Swimming-Pool's showers unexpected scary meet

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  1. Gboy87

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    Hi! i practice swim. one day in the end of october, i met a guy ind the pool and we exchange some words in the water. Then, in the open showers we were frontal and i were completely naked. he began to wash himself and then he put off the speedo too. He told me his name giving me his hand and approaching me... so i take the shampoo and the shower gel and i went in the shower next to him because he had a low tone of voice and i can't hear him while he was talking...there was just another empty shower that separate us... He was 35 circa and a little shy. I begin to wash my cock while we were talking and he looked my cock growing (my cock always get hard when i wash it). He asked me if i always have my cock in that way ... and those words embarassed me.
    He continued asking me if i was wanking and i answered NO! but he told me that i could go on... so he begin to wank looking at me. i feel embarassed and a little bit horny at the same time... so i begin to wank. he don't touch me and at a certain point he turned in fron of the wall and continued to wank. when he finished he say bye without looking at me and he ran away!!! I thought that he probably would be touched, or seeing me younger he waited a first move by me.
    Fortunately I haven't seen him for some weeks. I feel a little bit terrorized by him.
    In the first week of december i see him again. he came in the locker room all dressed up and ask me the telephon number because he told that he need to ask me something... I gave him a wrong number and i quicky escape to that situation, going to the pool. At the end of the train he was waiting for me in the bathroom...he told me if we would take a coffe with him. I said him no, but he still insisted...so i told him that he could have misunderstood what happened in the showers.
    I never told this to my boyfriend because he's very jealous, and i think he could be angry with me and trust me no more.
    I never cheat him and this secret make me feel very bad...physically and mentally...
    I thought that i had to keep it for me, to protect him, but maybe we could drink some beers and at a certain point i could tell the story in a nice way...
    what do you think that i should do?
    help me please
     
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    Well first of all... you don't ever have to give anyone your phone number even if they insist. It's best to be very upfront and direct with people who make you uncomfortable and let them know where you stand and not be intimidated by them.

    The best advice I could give you in the future if you don't want any unwanted attention at the gym is keep your distance from people in the shower and don't engage in any sexual activity.

    If you truly feel some threat by this man, it would be in your best interests to confide in your boyfriend. Things that you keep to yourself to protect yourself and others have a strange way of coming back into your life when you least expect it. On the surface this is fairly innocent and I think your boyfriend would understand.
     
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    If I was you I would come clean with your boyfriend about what happened. He may be a jealous guy but dishonesty isn't a good idea.

    If you see this guy again and he causes grief just be blunt and tell him to back off.
     
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    I disagree with flameboy.....dont tell your boyfriend, there is no reason to except to ease your conscience, tell him only if that is why you are telling him, dont go with the whole 'being dishonest' thing as your not cheating on anyone, there is no point in creating tension where there doesnt need to be.....perhaps in time to come you can tell him but its really up to you.
    As for the shower incident, try not to pay attention to what other guys are doing and leave if you feel they are being inappropriate.
     
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    Thank you guys! Tell him everything is what i'll do, but i think that he wouldn't bring it well because it passed 2 months... :(
     
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    Don't tell your boyfriend, in the end all you did was give some extra attention to your cock, you didn't touch the guy and it's very natural for a 21 year old to be excited by this stuff (heck even I would still be).

    You just made a little mistake and got lost in the moment... shed it off and if the guy approaches you just say you are in a relationship and don't want to meet other people...
     
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    tell the truth and see just how fun and exciting life is
     
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    Always look at your motives. It doesn't take acutal infidelity to make a man jealous. Do you want your bf to imagine you getting into situations every time you walk out the door?

    Live and learn, but keep it to yourself. this sounds like you want to tell him just to prove how honest and trustworthy you are... this usually backfires.
     
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    at this time i still told him nothing and maybe i'll still don't say anything...
    i'll try to forget this bad situation and go on with my life and with our couple life...
     
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    I am confused by these last few statements. Are you saying you could have a few beers with your b/f and tell him, or have a few beers with the stranger at the pool?

    It also seems to me that this whole ordeal turned you on (your own words) and had he stayed and not run off after he came, maybe something would have happened?

    I think that may be what is bothering you....knowing that had this guy stayed instead of taking off you MAY have been more involved with him and for that you feel guilty.

    Had it happened to me as you describe it, I'd be more questioning my own motives for feeling guilty.

    ...it could have progressed further?
    ...had he come over to your stall while you were wanking, more could have/would have happened?
    ...you were getting off on knowing someone was getting off in the shower with you?


    I suppose it depends on you. More info would be great on how YOU feel about the whole thing and where would it/could have gone with this stranger had he not cum and left?
     
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    Well, about the beers i was talking about me and my b/f.
    Probably what you said about if the things under the shower would progressed is another thing that make me feel guilty.
    That day i were angry with my boyfriend... we litigated (i don't remember for what) and i idiotically wanted to let him pay, but then, when under the shower the unknown guy approached me, the guiltiness to do something studip and unsense invaded me...
    these were and are my feelings about it...
    For me this is experience mean that i'll be more responsable, for me and my relation. I really want to go on with my boyfriend. I just was angry and i make a stupid mistake, but fortunately it happened nothing... OMG...
    About the fact that i get excited, it was because everytime i wash my cock i get hard. Surely i should turn and hide my cock from him, but i told you WTF it passed in my head...
     
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    really? my pizza place won't deliver without one.
     
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    I was agitated, but i gave him a wrong number!
     
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