Suggest a postion for the following problem please:

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  1. AlteredEgo

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    I'll post this here instead of Sex With A Large Penis because this is the forum the posters I trust frequent the most. If it needs to be moved, so be it.

    I love to milk my man's penis while he's inside me. By this I mean to say I like to use deliberate, slow, directional contractions of my vaginal muscles to stroke him back while he's stroking me.

    I also love to be pounded ridiculously hard. By this I mean hard enough that one lover thought he was too short to satisfy me, another asked if I'd ever been abused, and most men cannot fuck me as hard as I can tolerate once I get going.

    Here's the problem: I cannot do both simultaneously. The contractions often put my cervix in the way at precisely the wrong moment, and they also make me significantly more sensitive. It becomes painful sometimes even if the stroke totally by-passes my cervix. Sometimes it makes my pubic bone hurt. This is a new problem. With age, I have become more orgasmic, and more sensitive. New, wonderful feelings are possible, older, more familiar pleasures are, I guess, not all working out.

    Just for fun, can we put our heads together and think of positions for me to try Where I can get the increased pleasure from squeezing, but with none of the pain from squeezing that I get during a really good, hard, intense, prolonged pounding? And can you describe why you think that might work?

    So far I've tried missionary, doggy style, laying flat on my belly, lying flat on my back, and sitting in his lap facing him. If you think you know why none of these positions have worked, I'm curious to have those opinions too.

    I also understand I may be asking for something impossible.
     
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    This seems to be an angle issue.

    How about a spoons postition? In that position, the penetration is not as deep, like in doggie. And the angle of the cervix is still the other way.

    The only issue then is the leverage. Its kinda of hard for a guy to really pound you one in that postition. Maybe if he grabs your hips for more force, it might help.

    Now, are you contracting your muscles with every stroke? Or are you just keeping them contracted. Because then, that is a timing issue. And I would imagine getting the timing right at the speed required to make it a pounding would be a real challenge.
     
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    A position to try out

    1. its a variation of girl on top and cuts his length down some but still allows for pounding thrusting and another benefit.

    You almost lay on the guy completely flat and a little forward, you dont sit up at all. If you almost completely lay flat on the guy it takes away a few inches of cock yet he has the support and spring effect of the bed to take his pounding to another level and you can look into his eyes while he's giving it to you like this. I see it in interracial amateur porn all the time when the guy is big and they are going slow but I really think that it could work in your case. I've seen it make the girl wet and then make her cream.

    2. Maybe another one would be something like missionary but with his legs out side of yours (together) rather than inside.

    3.Or missionary with him thrusting from a right angle position instead of a parallel position

    4. You could be in a spoon position while he is thrusting from a right angled position either from behind you or facing you.


    I think the squeezing of muscles will just take practice and also exercising them even more pre-sex. Have a hard pound and then squeeze and then gradually escalate the pace.

    If this helps at all, you have to tell me, I'm really feeling the genius intellect right now lol.
     
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    It seems you have two separate issues. Hard pounding by him so your cervix is completely missed and hard squeezing/milking by you without any of the pain on your pubic bone.

    Doggy style would definitely be the cervix-saver, but it can potentially kill your hips - unless you two use a towel under your pelvis as support. See this:

    JT's Stockroom - Fetish Fantasy Do It Doggy Harness

    ... rather than use a harness, just use a towel.

    As far as regular missionary is concerned, have him plant his feet on the wall by the bed. This'll give him total support for ramming speed. Hmm, this may not help you, but this is the hardest (& almost effortless) I've ever fucked.

    As far as milking him, one position we love is her on top, but not bouncing. It's more grinding forwards and backwards. Take a look at 17:26 on this clip:

    Rachel Starr bumpin' booty grind - Pornhub.com

    Easy, but intense grinding?

    Ooh, here's another good one just fro the milking:

    Scissors Sex Position

    Not sure if it's possible to do any kind of slamming, but it might work?

    This is still kind of vague in my head, but a couple of ideas may involve using a sex swing or one of thos Liberator Ramps? Give me a day to mull this over.
     
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    I think maybe you could be rubbing yourself raw inside by too much sex.

    Lay off the sex for a while and see if the problem goes away.
     
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    Sorry, but I don't understand milking, with a man's penis inside you. Do you mean by doing Kegels on his cock, squeezing it with your vaginal muscles over and over and over? Sorry it's such a dumb question.
     
