9 or 10 years ago, when I used to post here on a regular basis, I had the reputation, entirely deserved, of being something of a Pollyanna. Nowadays I'm a little more brusque and blunt than I used to be. A little stupider (if that's possible) and a little more inclined to tilting at windmills. Mea culpa. Yet sometimes, reading the posts here, I wish there was a little bit more of that supportive spirit that really did prevail here back in ye olde proverbial day. A little less inclination to jump down the throats of new posters, a little less inclination to indulge in endless circle jerks of either argument or agreement. Yes, seeing "Does having a x correlate to y" posts get a little old, "do (fill in the blank) human beings have (larger/smaller) penises than these (fill in the blank) human beings" are things we've all seen plenty of. So and so argues "this" about something that's in the wind so we argue "that" back because, obviously, they're an idiot. Doesn't he or she realize we have the truth--and the citations with which to back it up? And plenty of trolls and fakers are inclined to join a site such as this. But so what? Do we always have to police everything? Is it ok to be fooled? What's the worst that can happen if we answer sincerely to someone who turns out to be a faker or troll? We look bad? We look stupid? To whom? The troll? What do we care what they think? Somebody disagrees with our political opinion or just our opinion in general? Who gives a shit? What are we trying to prove? And to whom? Can anybody here have the courage to say, "I was wrong. I apologize. Teach me something." ? So what if...and just what if...the person asking questions we may have heard before, or simply may be mis-understanding in this moment, is also an actual human being, looking for answers, looking to fit in? What if someone has a sincere question about his penis, his/her boyfriend's penis, his/her girlfriend's boyfriend penis--whatever beautiful formulation of human sexual response might be possible--that might be phrased in a grammatically incorrect way or in a style that we've all seen so many times before? Does he or she, or however this human being wishes to be defined, not deserve the benefit of the doubt or some kind of considered, measured response? Could we treat each other with some respect and compassion? So many well-educated, intelligent people post here, far more so than this particular college flunk-out, that I wonder what it might be like if there was less argument, less well and/or ill-informed opinion, and more understanding. Less point scoring and jockeying for empty wins in meaningless arguments and an actual coming together (pardon the pun) in the understanding that for whatever reason, male, female or transgender; gay, straight, bi or asexual; well-hung, "small" or "average"--some common purpose and interest has brought us together? I'm sure someone will use the "kum by yah" or "can't we get all along" or "pc" tropes to this entirely earnest query on my part, and that's fine. And I realize some of my recent posts have not been particularly considerate, or I dare say, intelligible. Yet I wonder, and feel free to flame away in response, what might this site become if we were a little kinder to one another?