Stultifying sex?

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  1. Drifterwood

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    Ladies, when would you consider a woman to be boring sexually? What are the signs and limitations?

    Please start another thread about what makes men boring phuquers, but here, I am interested in what you would consider the things etc that make a woman sexually dull.
     
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    As a woman I find this difficult to answer. I'd rather hear what you men think makes a woman dull and boring sexually.

    If I had to guess I'd say it was lack of interest, straight sex one position no experimentation, lays there without participating, totally silent, and does things out of obigation and not because she's into it.
     
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    Yea. I could never have sex with someone if it felt like they weren't into it. Touching, kissing, hearing her enjoy it (doesn't have to be screaming or anything like that). I have heard guys who have sex with girls who aren't really attracted to them or into the sex but kind of just go along with it and I could never be that guy. I will only have sex if I feel like there is some mutual attraction and want. Im not looking to just get off.
     
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    Drifterwood: I'm no lady, heck I'm not even female! but I feel I need to answer your question. I find a lady 'boring' if she only wants to have sex in one position. I once got involved with a really over-sexed woman who only wanted intercourse and only then in the good old fashioned missionary position. Yes, lots of sex sounds great but not when its the same old sex over and over again. Variety truly is the spice of my (sex) life :biggrin:
     
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    It's stultifying if you need to ask.
     
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    the routine.

    you know how it goes.
    pinch nips.
    rub clit.
    lick lick for 30 seconds.
    expect bj for 15 minutes.
    shag.

    if i know you're playing the same scene you played with your ex i'm falling asleep.
     
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    So why wouldn't you take control?
     
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    because it turns me off.
     
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    So how is stud boy ever going to realise that there is more to sex than his routine?

    Don't you owe it to your own sexuality not to be so passive?
     
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    my sexuality IS passive.
    if i have to tell someone to pin me down it defeats the purpose.

    and if he's the kind of man who fucks to routine then he's not the man for me. so i'll move on.
    i don't really care what the acts are or the order they come in. it's the mentality that matters.
    fucking by numbers. don't paint outside the line.
     
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    Somebody that doesn't love oral sex, give or receive.
    Someone that doesn't masturbate.
    Someone that doesn't like porn.
    Someone that doesn't like toys.
    Someone who can't talk dirty, or giggles if you do.
    Someone that can't orgasm with another person, but you shouldn't mind because they are still enjoying themselves.
    Just about any inhibition regarding any erogenous zone can be stultifying,a s well as inhibitions over sexual fluids.
     
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    Lack of genuine desire.
    Lack of attention.
    Lack of responsiveness.
    Lack of creativity and imagination.
    Lack of spontaneity.

    *Cringes*

    Porn embodies my list of stultifying things. The actors desire to be paid, sex is just how they earn it. Half the time the woman's attention is on the camera not her partner. The responses, "Oh, yeah!", "Fuck me!", "You're so big!" are preprogrammed and predictable. The activities in porn are straight from a checklist regardless of the order in which they are performed. Spontaneity? Unless you are genuinely surprised that the UPS guy had another package to deliver to the barely dressed secretary, Fuggetaboutit.

    Porn is boring. Why watch when you could be doing. And doing better.
     
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    worst lover ever...
    i met him in his 30's.
    a guy who hadn't had sex until 24 {nothing wrong with that} but had watched vast amounts of porn.
    shagging like a porn flick, changing positions 5 or 6 times in rote, fixating on the visual aspects whilst never, NEVER just losing himself in the sensations or emotions.
    mr fucking by numbers loved his porn.
    and it made the woman he was with feel like an extra.

    ...the most exciting sex i ever had was with a virgin who'd seen nothing more dirty than a copy of playboy.
    he had no preconceived ideas, just did whatever felt good with an incredible enthusiasm that completely blew my mind.

    porn is so overrated.
     
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    I gotta agree with this. Unless she's lesbian or bi, she won't really know what makes a woman boring.

    So, what makes a woman boring? Passivity, expectations, lack of communication, and lack of effort even. I'm only as good as my experience, not yours.
     
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    foreplay.
    foreplay is boring.
    if i wanted my clit twiddled i'd do it myself.
     
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    i'm assuming it was a typo.
     
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    That's when it pays to be a switch. :cool:

    Chicks will generally dig erotica more than porn. Call it chromosomal.
    The most apparent sign would be predictability. Nothing gets a man's motor running like a good surprise.
     
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    So you start off sopping wet? I'm perfectly fine with no foreplay, I just thought all women needed the foreplay to get all nice and loose and wet.
     
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    the two best bits about sex:
    #1 entry. not too wet. a little bit 'ouch'.
    #2 his orgasm. those final, hip bruising thrusts.

    the rest is just filling in the time between the two.
     
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    Yeah, I've found this to be true no matter how much foreplay. A bit of spit really helps with this. My wife LOVES the initial entry. More often than not she gets her second orgasm from this.

    Is it the depth, the animalistic intensity, the pelvic bone colliding with your clit, or that he'll be done soon and you can get on with the rest of the evening? I've always been fascinated why women sometimes yell, "HARDER!" <-- this somewhat brings home my point about communication.

    This one time, I was about to cum and started those pelvic thrusts. She looked like she was about to cum herself and that got me going even harder/faster. I confused her look of beautiful agony with grimacing. She ended up telling me to slow down because I was hurting her. Needless to say I got limp, never came and called it a night.
     
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