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  1. Imported

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    fournineteen59: I stumbled upon this site, believe it or not, when I did a search for "small penis support group" thinking that would be the group that needed a group. I was surprised to find a support group for the one group I thought didn't need a support group. Guys with small penises are made fun of and dehumanized in movies and popular media. Women admire guys with big cocks. Other guys admire guys with big cocks even more. Why does a group that is so admired need a support group? This seems to be a very unique "support group." In fact, I know of no other advantaged group to have such a support group. It really seems very ironic. Any explanations? Do you understand what I mean?
     
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    Welcome fournineteen59 !

    'Guess I'll be one of the first to respond.

    As with many things in life, "all is not as it seems".
    Reality eventually sets in.

    Having a large penis (seems to be) every man's ideal and dream. Few could argue with that.

    Statiscs tell us the "big ones" are rare....the extraordinarily large ones (over ten inches in length) even rarer still.

    But with the larger sizes come even larger challenges.

    THOSE challenges are "why" this forum began....a "clearing-house" of information if you will for the larger guys to share and learn answers to their questions and the issues being faced living with a large penis.
    Where else could one go for this information? It's not a subject easily talked about or even "taught" anywhere.
    It's a serious subject for many men, really and help and answers ARE often badly needed and appreciated. And, admittedly, there have been moments of some rather lively conversation exchanged here.

    Check the topics for yourself.  Every one of the main "theme areas" has relevance to the subject; even the plight (!)  of being large. Yes, truly, some of us (although we wouldn't change a thing--we like being large!    ;)   --we often have to look upon having a large penis as somewhat of a "plight" because it's an issue to deal with at times...relationships, clothing choices, appearing in public and concealing the size, etc. Even issues from younger guys noticing (or anticipating) size growth or potential and finding ways to "ease" their concerns....all of these needs (and yearning) for information is somehow addressed day to day. Far from a "porn" site....this seems to be more of a (specialized) men's health / information website. Many of the LPSG members jealously guard and protect it as such as best  we can.  The forum has existed for about three years or so and has seen several "resurrections" and revisions. Several members here go back quite a ways from the humble beginnings when the site was first looked upon as quite the joke.  Fortunately, it has evolved into a rather meaningful place to "hang" out (pardon the pun).
    Much really useful information has been exchanged here.
    Sometimes a bit of humor. Occasionally, a more serious tone takes shape, too.  So, having a large penis is great.   Living with one can be  another matter entirely sometimes.

    We have quite a diversity represented in our membership. Men (and fortunately women as well) from all walks of life who, for the most part, launch and share useful and informative discussions.  Surprisingly, our women members are not only for the most part VERY welcomed, they have contributed wonderful insight for the men in discussing various relationship issues and their take on the subject of large penises. Their comments are invaluable at times and many of the men here all come away having learned a great deal.

    Many men join us who are "at average" or even below typical size in their manhood.  They join us  perhaps out of curiosity or even fantasy.  Most soon  learn however, that while it would be nice to "be large" there are consequences beyond one's imagination.  Still however, many of the typical regular-size men still want to be big and they express that, too. Hence, the larger than average fellas wind up learning (oftentimes) from the regular size (or smaller)  guys as well.

    Warning.....for many, reading the posts in this forum obviously can become rather  addictive, no matter your size!  

    (You've been warned!    ;D    )

    'Hope you enjoy your stay with us.
     
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    H8Monga: Addictive?  I must have a record for the most posts in a matter of two weeks here.

    Welcome, fournineteen59.  I understand completely what you've said and how you feel. I don't think I have mentioned any of those things  ::) OK I have, but one thing I haven't done was deny a need for a group like this (if I have, I apologize).  And really, it's not just a support group for guys with large penises. The people here are a support group period for anything! But read around, you'll see.
    Not everyone is hung here either...

    I understand your logic given the plight of smaller guys and how society treats either group. Small forums lack the oomph! this place has (anyone wonder why?).  There are threads on those issues etc. I say stay here, learn a bit, have fun, and don't get lost in Lurkland.
     
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    Curtis: Fournineteen,

    You ask a fair question. I could just tell you to read through the posts on this board, but it would take some time to find the substance among the bullshit. I'll try to summarize some issues.

    1) Clothing. Underwear, swimsuits and pants aren't designed for us and don't fit properly. We are limited in our choice of styles, and comfort is a consant and sometimes embarrassing challenge.

    2) Appearance. Fantasize about having a big bulge in your crotch all you want. In reality, it can be a distraction that's not always appreciated. Some people find it offensive, as if there's something we can do about it. Referring back to the clothing issue, we often must choose between what's comfortable and what's socially acceptable. For example, a high school teacher who stands in front of teenage girls all day would be well-advised to keep his genitals hidden as much as possible.

