Sucking a hung co-worker

[mitcht67]

Sorry. But it was the department if social services not management. I ran an adult care facility out if my home for 18 years. Did you read the part about they wanted, consented to the sex. No one says d anything about rape.

 

[Hairylegs]

Definitely NOT something I would have done, but that's me. Autism takes a number of forms. The guy, if he can drive, hold a job, moved out of his parent's house and is paying the rent clearly can make his own personal decisions. But I can't help feel that the sex was forced on him. I'm not there, but this is a Pandora's box if ever there was one! It cannot possibly end well, unless the two of you get married, and that obviously is really pushing the envelope. I'm just glad it isn't me in the situation.

 

[tpd]

I read the article posted above and there's a huge difference with my situation. The guy in the article had an IQ of a toddler and couldn't speak. The guy I'm involved with has a job and can drive a car. He's far from mentally incompetent.

Also in any sexual relationship, one person has to initiate the whole thing. I did initiate things the first time, yeah. But since then we have hung out on a regular basis and if he didn't want to fool around anymore, he wouldn't be asking me if I wanna come over at night. And when I'm at his house, on a couple different occasions he has been the first one to pull up porn on his phone, take his cock out, and start jerking. I think if he didn't want to do this stuff, he wouldn't act that way.

It's true that he's probably not gay and just likes the attention I give his cock, but that doesn't make him any different than any other desperate, horny straight guy who's let his gay friend suck him.

how big is his cock then

 

[ronin001]

A experienced predator or con-man, can make an otherwise innocent person bend to his/ her will and they will not even know they are being conned. The OP acknowledges the Autistic person lived at home with his parents probably with limited external friends. The Autistic man suddenly was getting attention, camaraderie and sexual stimulation.

Classic example, a woman lives at home with her parents, she is over weight; but pretty. Self conscious and introverted. Often the first guy to say hello / you are pretty she falls in love. I have known many many guys who prey on such women. Not just for sex ; but for their money or cars. Easy marks

The Autistic man is slightly another story, he perceives that he has made a friend and this friend likes him and wants to be with him and to please this friend he engages in sex with the OP. The problem is that he may perceive in his future dealings with people that gay sex is the only way to make or keep a friend

I have yet to meet or hear a predator admit that anything he/ she has done anything wrong. This included the teachers who are in the news every other month, busted for sex with their students.

 

[bi_todd]

You entered into this with only goal, to get to his penis. What would have happened if he had refused? in all honesty, would you have kept being so friendly?

That is a harsh and unfair judgement.

The OP stated "It started after I helped him move out of his mom's house into his own apartment."

Helping the guy move into his own apartment shows that his only goal was NOT just to get to his penis. He was already demonstrating friendliness before penis entered the picture.

No good deed goes unpunished.

 

[bi_todd]

This is a case for The Washington Post rule.

Sexual acts (manipulative or not) rarely adhere to the Washington Post Rule. Except for exhibitionists, most people would cringe at the thought of their sexual life appearing on the front page of a newspaper.

For this situation, I think it is better to apply Dan Savage's Campsite Rule instead.

"In relationships with a large age disparity, at the end of the relationship, the elder partner should leave the younger in "better shape than they found them". This includes no diseases, no fertilized eggs, no undue emotional trauma, and whatever education that can be provided."

 

[SurferGirlCA]

That is a harsh and unfair judgement.

The OP stated "It started after I helped him move out of his mom's house into his own apartment."

Helping the guy move into his own apartment shows that his only goal was NOT just to get to his penis. He was already demonstrating friendliness before penis entered the picture.

No good deed goes unpunished.

You left out the next sentence.

"It started after I helped him move out of his mom's house into his own apartment. I'd been curious about the bulge in his pants for a while, thought I'd see if he'd do anything with me."

So the penis had already entered the picture.

 

[Jarizzi]

how big is his cock then

Wow, I can't believe that so many people on here think it's impossible for a fully functioning autistic guy to have a sexual relationship. While I admit to always being attracted to him, I do consider him to be my friend and vice versa. If i ever felt I was confusing him or complicating his life, I'd stop the sexual stuff immediately. He has a good time and so do I, I don't see anything wrong with it.

Oh and btw, he's around 9 inches.

 

[328982]

Wow, I can't believe that so many people on here think it's impossible for a fully functioning autistic guy to have a sexual relationship. While I admit to always being attracted to him, I do consider him to be my friend and vice versa. If i ever felt I was confusing him or complicating his life, I'd stop the sexual stuff immediately. He has a good time and so do I, I don't see anything wrong with it.

What does his mom make of this?

 

[mitcht67]

What does his mom make of this?

Do you tell your mom who is sucking your dick?

 

[328982]

Do you tell your mom who is sucking your dick?

I introduce her to my boyfriends

 

[950483]

I know quite a bit about autistic spectrum disorders. Sometimes you have to have known an individual for a long time before you really understand where their areas of difficulty are, and how they understand the world, and whether they get sarcasm, or take everything you say literally, for example. Without knowing this person, and knowing him well, I can't form an opinion.
I do think you have behaved in a predatory way, because you persuaded him, and showed him porn. You pressured and manipulated him, in quite a sordid way, when you could have just asked him to go on a date. Or do you think he is too disabled to go on a date with you?

 

[950483]

Most people with ASD would not appear to have any disability of any kind, and you would not know unless they told you, and even then you probably would not believe them unless you knew a bit about it. People who are able to make choices and decisions for themselves, have every right to a sex life. Not everyone is able to make these decisions on their own though; some people with ASD cannot help but do whatever others tell them to do for example, or to believe everything that someone tells them without question.

 

[clown5000]

Autistic people are horny too, but they often have social difficulties that can make initiating sex tough. He's an adult who lives on his own so he's capable of consenting to sex, and there's a good chance he didn't have many opportunities living with his mother -- if he's enjoying sex with you and comfortable with your current relationship, that's great for both if you! Just make sure you're treating him right and you don't mislead him about anything.

 

[yngjock20]

Regardless of the OP's target being high functioning, it's the whole seduction act that's pretty distasteful. They pretty much all but fully admitted to preying on the guy and they also admitted to not seeing the error of their predatory actions.

This was a story probably better left locked in the vault.

 

[phillo12345]

It sounds very much on the edge to me. If his parents or another relative should find out about this relationship I fear you will be visited by the police...

Really? Why would the cops care? Do adult autistic dudes not deserve sex with other consenting adults? OP, I see no red flags except the work thing and it sounds like that's no big deal

 

[hzs3fg]

Really? Why would the cops care? Do adult autistic dudes not deserve sex with other consenting adults? OP, I see no red flags except the work thing and it sounds like that's no big deal

All US states have laws protecting the young, the elderly, and the disabled from all sorts of abuse including sexual. If the parents wanted to push the issue, I would not be surprised if they found a district attorney willing to pursue the case.

You (and others) keep pushing the "consenting adults" thing, while many others here (including myself) question the degree of "informed consent" possible. The OP himself flat out admits that he manipulated his victim and, if I recall the original post correctly, his own friend has chastised him over his actions.

 

[phillo12345]

The OP himself flat out admits that he manipulated his victim

now this lucky guy is a victim

 

[hzs3fg]

now this lucky guy is a victim

Yes, as the event was described, he was a victim of deliberate manipulation into doing something that he would not otherwise have done.

 

[phillo12345]

Yes, as the event was described, he was a victim of deliberate manipulation into doing something that he would not otherwise have done.

We disagree...OP did not describe abuse