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but that doesn't make him any different than any other desperate, horny straight guy who's let his gay friend suck him.
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After we got done moving boxes, I showed him some porn on my phone and just took it from there. I had to talk him into it, he was reluctant at first. Now we regularly hang out at his place like twice a week, watch movies, and I blow him.
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are you a moron?
I wasn't looking for a reply.
I don't want to victimise you further.
You asked a question, I answered.
When I ran an adult care home for developmentally disabled people the social worker told me if one of the "clients'" wanted to have sex in there room and were handling it appropriately I was to allow it.
When I ran an adult care home for developmentally disabled people the social worker told me if one of the "clients'" wanted to have sex in there room and were handling it appropriately I was to allow it.
Wait. Porn is dangerous to autistics?I would say it is about your and his intention. Investigate your intention: why did you do it ? if he wasn't autistic would you approach him the same way ? where did the joy come from when u did it with him, was it because of his innocence and lack of knowledge: not knowing what is happening and why it is happening? if yes then you took advantage of his limited knowledge.
did you share porn with him so he can get turned on so you can make your move ? in other words you tried to seduce him?
From his perspective: investigate his intention: is he doing because of it itself or because he wants to protects your friendship ? is he doing it because you enjoy it and not him ? or is he doing it because you want to do it ?
Also, I don't think it is a healthy thing to share "porn" as it is known for its unhealthiness for mind.. since you are giving materials to a mind that has social difficulties and these materials/ideas (especially those with hardcore and pain materials) are likely to influence him badly.
If you like/love him then try to approach him emotionally and share it with innocence, you can kiss him and see if he will react the same and etc... there is no need for porn.
If you are just looking for sex with him, you have to explain that, and once he develops emotional attachment to you and you just care about sex then you are going to damage him and will build up some serious issue of trust in friends, love and sex. and might develop porn addiction..
These issues are not limited to autistic people.
be careful of his family might think you are taking advantage of him or something and police ending up at your door
Again, the situation you describe is not at all like the situation being discussed.
And, I seriously question the management of that adult care home. Rape (or unwanted sexual advances) in such places is endemic; I am troubled by the possibility that the management told you to simply look the other way...
Again, the situation you describe is not at all like the situation being discussed.
And, I seriously question the management of that adult care home. Rape (or unwanted sexual advances) in such places is endemic; I am troubled by the possibility that the management told you to simply look the other way...[/QUOTEe.
Sorry, no it was not management it was the department of social services. We ran an adult foster care how for 18 years.