Supervisor At Work...

[catman]

well with 10% unemployment out there if you really WANT to be job hunting..


I agree..

DO NOT DO IT!

he is the "boss" it is your word against HIS....

there is NO sex worth job loss risk (and see first line above)

 

[dalynxx]

Don't do it at work no matter how tempting. Please don't do it!

 

[LifeRocks]

Work and sex do not mix...no matter how many times we see it in porn, it always ends up with something going wrong. This is exactly why it's probably in your employee handbook that either you or your supervisor would have to leave the department after y'all banged!

 

[mandoman]

The Irish have a saying, "You don't get your meat where you get your bread"

 

[ManlyBanisters]

The Irish have a saying, "You don't get your meat where you get your bread"

Do we?

 

[hung]

As a wise old Chief told us tender, horny sailors on shore duty in Washington D. C. when a plethora of good looking female sailors (WAVES) were assigned to our duty station.

"Do Not Peter The Payroll!"

We all took his advice. A tender young Navy officer in another area of the command started a liaison with one lovely looking WAVE. When he was found out the WAVE attempted to take her own life. She did not succeed. She was of course reassigned to another command.

It is never good to Peter the Payroll, no matter what your sexual preference.

Been there and saw that.

 

[Dick_Smoker]

I am definately looking at this man differently now. I plan on documenting his comments for possible future use! Even though I have been with some married guys like him before, it is a whole different senario this time. What really complicates it even more, is that I know his wife quite well and his 2 teenage kids. It is very tempting to take him up on his offer, but I know I am asking for way too much trouble than it is worth. I don't think he knows what he would be getting himself into as well. I think if any gay guy would see this stud, you would understand why I even considered the possibility!

 

[Man-thango]

I've had sex with several co-workers, but they weren't my supervisor and we hooked up away from work. This situation feels dangerous to me.
The hottest of my co-worker hook-ups was with a hot, pierced-tongued, big-cocked, athletic bodied dude who told me after shooting hot love lava in my mouth that his wife was " in the hospital having his baby"! I felt exceptionally dirty and hot and wanted to suck another load of baby batter out of him. He came over a couple of other times and ended up blowing me and making out with me. I'm a bad puppy, I know!

HOMEWREAKER. I'm sorry where do you work again?

 

[Florida Boy]

I am definately looking at this man differently now. I plan on documenting his comments for possible future use! Even though I have been with some married guys like him before, it is a whole different senario this time. What really complicates it even more, is that I know his wife quite well and his 2 teenage kids. It is very tempting to take him up on his offer, but I know I am asking for way too much trouble than it is worth. I don't think he knows what he would be getting himself into as well. I think if any gay guy would see this stud, you would understand why I even considered the possibility!

Since these things are happening, you can't be sure of what will come of it. Documentation will be the key if things blow-up in any way. Witnesses are also good. Don't ever be alone with him.

 

[helgaleena]

What, he's MARRIED?? Even worse. Yes, make note of his comments and use them if you have to in order to protect yourself. If he's saying such things to you only when nobody else is there he may be trying to undermine your work.

 

[dreamer20]

...I asked him jokingly if he brought me something to eat. He replied (a)"I have something that I would like to feed ya"...He does by the way have a very impressive package. After I returned to work, I asked him to come and look at a defective piece of equipment. His reply to me was (b)"I have something I really want to show you!"
I suspect he knows I ...would suck him off without blinking an eye. I am not out at work, but as things happen some people do suspect me.
Is it wrong to blow him...am I asking for more trouble than is necessary to maintain a working relationship?
Has anyone ever had a similar experience?

I thought his comments, (a) & (b), to be risque humor - humor which I enjoyed in the past with my fellow staff and in adolescence. Find out what he is up to. I would've replied "What is it?" he had for me to eat and see in each case. He may or may not be joking with you. Depending upon what he does, my next response might be "You're too fresh!" , "Are you mad? Put that away!", "Could that be any smaller?" and laugh .

Maintain a good rapport with him, focus on your work and keep your desire to suck him off secret.

 

[BigDallasDick8x6]

I've had sex with several co-workers, but they weren't my supervisor and we hooked up away from work. This situation feels dangerous to me.
The hottest of my co-worker hook-ups was with a hot, pierced-tongued, big-cocked, athletic bodied dude who told me after shooting hot love lava in my mouth that his wife was " in the hospital having his baby"! I felt exceptionally dirty and hot and wanted to suck another load of baby batter out of him. He came over a couple of other times and ended up blowing me and making out with me. I'm a bad puppy, I know!

