Sex during menstruation. No big deal or the worst thing imaginable?
You didn't give us a third option. How about an enjoyable time [for the most part] to have sex? I lived with a woman for years, who had heavy periods that lasted for days on end sometimes. If we'd foregone sex during her periods, that would have been about 30% of the time. Neither of us wanted that. OK ... if she was feeling really crappy, sex wasn't on the agenda. But throughout most of her periods, we would plan for having sex. If she had a tampon in when she was at work, she'd switch to a napkin later in the afternoon, so she wouldn't be totally dry inside when we started to fool around.
She complained of pelvic congestion a lot, and claimed that having a powerful orgasm made her feel a lot better. Normally, we'd do the usual end of the day thing. Go to bed around 10 or 11, have sex, fall asleep.
But during her periods, she was often more specific. Please, I want to screw NOW. She didn't want a lot of rough treatment or changing positions then -- more of a slow, steady purposeful grind was in order, until she was pushed over the edge. Hey, it's really tough being a guy under those conditions, I know .. but when it's presented to you practically like it's a doctor's prescription that needs to be filled -- I'm just too much of a nice guy to say no. But seriously, I enjoy the different way it feels when a woman's blood is flowing.
As far as oral goes -- it's business as usual for me. But often it's the woman who needs convincing that I don't find that offensive. What's the big deal about fresh blood? Look, if a woman's had a tampon in all day, and her crotch has also been hermetically sealed inside panties and/or tights .. then duh .. no wonder there might be an unpleasant odour. But no .. just be sensible about it all. It's part of being human -- sex is a bit different during that time of the month, but often it's better. Seek joy wherever you can find it.