Is at as simple as being turned on by being either the spanker or the spankee, to know whether you have sub or dom tendencies?
Is at as simple as being turned on by being either the spanker or the spankee, to know whether you have sub or dom tendencies?
Personally, I can take a pretty good spanking...
I can play both sides. But recently had a chance to really be a sub...like one of the previous posters said, I just got lost in the pleasure. It was one of the most amazing times I've ever had...and over way too soon.
Id fucking love to turn you into my dirty cock craved sub hellboy :biggrin1:
Of course, Bbucko's statement was a super-simplification of a concept that makes complete sense.It may be true that it takes a good sub to make a great Dom(me), but I am not so sure about this. I mean, I think that dominance comes from within. I also think that each sub has their own needs and kinks, and a good Dom to one subbie might be a bad Dom to another sub.
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There are too many assholes who just fuck a hole hard and pass that off as training. There are too many subs willing to be abused by these assholes.
There are many who disagree with me, but it's my own personal opinion that every Dom should be trained first as a sub, and every sub at some point should be trained as a Dom.
Pshaw.... I respect a plumber who comes to my house and unclugs the half pound of toilet paper that a girl flushed down my toilet (why do they do that??) but I don't need to have been a plumber to have this respect or admiration. I can stand back and appreciate the skill of any craft.I don't have much respect for someone who demands to receive a flogging, but has no appreciation for how much skill or stamina is required in giving a good flogging.
I think there is more to it than that but don't know enough about BDSM to give a more knowledgeable answer.:redface:Is it as simple as being turned on by being either the spanker or the spankee, to know whether you have sub or dom tendencies?
The cliché is that it takes a good sub to make a great dom.
Hmm, is the inverse also true? Does it take a good dom to make a great sub? If not, why?
Personally, I can take a pretty good spanking, though it's not really my thing.
Spanking is just like the baby step into that world. I think if you are truly ready and able to submit to someone, you are or may be a sub. Most people cannot submit on that level and fall somewhere in between. I agree.
Not sure what breath control is; but as an asthmatic I have to say it sounds frightening.
I'm not really into it, however, I know someone who is into breath control and that is definitely something that requires enormous amounts of trust and a true sub and true dom to even attempt.
eta: changed wording
Dude, Im normally a dom
But with Monster Id like to be both a dom and a sub
I know thats slutty to admit but i got no shame :biggrin1: