Here is a question for women here... You work with a guy you think is cute... but taken... Do you? 1. wooh... hands off.. you will be professional with him, but that is it. 2. become friendly with him, maybe some innocent flirtation. 3. become close to him... Give him signs you might be interested if he was available. 4. go after him. You want him and you don't care about the relationship. He needs to break up and be with you 5. Why not an affair? You know he will leave her and be with you eventually.