suspect friend is bi

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    I have a coworker who is also my friend that likes to play gay. He messes with many girls, but he likes to play touchy feel with me. He's always calling me cutie, trying to wrestle me, and grabbing me by my waist. He says he's just playing but I don't think he is. Am I reading too much into this?
     
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    I'm confused. :confused: He sounds like he might be bi, but why does it matter? Are you interested in him?
     
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    Could be bi. Or could be one of those rare creatures, a guy so secure in his straightness he messes around for laughs.
     
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    maybe you're just sooo hot he can't keep his hands off you.
     
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    raise the ante. next time he does something like that suggest doing it. see how he reacts. ...or just ignore him if you don't want to do anything with him.
     
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    I agree with SpeedoMike... I say the next time he's playing around with you, you play right back and suggest fooling around and see how he reacts.
     
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    Dude, since this is at work, proceed VERY carefully.
     
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    I think I might be interested in him. He's the one that made me curious about what's it like to be with a guy. I was never interested in any man. I'm confused though because when he touches me I like it but I always make him stop. I'm the only one he messes with like this out of all the guys around us at work. I think I'm scared of something evolving between us but I kinda want to see how far this can go. Like I said I'm confused.
     
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    Warrior, how good of friends are you outside of work?

    Have you ever gone out with him for a couple of beers, just the two of you? If so, how does he act then?

    I was in a somewhat similar situation at work in 2007. I repeat, tread carefully.

    How old are you guys anyway?

    Was he a frat guy in college? (just curious, don't know that it means anything)
     
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    I have hung out with him once. We met up with some girls out of town and chatted with them. He telling his life story but he kept looking at me a lot. I was thinking maybe its the liquor because we were a little tipsy. We went to his house afterward just the two of us and talked and drank some more and we ended up looking at porn together, but nothing happened. I saw him with his hands in his boxers touching his dick but I don't know if signaling or was just horny. I caught him glancing at me while he was touching his dick but nothing happened. I just left a few hours later. I think he wants to try me but doesn't know how to come out and say it
     
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    You obviously want something to happen.

    So just ask him out- grow some balls and embrace your inner pussy? lol.

    But seriously, you're probably a little more than 10% gay at this point. Consider putting 85% gay on your profile. Sounds like it.
     
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    I love this phrase "maybe it's the liquor". Dude, liquor only serves to reduce inhibitions to doing things for which the desire/potential already exists.

    This "oh man, I was so drunk" excuse that some guys try is bullshit. It does not negate the implications of any activity that has taken place.

     
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    Take him at his word warrior8. If he says he is playing with you, believe it. As you like his touch and playfulness, don't send him the wrong signal by stopping him. Compliment, embrace and play with him as well. Dispel your fear. Relax, encourage and welcome the change that you desire.
     
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    next time he plays with you like that, try this:

    grab his dick & stick your tongue down his throat...

    your confusion will be ended immediately...
     
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    Hmm....paying more attention to you...that may be a clue. As for the porn part, he may have just been horny, also, were you doing anything while he was trying for those quick glances? A buddy once said to me " Drunk words are sober thoughts." That can also work same for some actions. Either way, play right back, but don't go overboard. Hell, I was in the Army for a few years. That type of play was very common. It was mainly because we were so comfortable being around each other that we took no offense or we did things like that all in fun. As for the confusion, well, if you play right back that could also help to break ice a little. Either way, something like that may take a little time. Probably also going through little phase of suddenly wondering what it's like to experiment or mess around, yet afraid of social taboos and not wanting to turn full-fledged gay. Personally, I went through a period like that. When I finally messed around, I found that it wasn't so bad for me, but it wasn't something full time for me. I'm still mostly straight and prefer puss, but on occasion I can still do some things guilt-free.
     
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