I recall a previous post where you stated submitting was impossible for you, so I'm guessing you act as a Domme? Has what Faydreh noted about women not specifically seeking an orgasm as subs been true of your experiences?I have played those reindeer games.
I recall a previous post where you stated submitting was impossible for you,
so I'm guessing you act as a Domme?
I would enjoy reading about both experiences. Also, how you made the transition or if you always leaned switch/submissive?
Personally, I'm more dominant, however, there are two partners with whom I have willing and passionately taken on a submissive role. In my experience, I know the change was/is more due to the person, but am curious to understand if you've struggled with the roles or when the opportunity presented, dove headlong in and found it was a good fit for you at that moment in life?
Where did I say that?
Don't have the parts for that. (I guess it's possible that comment was a veiled shot at me for posting in the Women's Issues forum... sorry, I read threads by clicking on "New", so I seldom pay attention to which forum they're from.)
Thank you for you for sharing your experiences.Early on, I had a relationship with a woman who had guilt issues regarding sex that manifested as her only being able to enjoy it in while being dominated to the point of S&M.
So I became dominant... made my own whips and everything. I really got into it, because she really responded to it... so, with me, what I find sexually most arousing is that sense of connection, that response elicited from my mate.
I had no real difficulty finding the eroticism in the leather and steel, in the red welts and gagged moans that seemed to be the most satisfying for her.
My current relationship is with a woman who loves to be in control, loves to inflict pain, and especially loves to dominate a man. She does not whip me for doing things wrong, rather she whips me as reward and encouragement for doing things right.
Perhaps because of my previous relationship, of how she responded to pain and domination, I have a built in appreciation for that experience... but mostly, because of the feedback from my current mate... her excitement in dominating me, excites me, and so I quickly became conditioned to find pain and being dominated exciting.
It was not difficult, it happened quite organically and felt perfectly natural.
I think it comes down to having the kind of sexuality that finds ANYTHING that my partner responds to as the thing that I respond to in sympathy.
Obviously, I meant Dom. No shot taken whatsoever - not really (or usually) my style.
http://www.lpsg.org/184697-guys-giving-up-control-2.html#post2776860
http://www.lpsg.org/184697-guys-giving-up-control-2.html#post2777377/
Man.. D/s adds a whole new level of complicated to attempting relationships.
Think very carefully if venturing in this direction. I'm a kinky wench, but my blossoming attempt at a threesome with a male dominant and female submissive couple just got broken off, by me. Because I'm not willing to do 24/7 total power exchange. More power to those who do so and are happy in that type of situation, but... I can't see myself doing it all the time, always. Frustrating, sad, and disappointing.
Oh, I agree!! When I was doing online dating recently, I was trying to explain to friends how D/s adds two new factors - the emotional one and the sexual one. So you not only need to find someone who works with your everyday self and on a vanilla sexual level; you also need to find someone who works with you on a D/s level both sexually and emotionally!!
I'm sorry to hear it didn't work out for you :frown1:. I couldn't do 24/7 TPE either. I'd snap within a day or two. I truly admire those who can do it.
I'm seeing a girl now and she has said she likes submissive sex. I've never really done anything like that. She also said she is into henti porn. I watched some of that stuff and it seems pretty rough. She's half Japanese and only about 5'2" I'm 6'1" 190lbs and have an 8.5" penis really worried about how rough I should be.
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I am submissive and are all the women in my family. Being submissive doesn't mean being a slave. Being submissive means you know your role and duty within a relationship and everyone has respect for their position with in the family structure. Slavery means having no control in what you say or do. Please respect the role of the submissive woman don't look down upon a role we have chosen.
an for your sissy slave, i wold like to be, i am a submissive slave for dominating female.Interesting observations!
My experience in a dominant role is limited to men-- and now I wondering why I never considered taking on that role with a woman --with men there's always been a sexual charge, and usually a sexual release (unless denial plays a part) based in the D/s or other activity. However, when submissive to a male figure I found there was something satisfying about his behaviors, which I found pleasurable even without the sexual element. Although, sex was a major part of how we concluded our play (I'm not a lifestyler, so would be hours not days).
Hmm, will have to ponder.
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It's not the equivalent you might be thinking of for in the leather community. It's human pet play.Also different from being a furry, which she is not. Also, no ears or tail or feline behavior during sex, at least not for her. Which is perfectly fine by me. I like humans for sex, not animals
Ironically enough, I originally started talking to her after following her Questions & Answers vlogs on youtube for a while.. I also partake in feline-human-petplay. I kind of would like to have a puppy at some point too.