"Which would be OK
but then you run after a man that everyone (except the woman involved)
KNOWS 100%
is not:
interested in a relationship
totally self absorbed and treats you like dog shit on his shoe
Totally dishonest liar cheat
and he snaps his fingers
and you fuck him like a bitch in heat.
Cook his meals
Buy him things
Pay his bills
and then suddenly
he tosses you away
like a piece of toilet paper he wiped his shitty ass with
you cry and cry
usually on the shoulder of Mr. Nice Guy
and as soon as your tears are dry
Mr. Nice Guy watches you run off
to fuck the next Mr. Asshole."
Yes, I would love to explain. This is a sweeping generalization of course, and not all women are like this. I have NEVER tolerated men who treat me badly, in fact I can't think of a bigger turnoff than paying a guy's bills or having a guy treat me "like shit"
These are not the types of men I would be attracted to or any of my friends for that matter. Perhaps women in their teens and 20's tolerate this because they're insecure and don't know who they are. Maybe women with dangerously low self esteem do, but most women over the age of 30, I would hope would be confident enough to be with a man who treated her well.
Now as far as sexual attraction in general you CANNOT disregard the pure science of attraction: Biologists describe pheromones as "smellprints" supposedly as unique to each of us as our fingerprints. Smell is the most primitive of human senses and, unlike sight and touch, travels a direct route to the brain's limbic lobe where it can provoke an emotional reaction that can, quite literally, be a turn-on.
There's no doubt that pheromones underlie sexual and other types of behavior in animals, but given the complex human psyche, can these invisible lust signals be all you need for love? The scientific verdict is pending, but an increasing body of evidence suggests that the chemistry of sexual attraction and arousal is more nature than nurture and quite beyond our control. Not so far-fetched a notion considering how often we speak and sing of sexual chemistry.
So the question is, if you go back to human evolution are women programmed to be attracted to "caveman" types? The more aggressive, assertive man? My guess, would be that we are. If perpetuation of the human race depended on a woman finding a strong mate who would kill large animals and protect her young, then we likely carry on some of those instincts. That doesn't mean that I am consciously choosing assholes, but between culture, (real men don't cry) and biology I am probably most naturally drawn in that direction.
Women with any level of self esteem and maturity, however will know after having had their heart broken by the lying jerk who just wants to get laid and move on to the next conquest, that in the end she will need to find a more stable, long term partner.
So just as you can't say all men are manipulative liars, it is also equally true that not all women are pathetic doormats looking for a big dick and a fat wallet.
I don't think there will ever be a resolution to the age old debate of why "nice guys finish last". I think for every man who gets dumped for being "a nice guy" there is a woman getting her heart stepped on by a man who is too afraid of intimacy to have a meaningful relationship.
It cuts both ways.