Maybe this isn't something that can be resolved from here, but. I just got out of a four month relationship three weeks ago. She had her next guy picked out before we split up and moved on immediately. I don't have insecurity problems, so haven't moved into another relationship yet. I have however slept with four women since. But I'm not the kind of person to think I'm doing great things by having sex. I'm getting laid and being social, but I still feel rather lackluster and am extremely bored. I thought something exciting would make me feel better, so I had an affair.(I know, and I am a dick for it, he deserves to kick my ass hard-if he ever finds out). But the affair didn't even spice it up for me. Any suggestions?