Wow, that's a hot story. A friend of mine use to go to Fuck Fest in Palm Springs and a marine fucked him in the sling. Afterwards the marine said he got his girlfriend pregnant and he didn't know what to do next. My friend said, "Fuck me again." LOL

 

[BigDallasDick8x6]

A lot of the comments here seem to be a bit paranoid, and I wonder if you guys would be giving the same advice if it was a heterosexual attraction.

My advice would be, try to get to know him in a social setting away from work. You never know he might be the love of your life.

I agree. -- "It never ends well. It never ends well. It never ends well." -- Almost sounds like a mantra. Where are the examples of all the ones that never ended well? I know several stories about people who met at work and got married and are happy as far as we know. I'm pretty sure they slept together before getting married. Therefore they slept with a co-worker and yet it ended well.

 

[BigDallasDick8x6]

I am definately looking at this man differently now. I plan on documenting his comments for possible future use! Even though I have been with some married guys like him before, it is a whole different senario this time. What really complicates it even more, is that I know his wife quite well and his 2 teenage kids. It is very tempting to take him up on his offer, but I know I am asking for way too much trouble than it is worth. I don't think he knows what he would be getting himself into as well. I think if any gay guy would see this stud, you would understand why I even considered the possibility!

I go to Michigan a couple times a year. I'd gladly audition him for ya.

Anything to help a brother.

What do you do when he says these things? And then what is his response? That will help figure out what he's up to.

If he said those things to me I think I'd laugh or smile, but not in a mocking way. He is your boss after all. But in a friendly, male bonding way - "That's a good one!"

I really don't think he's going to stick his dick in your mouth and then fire you. I don't get that logic where people are saying it's a trap. Just let him continue to be the aggressor. In other words, don't grab his crotch just in case. But he isn't a vice cop for heaven's sake.

Don't forget -- he has a lot more to lose than you do. He's the boss so the courts (and HR Depts.) will judge his actions more severely than yours. Plus he's married with a family. My hunch is he is really horny. Lucky you.

Since you know the wife and teenage kids, it possible that they have told him that they suspect you're gay and that's what piqued his interest. Maybe he's bi and wife is cool with it. There are lot more marriages like that than the general public is aware of.

If it were me, I'd invite him on a camping trip. You know, sleeping in a tent, bathing in a stream, etc. LOL Might be a little cold for that in Michigan the next few months.

But seriously getting out of the workplace, going out for drinks or whatever would seem to be the next step. Again, let him be the aggressor and don't put up any resistance. (Like you would!)

Keep us posted....

 

[wolf1bear2]

spent 12 years with a married man, his wife knew. It's over, he could not get it up, but good years.

 

[AsA3DollarBill]

Most of the adults you meet in your life (after school) are through work, and a sizable minority of people meet their future spouse at work. The biggest secret in work environments is that people hit on each other all the time.

Also, sexual harassment is two-fold. There are individual incidents where a quid-pro-quo offer is made ("do this and I'll promote you" or "if you don't do this I'll fire you"). Then there's the more general "hostile work environment" situation, which is a pattern of behavior and is more subjective, based upon the victim's responses. But getting hit on at work through mild innuendo is *not* by definition sexual harassment.

This isn't the first scenario and doesn't sound like the second, since you're more intrigued than bothered by the attention.



So given all of that, I agree with most everyone that pursuing something at work isn't feasible or wise. And propositioning a direct supervisor or subordinate is awkward, stupid, and/or illegal, So don't pursue this situation at all.

But if he weren't your supervisor AND if the flirting led to socializing outside work and then to a relationship, there's nothing wrong with that.

 

[D_Anton_Pavlovich_Jerkhov]

The "problem" as I see it is that he won't probably stop, whether you go on to ignore him ( he will ask you what is up?) or reply to him in kind.

If I were you, I'd keep doing my work as best as I can. This is the important thing.

And I would also play his game in such a way as to make him throw off his mask. Whenever he makes those ambiguous jokes, drive him to the wall by saying: "What do you mean?"

I expect he doesn't make his silly jokes in the presence of others.

Whether you find him to be attractive or not, I have a feeling that this man is a poor soul.

 

[Dragon Rider]

your supervisor is out of line no matter how much you want to. if your company has a harassment policy, this is in that policy and you should speak with HR about it. All harrasment ppolicies have a no retaliation clause in them so you would be protected.

 

[BigDallasDick8x6]

your supervisor is out of line no matter how much you want to. if your company has a harassment policy, this is in that policy and you should speak with HR about it. All harrasment ppolicies have a no retaliation clause in them so you would be protected.

They are two adults and he finds the guy attractive. There is no reason to destroy someone's career because they complimented you. The attention is not unwelcome, hostile or intimidating. No reason for this guy to be a prick about a compliment.

 

[houtx48]

I'll throw this one in "don't get your meat and your bread in the same place."