Subconscious size compatability issues

Discussion in 'Women's Issues' started by Lordpendragon, Jan 13, 2005.

  1. Lordpendragon

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    My partner always insisted that she wouldn't have not had relationship with a guy just if his cock wasn't very big, but when looking at my own expeiences, I can't say the same.

    I had girlfriends whom I would have preferred to have been bigger and I don't mind admitting a couple whom I would have preferred to have been a bit tighter. The relationships didn't last or get beyond one full encounter even though two remain amongst my closest friends.

    Is it just coincidence that I settled with a partner with whom I am so size compatible?

    I'm interested to hear your own thoughts and experiences.
     
  2. Lordpendragon

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    Is it that noone has had the issue of their size being a deal breaker?

    Or that they weren't aware of it?

    Or is this just taboo?

    Or a bad post?

    Just interested why a question on size doesn't solicit any response on a size oriented site.
     
  3. madame_zora

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    Geez, I can't believe I missed a post! Sorry, we weren't trying to be rude. This is actually a thing I have a great deal of interest in. I happen to think compatibility is an important consideration for a good realtionship. While anything can be worked out, I think it's better not to go into a relationship with too many obstacles if it is possible to avoid a few. I guess it really depends on your priorities, but I've personally been in several realtionships where sex was not a source of pleasure and I will never do it again! For me, finding a good lover is a big part of finding a person with whom I could actually fall in love. If the sex isn't there, the love won't follow. I don't believe in platonic love being able to carry a relationship, and lousy sex is almost worse than none at all.

    I am sure there are many who will disagree with this, but since I answered first, it's just my view. I think many who are honest would say they consider it important, or at least wish they had.

    Also, I would like to add that it's "size compatibility" that's important. My daughter just came home the other day after talking with some of her girlfriends (ages 19 to 24), and said she was surprised to hear them talking about how they won't fuck a guy if his dick is too big! She said she felt sad for the big guys and wondered if they had to deal with that often. A lot of women really do feel that way, there's some weird belief that having sex with a big guy will stretch you out of shape and then no other guy will enjoy being with you! Maybe there are some more practical concerns if the girl's vag is small and tight it could actually hurt, but I think most of it is mythology. At any rate, I think it's a good idea to find a partner who actually wants what you have, and is in the same basic range on sex drive, because if one isn't getting enough to feel satisfied and the other feels fucked to death, that's a recipe for disaster.
     
  4. Lordpendragon

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    Thank you Madame. Illuminating as always.

    People, particularly young people, do seem to have this desire to re-enforce their peer group persona, and their sexual behaviour is clearly no different.

    Guys don't like to say that she was too big for me as it suggests that they are small, and girls do seem to have begun to say that he is way too big, the inferences being that they have the tight perfect pink pussy of airbrush porn fame.

    I am old enough to be more comfortable with honesty even if we have to tweak a few taboos.
     
  5. thirdlegmeat

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    Size compatibility is a huge thing.

    The best sexual experiences I've had have been with women who can both physically accomodate my size, and mentally disregard apprehension to size.

    If either of these becomes an issue with a woman, then the sex is inhibited. One girl and I decided to break it off b/c of the size difference. It got to the point to where she refused sex, and since we began as a fling and nothing more, we had no reason to continue the relationship. But we were in college then, so who knows?
     
  6. TheOverlord

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    A girl i got with when i was about 9 inches came back to me a few weeks ago for a 1 night stand. She was telling me how she was the biggest she has seen, and tells me all other guys she was with since me have been like, 4-5 inches erect. She came over with the the intention of sex, but when she saw my new size, she didn't want to have sex again.

    So she left. lol, last night she came back, swearing she would take it. She saw it again and didn't even try. She said she kept forgeting how big I had gotten.

    So instead she decided to give me a hand job. But she has really small hands, even for a girl, so she had to use both hands. She called me today telling me her arms were sore, lol.

    Before she hung up she told me she will take that...but i doubt it...
     
  7. Nienna

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    I have been with some really huge guys and some that only dreamed of being hung, but I've also slept with a couple that were, and one is now, just perfect for me. I think that some people just "fit" better together than others, and that is what makes the sex great. A guy can have a huge dick, but not always know how to rock your world. Personally I would rather have my world rocked than a huge dick that just doesn't satisfy me. Of course having the skills to do both is always a plus!
     
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    Small dick=dealbreaker. Especially concerning marriage. The last guy I dated was average, but we still had fun in bed, and he "compensated." But I could never marry a peepee.
     
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    i mentioned elsewhere that i was with a girl that, prior to me, had only slept with 2 guys, both of whom were about 4 inches...she also said she had been messing around with a guy, and when he pulled out 11 inches she was like "um, thats not going in me, sorry"...so i was rather happy with my 7-8, big enough to make her feel full, but not so big that it scared her

    i've only had two girls complain about it being big enough to hurt...and in those instances, i would just go slower, or let them control the pace to whatever they felt comfortable with...

    i agree with nienna, whats the use of having a monster dick if you cant make a girl (or guy) cum? compared to some guys on this site, i'm nothing, but as long as i can make my girl cum, i'm happy...
     
  10. transformer_99

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    It's safe to say, you stay with who you feel most accustomed to, most compatible as a whole person. It's true in a lot of cases, be with someone long enough and the two start to be like, even look like each other.
     
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    Wow that gives new meaning to the term "shallow". Can you imagine a guy saying "i would love to marry my current girlfriend as she is the most wonderful woman i have ever met, however her pussy is to small therefore the wedding is off."

    Give me a break.
     
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    While general compatability is more easily defined, I find sexual compatability more elusive to describe. Whilst I think that the "good fit" is very much a part of it it can also include things like moral issues, ideas of intimacy and maybe for me the most important issue is how comfortable am I with the person. Libido is also another issue. As someone who has been described as "greedy", there is nothing worse than feeling like you are pressuring your partner for lovemaking sessions. I also think that desire has a big part to play in compatability.

    In the words of Outcast....."Sex is always better when there's feelings involved".
     
  13. tmny

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    Cry harder.

    It's not shallow, it's practical. If I wasn't able to enjoy sex with my partner, then I would not marry them either.

    Then again, I wouldn't marry anyone.
     
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    The best fitting and feeling pussy I ever tapped was unfortunately attached to a total nutcase.

    Goddamn shame.
     
  15. Mr. Snakey

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    Well said!:cool:
     
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