    3) Sexual mechanics. Regardless of what people say (see no. 4), there is a limit to what a vagina can accomodate. We are forced to find alternatives to "normal" copulation. There are stories here of women who, at the first sight of our genitalia, flatly refused to have sex.

    4) The myth. Does size matter? The reason the question is always asked is because the answer is never simple and opinions vary. Some women are fascinated by big dicks, and God knows they talk about their lovers' proportions amongst their friends. But few women actually make choices on that basis. Even shallow women are more likely to pursue a man with a lucrative career, a fancy car or a muscular physique, and these women aren't worth our time. The bottom line: No woman will truly fall in love with you because of your penis, and one who does fall in love with you won't leave you because of it either. Think of it this way: If all it took to please a woman was a cock the size of a cucumber, then they wouldn't need men. Cucumbers are readily available at the grocery store.

    5) Our identities as men. We don't remember Jane Russell as a great actress, we remember her as an actress with big tits. Most of us would rather be regarded and respected for our accomplishments, not our physical features. But no matter what I accomplish, some people will simply think of me as the guy with the huge cock.

    If your penis is an inch or two above average, you probably don't need a support group. But if it's four inches or more above average, your life will be affected in ways most people never imagined.

    Curtis
     
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    View_From_Below: [quote author=Hapi Papi link=board=meetgreet;num=1054273366;start=0#2 date=05/30/03 at 01:25:18]. Small forums lack the oomph! this place has (anyone wonder why?)[/quote]

    I share Hapi's view on this, unfortunately. I'm one of those on the small-hung end of the spectrum as well, and so do check out regularly a couple of sites like measurection.com. They do serve a very important purpose, but... there is a sadness about them that is hard to deal with (at least for me).

    I agree with you that it seems odd that this greatly advantaged group, the well-hung, would need a support group, but having been around here for a while as a kind of guest, I fully understand why such a group is necessary and important.

    The huge tragedy is that there is no really equivalent group (with oomph, as Hapi says) for men who are unendowed, therefore socially ridiculed, and seriously in need of solutions. Maybe there can't be such a group.

    So the paradox is... I glean from, and value more, the group I don't qualify for (lpsg) than the group I do qualify for. Just one guy's opinion. I wish it were otherwise.

    This is a supportive group. When they say welcome to you, they mean it.
     
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    fournineteen59: Thanks for all the thoughtful replies. I have several friends who either feel they are on the "short end of the stick" and/or actually are small; it seems to be a genuine area of concern that unfortunately is also hidden (or forbidden) in public conversation. Maybe that is the bigger issue here - that certain things men still can't be vulnerable about.
     
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    AnonyMs: Maybe what is really needed is just a support group :-/
     
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    <sarcasm> Just a support group, no modifier? But doing that would mean that you don't exclude people for arbitrary reasons! The entire high school social system would collapse!
     
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    7x6andchg: I'm with you AnonyMs, men in general tend to need support groups...and I think this group does an admirable job of welcoming all, in all parts of the bell curve.  There are topics that are very directly related to problems that, as Curtis points out, even those of us in the 7-8" range may or may not have, but those in the 8+ range do, but no one here is generally made to feel, if you'll pardon the pun, small...unless they troll...

    In any event, welcome to the group fournineteen59...feel free to poke around (my first visit I easily spent 3 hours READING) and feel free to post, especially if a topic is something that interests you or a question you have always had/wondered about.

    @nlatimer: ROTFLMAO. [sarcasm] High School ANARCHY! Well why would anyone cheerlead then? [/sarcasm]

    Wilkommen/Bienvenue/Welcome ;D

    Paul
    7x6&C
     
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    sammygirly: Welcome! I think the men have already answered your question so I wont bother to restate what they've already so eloquently stated....but yes, you don't have to be hung to be welcome here.

    I'm certainly not.

    ~peers between my legs, looks over between Nony's legs....thinks that's enough or we'll have to move to the Fictional Story thread~
     
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    fournineteen59: I've read some of the responses. Thanks again for being so thoughtful. And I have read many of the threads.

    I have to be honest though and still say I don't quite understand. Help me understand if I have it right:

    Boy/man with large penis at some point realizes that he is "different," although largely different in a positive way and in a way that could lead other males to be jealous.

    This "advantage" is not like other advantages like having a nice head of hair, a nice muscular frame, attractive face, sharp wit, or other more visible advantages.

    Therefore, the fellow with this particular advantage is not recognized. Not only that, but the fellow has to maybe even hide his advantage from others to seemingly avoid nervous comments by others.

    He has a dilemna. He has a huge advantage. Nobody really knows. He'd like people to know. But he is afraid to gloat because of the potential backlash. He wishes all would recognize his advantage just like we recognize people who are good looking, good athletes, smart, witty, etc...