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    Perhaps, but since when does that mean you shouldn't have it? :smile:

    This isn't exactly what you've asked for and maybe you've tried it already...

    I enjoy squeezing too, the problem I have with it is if I squeeze too hard on a long strong there's a risk that re-entry will be blocked and painful penis bend will result. Neither of us want that. My way around that is to relax for the in stroke and squeeze for the out stroke. Depending on the speed of fucking there isn't always time to do directional squeezing.

    Another position that may be a cervix saver for you is to have your legs scissored. So you have one leg between his and the other on his shoulder. This also has obvious benefits for clit access :smile: Also he can kneel up a bit or down a bit to vary angle through-out.

    I'm sure others have tried / will try that and have a blast, but I'm telling you now my calf muscles would be cramping beyond the bearable within 30 seconds. Not to mention my knees wouldn't like it much either. Guess I'm getting old :rolleyes:
     
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    Sorry I have been away from this thread so long. It seems this week that every time I sit to catch up on the internets, I get called away before I can get to this thread.

    Thanks so much to all of you for contributing. I'll start from the most recent, and work backward.

    Manlybanisters: You're right about there being no time for the directional squeezing sometimes! I too have to moderate the amount of pressure applied to prevent complete eviction and painful re-entry (for both of us). I know you know exactly what I mean. I'll try your suggestion ASAP. It may be a few days because we have a full house right now, but I'll definitely let everyone know how it goes. I actually really like that position, and haven't done it in a while. Thanks.

    Drifterwood: Thank you! That looks like a few minutes of fun. I have a shoulder injury, so I know my time in that position would be limited. I'm not sure I could concentrate on the PC flexing in that position, but I'll certainly give it a go.

    agirlonfire: It is directions contraction of the PC muscle. I recommend writing to RawDog. He always has great links regarding sex, and just recently he posted a link to very explicit instructions even a beginner could follow.

    StraighCock4Her: I respectfully disagree.

    RawDog:Sadly, I have very inlflexible hips, and he has very wide hips. I can accomplish the act at 17:26 in the clip, but it's uncomfortable for me. He likes it very much, but this is strictly an after-orgasm, only-because-he-likes-it position. I also have a hard time maintaining a good rhythm with my contractions because the hip-discomfort is distracting. We have an inflatable ramp-pillow we can use to follow your other suggestions. I just need to find it, blow it up, and enjoy! Thanks for the reminder. I'm not sure scissors will solve this particular problem, but it's a great position. Thank you.

    MTHgasm:His penis isn't long enough for your first suggestion. I think your second suggestion may work very well. Thank you. Spooning doesn't seem like a great way to get the leverage needed for a really hard thrust, but we'll give it a go, facing each other. I think from behind he's definitely going to hit my cervix, which is a complete mood-killer.

    Wish-4-8: You are right. It's all about angles and timing. Thanks for your suggestions.
     
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    Try this -

    Ex Sex - Sex Position

    One of the girls I see, we do something similar, but with my on my side which provides her some access to my ass, while I can still vigorously penetrate her.
     
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    That looks like lots of fun, and I would really like to try this. However, I should have specified that my husband's erection points very rigidly upward, and can barely be pulled to horizontal, far less downward.

    Maybe in my next life.
     
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    Uh, is he legal?:eek:
     
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    Yes. Is that very unusual?
     
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    Very unusual?
    Not sure.
    But his defiance of gravity is a source of inspiration mostly given to the young.


     
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    Try a chair with no arms. You're on top.
     
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    The thing, I think is that you need to find a position in which all your bits are headed south. Sofas and low back chairs have been my friends, not to mention the wonderful love swing :wink:
     
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    He's in his mid-twenties. It's just the way his erection is. He finds it uncomfortable to have it pulled below horizontal.

    We do this from time to time. I think it's the best we have for giving me most of what I want so far. I'm going to need to get a nicer chair for our room. Thanks for your response.

    :wink:
     
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    I purchased the one below from IKEA this past Christmas. It's very easy to assemble and durable. I have to wear heels when we use it, but it makes the experience more :biggrin1:
    IKEA | Work chairs | Visitor's chairs | SNILLE | Visitor chair
     
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    Hmmm, try lifting one leg and having your hubby turn himself 90 degrees so that you look more like a T. I would guess that would work for him and provide you some access for milking.
     
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    Or, what works even better for us is one of those video rockers you can get from Walmart.
     
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