That said, he sounds a bit too high maintenance for my liking. I say dump him and go out with Guy-jin. :wink: He's nice, smart, funny, employed and has a rather large penis. :smile:
Step off. Guy-jin is mine, dammit!
What a coward. yes I have made up my mind about him and I have been right. He is a weak man. He couldn't have held a job for 7 years so she did not have to support him? Thats weak, the textbook definition of weak.
What about men who do this? Is it the same? My husband has supported me for 7 years through college, having a child, having a serious illness, a career that costs more than it pays most of the time... In all ways, I've been weak, I've been a leech, and I've been a drain on his resources. And yet, I get the feeling WGC would see this as different than hotmilf's situation.
Wait a second . . .7 years
!?!?! You have been in an open relationship with a man whom you financially support for 7 years??!! SEVEN YEARS!?!? :aargh4:I'm sorry his time is up. I gotta agree with Wyldgusechaz. He may have been a little harsh in his wording; but he is 110% correct.
Would you say this if it were a woman doing this?
I stayed with a man for 10 years, I worked two jobs help put him through dental school, at which point we were supposed to get married. But then he needed to go back and specialize in maxillofacial surgery and still I waited. My father offered to
give him seed money to set him up in a practice. He declined, wanted to make it on his own. That should have been a clue; but nooo, I was in love, I believed him.

:duh:
Long story short, he dumped me 2 months before my 30th birthday. It was the last semester of grad school so I literally had no time to cry.
NJQT, this is your experience, and it's not a universal one. A lot of times these arrangements work out well. Your man may not have been using you-- maybe your relationship just wasn't working and he left. There are no guarantees and contracts in relationships like this-- it's a risk. Don't also forget that you got something out of the relationship as well because you stayed in it.
I think it's up to hotmilf to decide what's really going on here, and if what she's doing is worth the grief and aggravation.
And WGC-- just because you make a little bit of money doesn't mean you're automatically entitled to the best, most attractive women. It doesn't mean you should have the pick of the litter, and it seems like this is what you're getting at in this thread and others. You seem to be a little bitter that a woman like hotmilf doesn't automatically pick a man like you.