Are some people just takers?
Within the last 24 hours, I "gave" the following to the same person...
-- sex
-- a rescue when his car ran out of gas on the freeway on-ramp
-- money to buy gas
-- a couple of hours of work on his web site
-- forgiveness for standing me up on a date (he was busy taking phone calls)
-- a cooked supper because it was too late to go out
-- a couple of beers
But then we had a fight about what I interpreted to be a sexist remark about movie stars. (Some things really push my buttons)
I tried to change my mood. I tried to avert the fight, albeit I didn't do a very good job of this. And I can get "unreasonably" riled about some things.
But the minute he didn't like my "mood", he was out the door.
Is that right?
Am I unreasonable in thinking that I was due some slack?
Or should women just shut up and be nice all the time?
Once i awhile I read here and on other boards a deeply disturbing profoundly sad OP. This is one.:frown1:
Where do you start with such a sad post? Well I will.
I have seen a bit of HM posts and I have seen her pics. She is a spectacularly beautiful, literary, and intelligent woman burdened with the task of raising 3 kids. Why would you put up with this shit?
1) sex in not a gift but that isn't the sadness.
2) Rescue a grown man who has run out of gas???!!! What man who is any sort of man runs of of gas? Yes it can happen but for gawd sake he doesn't have a AAA card or credit card? He asks a woman with 3 children to rescue him
AND pay for the gas? A man who is over the age of 25 should have control of his life in such a way that HE does not have to need a woman for this sort of help. There are things that men are supposed to have control of, this is one of them. You call a male friend, you call AAA but you don't call your GF struggling to raise 3 kids to bail you out of your dumb ass mistake. That spells loser in my book. Real men fix their own mistakes. Women have been burdened with enough shit to do unfairly, that they then have to babysit an adult male? I would never call my GF to help me out of my mistake. I effed it up, I fix it. I would lop my dick off and give up my man card if I saddled a woman with my error.
If the sun the moon and the stars should reverse polarity and I did beg a women for that help., NO FUCKING WAY WILL YOU HAVE TO PAY. I am buying dinner at the nicest place in town for her. I call the sitter, I make the reservations and I show her how much she means to me. In Newport Beach its Mastros, in Westlake Village its Mandevilla, in Manhattan Beach I can think of a zillion spots. You don't cook.
Babe you do that for me and the website becomes unimportant, the phone calls can wait. You become #1 if you weren't for that moment before. You rescued me, I don't stand you up.
And what bullshit man who calls himself a motivational speaker does not have complete control of his life?! MS's tell people how to succeed but for fucks sake you gawd damn better have your life in such fine control before you tell me how to run mine. No money for gas? No money for a AAA card? Have your life in complete control and THEN you can make suggestions to me. He is a fraud, a phony and a bullshit artist.
I am
unrelentingly merciless against men who confuse showmanship with true masculinity. Men, real men, should have their lives under their control. And ladies do not confuse showmanship with being a real man. Remember Lloyd in *Say Anything?* thats a man. The rest are just guys. I know the man HM is dating by heart, I know his kind and he sickens me.
Your problem HM at its core is that you know deep down you have wasted 7 years on a man not your equal, not a real man, and you don't know how to admit to yourself that you need to move on.
Why do you women pick these losers and make these mistakes? If a spectacularly intelligent sexy women like HM has done this what is going on out there?
What a sad post.