Such a thing as too independent?

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And yet it never occurs to you that the problem is you? I do not know ed69. I just know what you posted was foul, uncalled for, and that you have not been able to give a good reason nor an apology for it. Even after it has been explained carefully to you by several people where you fucked up. here's a clue: You don't need to be in a clique to understand what Ed69 wrote in the first place. You just need to be able to read on the same level as an eight-year-old.

Apologize or shut the fuck up. That's about where it stands. I doubt if anyone wants to hear from you if you can't man up about this.

he could cure CANCER and I wouldn't want to hear any more shit out of him
 

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Seriously? I went out to a xmas party as someones date. I was bored most of the time and not used to being catered to. I'm one of those girls that can do it all myself. I actually dislike people serving me and stuff, sheesh let me do it myself.

What do you ladies think? Is there such a thing as too independent?
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Think_Kink....I know U posed this question to the ladies...but I just want to say...when the dildo becomes your best friend...Yes there is a thing as too independent:tongue::biggrin1:
Love U gal be U.
 

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He still fucked her when she was 16, right?

Or am I correct in seeing that you just can't write worth a fuck?

Or was your mother just a teenage slutthat was never told about birth control?

Rewrite your family history -- who met whom, and when?

The best that I can figure out is that your mom & dad met when she was 16, and that's when she had the first of five babies that were born of someone else's sperm.

You'd better think again about talking back to me when your statements are as unclear as that.

Not if he feels it an absolute waste of time to prove himself to an anonymous person on an internet large penis forum. I can't imagine why he would think that way though :rolleyes: Or figure out why I chose to be a part of this :rolleyes:

LeeEJ is nobody to me and this ass thinks it's ok to call my mother a slut?This is why he will never get any clarifacation from me on my post.A sincere question would have gotten an answer.This man is without honor or respect so please ignore him.Anything more he has to say means nothing to me.
 

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Seriously? I went out to a xmas party as someones date. I was bored most of the time and not used to being catered to. I'm one of those girls that can do it all myself. I actually dislike people serving me and stuff, sheesh let me do it myself.

What do you ladies think? Is there such a thing as too independent?

From my own experience, I don't think there's something like being too independent. But I have to keep reminding myself that I don't scold anyone who tries to serve me or help me, which is sometimes hard to do.

Especially with guys you have to show them that they are still good for something other than just screwing you :wink:, from time to time. It's no big deal after all, and the advantages weigh up the annoyedness by far. Men want to feel needed, and hell, if that's what it takes, so be it.
 

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From my own experience, I don't think there's something like being too independent. But I have to keep reminding myself that I don't scold anyone who tries to serve me or help me, which is sometimes hard to do.

Especially with guys you have to show them that they are still good for something other than just screwing you :wink:, from time to time. It's no big deal after all, and the advantages weigh up the annoyedness by far. Men want to feel needed, and hell, if that's what it takes, so be it.

men are needed
we just want women to admit it : o )
 

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I think she meant something other than was directly inferred by a crapload of people. Perhaps she's uncomfortable with someone doting on her, simple as that. Independence is great, and independent she very well may be, but if your personality makes you a bit put off by someone whose personality is aroused by buying you things... There's more than enough room for conflict there.
Hey, I hate borrowing money from friends. They may be well off, just got their paycheck and are tossing bills out the window, but I still don't like asking for a 10 if I'm short. It's just how I am. On a date, I enjoy buying dinner, and don't like it so much if the girl pays the tab. Doesn't make me a bad person, looking down on her sex, it's just who I am. How I was raised, and how experiences shaped me. If we're in a relationship, that's different, it's closer than any of the above situations(or should be anyway).
Maybe I'm not putting this quite the way I feel about it, but it seems most people are looking at her story and snapping at it a bit. If it doesn't match up to your idea of independence, then I'm not surprised, it's all just personality, and we're all slightly different.
 

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I think she meant something other than was directly inferred by a crapload of people. Perhaps she's uncomfortable with someone doting on her, simple as that. Independence is great, and independent she very well may be, but if your personality makes you a bit put off by someone whose personality is aroused by buying you things... There's more than enough room for conflict there.
Hey, I hate borrowing money from friends. They may be well off, just got their paycheck and are tossing bills out the window, but I still don't like asking for a 10 if I'm short. It's just how I am. On a date, I enjoy buying dinner, and don't like it so much if the girl pays the tab. Doesn't make me a bad person, looking down on her sex, it's just who I am. How I was raised, and how experiences shaped me. If we're in a relationship, that's different, it's closer than any of the above situations(or should be anyway).
Maybe I'm not putting this quite the way I feel about it, but it seems most people are looking at her story and snapping at it a bit. If it doesn't match up to your idea of independence, then I'm not surprised, it's all just personality, and we're all slightly different.

Thank you and you're very cute!
 

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The polite thing to do would be to receive graciously. Whether it's a drink, a compliment, a present, etc. Giving is truly better than receiving. Let the guy feel good about giving. I don't think any guy buys a girl a drink and assumes she will go home with him.

QFT.

I'm holding the door for you because I want to be polite. I like being polite to women I'm out on a date with. It's not a comment on woman's capability or an implication that I want something in return.

If I get attitude about it (fortunately I never have, although I've had some women surprised by my being polite to them, which is baffling), the date's probably over, or at least we won't be going on another date. That kind of thing just screams, ironically, "high maintenance", which is one of the biggest turn offs I can think of.