to just let one's size speak for itself. Because if you have a reputation as a great fuck who also just happens to have a large penis--rather than just another guy who is hung up on his own hungness--then most likely the size queens will start finding you. ;) (Although again I'm not say all of this applies to you personally--just speaking very broadly.)

I tend to agree. If a big dick is all you got, why bother? It guarantees nothing. Certainly not good sex. Been there. It’s like a guy who brags about his money, or job or his car. It’s kind of a turn-off. Maybe it’s something that a woman will like in the long term, but if a guy brags about up front, it just ends up making the guy look like a douche.
 

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I'll definitely admit to being a size queen but as pointed out already by @Fade and @LaFemme, it's really just a bonus.

Even when I'm merely looking for a one-night stand, his size is one of the last things I check - if I even bother to check.

As much as I like being stretched, I rather have a confident guy able to use whatever he possesses. I'm looking for great sex more than great cocks. I pick my guys on everything but their size most times.

A few minor comments - not to be bitchy but ...
  • Don't say "girls" when you mean women or ladies
  • Don't talk about your size. Guys claiming to be big are a total turn off
  • Your story with the lady preferring thicker guys... Well, you're not exactly girthy. At least not to me.
 
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Oh yeah! I want to add that in my personal experiences... If a man talks a big game about his dick or his sexual prowess (whether in general or about a particular act) I've been left underwhelmed every single time. Never as big (and I don't consider myself a size queen) as they think it is and never as good as they think it is.
 

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It doesn't even have to be about their size. Some guys think there amazing in bed and brag about it - news flash, they aren't.

I nice guy who can dance - now that's more like it. If he can dance, he can move his body elsewhere as well...
 

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to the OP: if you are truly packing down there and the women you're dating are fully aware but still ghosting you then it's obviously not your dick that's the problem. it may be you as a person or your personality or something about you that is turning them away and your big dick isn't enough to save you from that. forgive the man-to-man tough love but that's the only way you're gonna correct this if your intent is to find a true size queen.

as the ladies have stated, true size queens are a major minority compared to the mass population of women out there... and even if you did find one, there's no guarantee that she will be interested in you. if you run into a real size queen, she's probably also looking for bigger dicks and rest assured, you're not the only one on her list so if you don't measure up (in other areas than your dick), she will simply drop you to the curb just as fast. the point here is that if all you got to put on the table for a true size queen is your dick then you're probably outta luck as i'm sure there is someone out there that is "bigger" than you and she's probably already found him (that's a hard pill to swallow).
 
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Sounds like your sample size is way too small to say what most women like.

My advice is never mention how big you are to a woman in advance not even if she tells you she's heard you're hung. If pressed on the subject make light of it by asking who told her, why it matters to her, why she's asking about your genitalia, if she thinks it's appropriate to ask a man about his size, etc. Be charming about it. It can be great banter with someone who's interested in going to bed with you. It can also weed out those interested only in gossip. Keep hitting the ball back into her court. Never admit aloud that you're big. Say that modesty forbids. I've kept that kind of banter going for a long time until either a woman leaves, changes the subject or invites me to bed. Sometimes the subject change has been to go to bed.

In my experience those conversations are rare though they happened more often when I was younger. Reality is that no one gets to see it until we go to bed together.

Don't be discouraged if a woman bails. That happens. Move on. In your specific example maybe make out somewhere privately so guys across the street aren't shouting at you and embarrassing her.
 

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Keep trying online some women use online to filter out men and dick size is an attribute a lot them use online dating for. I’ve ran into countless profiles with them directly stating their preference for size or them having large phallic symbols plastered all over their profile photos .
 

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Keep trying online some women use online to filter out men and dick size is an attribute a lot them use online dating for. I’ve ran into countless profiles with them directly stating their preference for size or them having large phallic symbols plastered all over their profile photos .
Some of them might even be women ;)
 
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Keep trying online some women use online to filter out men and dick size is an attribute a lot them use online dating for. I’ve ran into countless profiles with them directly stating their preference for size or them having large phallic symbols plastered all over their profile photos .

I'm not calling any one individual out, but most of the "women" chasing hard after cock on here and elsewhere (not all)? It isn't actually women. There are a whole lot of catfishing asshole men who think that they're entitled to see whatever they want of anyone, no matter if they lie/pretend to be someone else to do so.
 

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I'm not calling any one individual out, but most of the "women" chasing hard after cock on here and elsewhere (not all)? isn't actually women.
Totally agree - however most are fairly easy to call out - at least for us, doubt the guys even notice most of the time...
 

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Totally agree - however most are fairly easy to call out - at least for us, doubt the guys even notice most of the time...
I think that’s because the guys pretending to be women act like men wish we would act. They are the embodiment of wish fulfillment. Cock-hungry, focused on size, totally sexually available and pliable -probably not a woman.
 

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Yeah size queens are rare and women choose men for a variety of reasons besides penis size. But here's the thing, the value of a large penis extends far beyond the bedroom. It is a status symbol among men that places you in the elite and gives you a moral authority that can't be touched.

So please don't let all this talk about women not caring about size make you think that size doesn't matter. It does. Just not really for sex.