    Is this the main thing? He wants attention for what he was blessed with but is forced to keep it hidden for fear of being percieved as gloating?

    Or is it the other issues that seem possibly more "traumatic?" Actually the only reason listed that seems to have more merit is the one where women have refused sex. But I actually read many more posts that imply that most women not only accomodate, but prefer or are excited by the large penis.

    I'm not sure I buy the "we want to be know for who we are and not our penis size" for most as most here seem to very much want to be recognized for their penis size....not all, but most seem to be very proud and wouldn't change a thing.

    Don't get me wrong. I'm in favor of any forum where men share their important thoughts and feelings.

    I guess me "question behind the question" is why do you really feel you need the support?
    - women who refused sex traumatized you?
    - you want to be recognized for your advantage more?
    - you have a hard time finding baggy pants?
    - you don't want to be known as just the guy with the big cock - you are a person too?!

    I'm enjoying the conversation. I hope my questions don't offend, but rather encourage dialogue.
     
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    7x6andchg: It can be more than that, though - it can get into:

    condoms
    lubrication prior to sexual intercourse
    sexual positions that work better with a larger penis
    fellatio with a larger penis
    etc...

    That part of it is the strong point of the group, IMHO.

    Some of it is discussing the good points, as any support group would be, but some of it is also discussing the negatives...

    You bring out a good point - unlike many attributes, this one is "hidden" and can't be used to one's advantage as some other attributes can be...that might be part of it.  Also, as noted on previous threads, the original started partially as a joke...but what it has blossomed into is so much more, I think.

    Just my 2 cents.

    7x6&C

    ETA: DMW says it more eloquently below, as well...
     
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    A long, rambling Whopper post follows:

    Okay. Understand that I can only answer according to my own perceptions. Others have their own reasons for coming here.

    Well, I'm gay, so the 'women' situation doesn't exactly apply to me! But while being turned down as a sexual partner due to dick size may not traumatize someone, it can certainly be discouraging. It can make one wonder, "Will I ever find that perfect someone?" Strange as it sounds to someone who hasn't been there, relationships have been broken due to too much as well as too little meat.

    In many cases, it's not so much an advantage as it is a fact of life that must be coped with. We're not here for the 'praise' ... well, most of us aren't ... we're here to discuss issues that we face every day, but that most of the public doesn't even know exist.

    It's not about baggy pants. It's about underwear, bathing suits, dress pants, etc., that we can wear with comfort. Baggy pants are not appropriate for every occasion, and most clothing designers don't have us in mind. You've never experienced looking for the correct waist size only to find there's not enough room in the crotch. It's not as comical as it sounds when you've been there. Okay, I take that back ... it is still rather comical, but also frustrating.

    Bingo! I personally think I have a lot to offer besides just my cock. I have abilities and accomplishments that are far more important to me than my genital endowment. After all, that's just an accident of genetics. I'd rather be recognised for what I've worked hard to achieve. Sometimes that's not easy when someone has something in his eye: my cock.


    No offense taken. Sometimes it's hard to understand when you're on the outside looking in. The above are only a few points. Read on, dude. I think you'll get an idea of what we have to put up with every day. Everyone has his personal trials; we're here because we share the same trials ... and sometimes someone has a helpful suggestion. That, after all, is what a support group is all about!
     
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    gigantikok: I think this guy is right. I know I would be fine in my everyday life if this "support" group didn't exist. I'd just wear biker shorts under my bathing suits or whenever I needed to hide my bulge, and go on living my life the way I do. If you really think for a moment, more than 75% (if not more) of the men here really aren't here for genuine support. That might be an excuse, or maybe not an excuse, but simply an easy reply as to why they actually visit "The Large Penis Support Group". In reality, we are just a bunch of guys that like to talk about our cocks. Some are gay and get off on it, some are just curious and want to know how other well hung men in the US live and function (me), and others ...maybe here to admire or actually hope to meet a well hung guy. Either way, VERY few are actually here for some of the reasons that were listed, since most of us are adults and have learned (on our own) how to live with a big cock. I'm not saying there aren't a few who are ridiculously overhung and need help, but come on folks. To the outside crowd it really does sound like we are whining. We don't need a support group to figure out how to cover a bulge, how to find baggy pants, how to figure out that Trojan XL's are the best, how to figure out the best positions for the slightly thicker-than-usual cock, or how to live with it. We're here to celebrate our large cockdom, I mean, if you remember, this even started off as a joke. Most people post those repetitive "which condom is the best, which position is the best, is my cock too big?" questions because this group DOES happen to exist, and it is easy to simply post a question that you pretty much already know the answer too just to hear what other people will say.

    Either way, this place really should be called "The Large Penis Chat Group", but that doesn't sound as catchy.
     
