So my boyfriend and I have been together for almost 7 years. We were both virgins and only had one date and started a long term relationship. We love each other very much but fight a lot and I haven't gotten much sex from him in the last year. Mostly I want to top and he won't do it anymore, in the past i was only getting it once a month average. I am stuck using sex toys but its not the same as being with a real person. I have never cheated but I've had the wandering eye and it's getting worse. I don't want to leave him but I want the freedom to sleep around and at this point my feeling is if we could both agree to it I would be fine with him sleeping with other guys too but he shuts down everyone I bring it up, and insists no even though he's been obsessing over his straight best friend and talks about wanting to sleep with him for months now.
Since the summer I've been eyeing a cute guy I know and found myself regularly masturbating fantasizing about him very intensely. One day I was looking at his Facebook and I didn't notice before that under details it says he likes men. I got really excited thinking maybe there would be even the slightest chance I could hook up with him. Now for the past couple of months I have really been making the effort to get to know this guy because after talking to him I found I have tons of things in common with him and as I find out more about him I find more similarities. He has a membership at Planet Fitness and offered to take me there as a guest, which we just went for the first time today, we have also been working out together before this.
When I finally got the courage to ask him about his relationship status he said he's a virgin and that nobody would want him because he has no personality. He does come off as kinda of cold and distant but he does have a personality, it's just that he is very insecure and an extreme introvert which so am I, so I can relate and understand his feelings. What I can't understand is that he mentioned girls as if he is straight which I thought maybe he is covering or bisexual, but I did tell him I'm gay, and reluctantly mentioned I'm in a relationship because I didn't want to lie to him.
Maybe he is still uncomfortable or just hasn't figured himself out yet but if he really is gay I don't think he should be uncomfortable talking to me about it since I am gay. Maybe the fact that I told him I'm involved with somebody else has made him hesitant or maybe he isn't attracted to me, I don't know. After we worked out today I brought up relationships again and specifically talked about sex. He still just mentioned girls and fear of pregnancy, nothing about liking guys. He still insisted that he isn't relationship material and when I asked if he would ever consider casual dating and sex he said that he is too traditional minded for that and would only want to have sex with someone he loves.
The problem is that I will probably never get into his pants (and by seeing him wearing basketball shorts its obvious he has a big dick) and the boyfriend doesn't want me to fool around with him, but I like him a lot and he likes me, we have so much in common and enjoy each other's company. Also he is making me want to workout more which is good for me. I just can't stop thinking about how much I wanna f*ck him
Since the summer I've been eyeing a cute guy I know and found myself regularly masturbating fantasizing about him very intensely. One day I was looking at his Facebook and I didn't notice before that under details it says he likes men. I got really excited thinking maybe there would be even the slightest chance I could hook up with him. Now for the past couple of months I have really been making the effort to get to know this guy because after talking to him I found I have tons of things in common with him and as I find out more about him I find more similarities. He has a membership at Planet Fitness and offered to take me there as a guest, which we just went for the first time today, we have also been working out together before this.
When I finally got the courage to ask him about his relationship status he said he's a virgin and that nobody would want him because he has no personality. He does come off as kinda of cold and distant but he does have a personality, it's just that he is very insecure and an extreme introvert which so am I, so I can relate and understand his feelings. What I can't understand is that he mentioned girls as if he is straight which I thought maybe he is covering or bisexual, but I did tell him I'm gay, and reluctantly mentioned I'm in a relationship because I didn't want to lie to him.
Maybe he is still uncomfortable or just hasn't figured himself out yet but if he really is gay I don't think he should be uncomfortable talking to me about it since I am gay. Maybe the fact that I told him I'm involved with somebody else has made him hesitant or maybe he isn't attracted to me, I don't know. After we worked out today I brought up relationships again and specifically talked about sex. He still just mentioned girls and fear of pregnancy, nothing about liking guys. He still insisted that he isn't relationship material and when I asked if he would ever consider casual dating and sex he said that he is too traditional minded for that and would only want to have sex with someone he loves.
The problem is that I will probably never get into his pants (and by seeing him wearing basketball shorts its obvious he has a big dick) and the boyfriend doesn't want me to fool around with him, but I like him a lot and he likes me, we have so much in common and enjoy each other's company. Also he is making me want to workout more which is good for me. I just can't stop thinking about how much I wanna f*ck him
