subtle way to bring up size to a friend?

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  1. Imported

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    jjdov26: I have a friend from college whom I have kept in contact with off and on since graduation (5 years ago). He bragged a few times about being well hung. And I was always kinda jealous/envious of his bragging.

    He is getting married now, and I was planning a call of congradulations to him and to catch up on old times. But I was also thinking that it would be interesting to talk about size with him in a real friend-to-friend way. I have always been curious about what it is like to be better hung than all your friends, which he pretty much is. And how women have responded to his endowment and how it might be different from how they have responded to my more average member. We had a few conversations about size in college and afterwards that were more of a joking sort of talk. Bragging, making puns, that kinda thing. But I was interested in a more realistic talk, like the kind here on the forum.

    Does anyone have an idea about how I might casually bring up the topic in a way that is not sudden or strange? This individual used to be a close friend, but we have grown apart over the years. But I would still want to be subtle if he is not interested in talking about the subject.

    What do you guys think? any advice?
     
  2. mindseye

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    Don't.

    If you attempt to do so, then he will correctly discern that you were using the upcoming wedding as an excuse to manipulate him into talking about his dick so you could get your jollies.

    The wedding should be his day, not yours -- congratulate him graciously and let it go at that.
     
  3. thirdlegmeat

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    There are plenty of guys on this site who can answer any questions you might have.
     
  4. Imported

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    jjdov26: I apprieciate your advice Mindseye. I really wasn't trying to "take anything away" from him via the conversation. He's been engaged for a while and we have talked about it before (the wedding.) Perhaps that information was a little misleading in the post. But I certainly wouldn't want to bring up the topic if he wouldn't want to talk about it. Which is the main reason I posted the question. But I thank you for your comment. It has given me something to think about.


    Thirdlegmeat:

    Thank's for your reply too. If you wanted to chat, I'd love to talk a little with you about size and women and sex and "how the other half" of average get by. My email is jjdov26@hotmail.com - - and yahoo is jjdov26

    If you don't mind chatting, I'd love to hear from you. My main interest in talking to my friend about it is that I know him in the real world, not the more faceless conversations from the web, where everybody is hung 10x8 and they say their girlfriends think they are small :) A truly honest conversation about it with someone I know is not making it up would be really cool. Hence, my converstation with my friend from college. But, if Mindseye is right and it is not a topic I should really approach him with, I'd love to chat with you about it. Perhaps I have become too cynical :)

    Email me or add me as a friend on Yahoo, and I'll reply straight away.
     
  5. kurios

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    I may not have fully understood but fact seems to be he bragged about being big....what if he isnt? I think the time and occasion to discuss size passed and maybe for the best!
    People in this group have been great. I have asked questions that I really couldnt see myself asking someone I knew well especially if we had somewhat drifted apart....Ask away!
     
  6. benderten2001

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    jjdov26, I sincerely doubt anyone could EVER get into the kind of "realistic talk" we do around this forum! --No way. (THAT'S why the LPSG is so good for us!)

    My advice is to read and learn from us and don't jeopardize your friendship.

    There really is NO tactful way to get into the kind of (Private) discussion you desire unless you are EXTREMELY close to this friend and I don't get from your info that you have THAT kind of really deep relationship going on. Your efforts to invite such a conversation could easily be misconstrued by him or, would otherwise not be well received. It's risky (I think) to even seriously pursue this. --Cool it.

    As another poster wisely said---let the members around here be the ones to field your questions and concerns. If we're not too embarrassed or "weirded out", then we'll try to tell you what you want to know. ;)
     
  7. jonb

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    Yeah, rule #1 is to never upstage the groom, and it could be interpreted that way.
     
  8. nacard01

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    Everyone reacts differently to different things. I have had friends depants me right in front of a party. I have had friends ask other friends. I have had friends ask me directly. And all of these things have been done by strangers as well.

    Just depends on how you deal with it.

    It may or may not matter what you say or do to initiate this conversation. It will depend on how he reacts to it.

    I suppose if you were going to ask, make sure you shield yourself and give yourself some leeway. Wait until after he has had a couple? Make up a story about someone from your past he was involved with that you ran into and they mentioned it?

    Just be careful you dont piss him off.
     
  9. Imported

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    Hapi Papi: Not to seem less supportive or negative, but I think John and I need to spend time on a couch beside the comfy white room...
     
  10. HungArnold

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    Ask yourself what you stand to gain by disclosing this information. The "friend" described in the first panel is probably extremely insecure and self-conscious.

    By all means phone and congratulate him on his milestone. Should he tell you that he is well hung, then ask him what is expects you to do with that information. Do so in a monotone, disinterested voice. Then quickly tell him that you have to go.

    If you ever speak again, it is doubtful that he would discuss this with you.

    Just my opinion.
     
  11. Imported

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    maverackstud8: Well,don't bring up the subject-unless he volunteers to tell ya.

    ME,IT CAN EMBASSING.I often mention my cock to family.I don't mention it in public,even some women commented my big one and guy,back college.

    I used to shy about it.It is hard to talk a subject as this,until I began coming on line.I frst mentioned my size an AOL CHAT to a woman named Nat-only because somebody else,asked penis size of chatting members.I have a bit free-er since,but chances if you met on the street,the last I mention,is my cock,unless a big boobed girl walked I say mam,I'd love to her scream with big one.

    But chances ne.cock size is personal-sometimes brag-sometimes no.depend the situation.
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    I followed a few links from my group, Hung like a Horse and Size Queen,the subject of Big penises is a personal one.When your a big guy or large down below,people treat different-couple good looks and some brains.Some women comment on bulge or say stuff,he looks he has a big one-which I don't tight pants anymore.Some guy,make weird comments,as your some big dick fuck machine.Some women,find an interest-one woman,often referred me as that stud or a stud.others somebody to avoid,And you mention,your size-which is about 8 inches in a chat room,you get the really response or your full of shit response,or size don't matter.SOME GUYS,THINK YOUR A CANDIDATE FOR PORN OR JAMES BOND,WITH A BIG DICK.One,who once my size,when was coming out of a shower situation,went to you be proud of that.He if I had one like,I'd fuck all the chicks.Actually,no-I wouldn't-believe it or not,some rude and ignorant females turn me off.And no,gay guys,I do want to swap pictures,nor am looking to join your club.It is flattering,but no not interested.

    I joined because,I wanted to see others had to say about larger cocks vs small ones.I want to find a girl enjoys not my parts,but me also-whack is easy-since woman treat anyone with a dick over 5 or 6 inches as some of porn freak.
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