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    H8Monga: [quote author=fournineteen59 link=board=meetgreet;num=1054273366;start=0#11 date=05/30/03 at 19:59:31]I've read some of the responses. Thanks again for being so thoughtful. And I have read many of the threads.

    I have to be honest though and still say I don't quite understand. Help me understand if I have it right:

    Boy/man with large penis at some point realizes that he is "different," although largely different in a positive way and in a way that could lead other males to be jealous.

    This "advantage" is not like other advantages like having a nice head of hair, a nice muscular frame, attractive face, sharp wit, or other more visible advantages.

    Therefore, the fellow with this particular advantage is not recognized. Not only that, but the fellow has to maybe even hide his advantage from others to seemingly avoid nervous comments by others.

    He has a dilemna. He has a huge advantage. Nobody really knows. He'd like people to know. But he is afraid to gloat because of the potential backlash. He wishes all would recognize his advantage just like we recognize people who are good looking, good athletes, smart, witty, etc...

    Is this the main thing? He wants attention for what he was blessed with but is forced to keep it hidden for fear of being percieved as gloating?

    Or is it the other issues that seem possibly more "traumatic?" Actually the only reason listed that seems to have more merit is the one where women have refused sex. But I actually read many more posts that imply that most women not only accomodate, but prefer or are excited by the large penis.

    I'm not sure I buy the "we want to be know for who we are and not our penis size" for most as most here seem to very much want to be recognized for their penis size....not all, but most seem to be very proud and wouldn't change a thing.

    Don't get me wrong. I'm in favor of any forum where men share their important thoughts and feelings.

    I guess me "question behind the question" is why do you really feel you need the support?
    - women who refused sex traumatized you?
    - you want to be recognized for your advantage more?
    - you have a hard time finding baggy pants?
    - you don't want to be known as just the guy with the big cock - you are a person too?!

    I'm enjoying the conversation. I hope my questions don't offend, but rather encourage dialogue.



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    Man, I hope none of the posts in this thread are lost over the next few days...

    Anyway...

    I will probably be crucified and burned at the cross at the same time if I regress to how I was when I first came here, but luckily life is a lot better for me; however, I still ahve my size-related concerns.  What I wanted to say was that I kind of have to agree that even though a hung guy would want to be known for things other than that... his accomplishments, personality, and other things of substance... he also wouldn't change a thing it seems.  It differs from person to person.

    Some like to use it to attract girls who are curious, and even though they are afraid, they still like to try... get hurt... and want to do it again...  A few posts of a dear friend struck me to prove that.  Reactions from girls, "This is going to hurt isn't it?"  and then after it did, "When can we do this again?" Then, If we're getting to the point of having sex, yes I'll tell her because she needs to know although at that point clothes are usually coming off.  I've asked girls when we come to the point of having sex if they are sure.  So far no one has said "No"  That's just an example on this board about how women won't always refuse.  I've heard more stories elsewhere that are similar. So, although there are some complications with sex if you're large, they always seem to disappear.

    Others love the jealousy of smaller men. It strengthens egos, in a way that throws the "I have other qualities" an "we want to be know for who we are and not our penis size" sentiments out of the window for them. Maybe they never had that desire; all men are different after all. Those guys (not all mind you) feed off being superior and it just adds to the package if they have everything else going for them. Women admit IT IS A BONUS even if it is not a prerequisite. They try to deny that.

    Many posts I have seen pride despite the conflicts... some gloat, some are very humble (and I like you guys), but few, unless they are on the extreme end, would change to be average.  Don't deny, there are advantages... it's not a well-guarded secret. Admit to them and don't hide the fact there are advantages and many positives that help instead of hurt your self-esteem.  You can always get over the unwanted attention... at least you get attention that make you feel special and wanted. It's only unwanted at first, then from talking to some others, they tend to like it.

    Just had to point out again, what I've seen, some of it recently. So I apologize if you don't agree, but we all see different things and have different interpretations.  Some of the things I've said have come across as thiings I didn't intend, the same from some here. They probably don't mean to come across as they do.


    Gigantikok, "The Large Penis Chat Group"... nah... "The Large Penis Social Group" ... keep the S.
     
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    meathose10: Thanks,gigantikok, for telling it like it is : "we're here to celebrate our large cockdom". I'm proud and glad to be equipped with a penis that is much bigger than what's between most guy's legs , plain and simple. This site can be informative , amusing , erotic , ridiculous, and fun. I don't need any help with bulges , condoms , or sexual positions either. I've been using this thing since I was 12, and am quite adept at weilding it. I never hide my size. It's evident to all who want to look. I enjoy desire from women and admiration from men. I consider my big dick to be a fortunate gift. In no way is it problematic. It makes life better.
     
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