Takes FOREVER to cum...

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  1. AnonymousToast

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    Okay, here's my deal.

    Back when she would do that kind of thing, my girlfriend gave me head for about thirty-forty minutes. Thing is, she would only do it that long because that was when her jaw and tongue would get tired, and I hadn't cum yet. She's stopped giving me BJs because she doesn't see any point in it. Is it possible for me to train myself to cum faster?

    Side note: For some reason, I cum within five minutes when she jacks me off. Weird? Typical?
     
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    I have no clue as to giving you plausable advice to your dilema, but I do understyand your question...somewhat. I've never felt the finish of a blowjob, and I've gone as far as 45 mins. As for handjobs, arms go tired trying. If there is an answer I'd love to hear it as well.:cool:
     
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    If the hand job works for you, have her use them along with her mouth.
     
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    Certain medications such as anti-depressants can greatly delay ejaculation.
    Some men need very vigorous stimulation to ejaculate.
    Oral sex does it for others ......
     
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    I strongly believe that variety is the spice of life. I take longer to come from blowjobs than from fucking or handjobs. If I'm fucking on top I can take up to an hour before I blow, even if I'm really horny. If I'm being blown, it can take longer. If I'm being wanked, it can take just minutes. Sex for me and my partners is about exploring as many pleasures as possible. We might wank for a while, then blow eachother, then rim, then take turns fucking eachother, and finish off by hand. Every time is different. You should explore the different methods that work for you and explain this to your girlfriend. I bet she'll appreciate your honesty and enjoy the sex you'll explore as a result.

    Just my two bob's worth!
     
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    Typical. A hand can put more pressure on your shaft than a mouth. A good blowjob should involve the mouth and hand. It's the combination of saliva to provide lubrication, hand for pressure, and tongue to stimulate the sensitive bottom area near the tip that makes it feel good. She doesn't need to use all her fingers, it could just be the thumb and index finger. Her hand should move with her mouth. It takes some practice and communication to get the right amount of pressure, speed, tongue, etc.

    Give it another try, and let us know how it turns out.
     
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    I have never been able to cum from blowjobs...just a totally different feeling from a handjob and nothings wrong with it but its just not the right feeling to make me go over the edge

     
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    I have two friends who have greatly built butt and thighs. Both of them had the very same situation..."it would take what seemed forever to cum". 2x or 3x the rest of us. During conversation over beers many of us commented that having a leg up (like if you are standing and lift one on the bed or a chair) or if you are on the bed spread your legs and let her get in the middle while she BJ's.

    For some of us it worked to make us ejaculate sooner...for others it didn't change a thing. For the "body built" ones it made the world..it seems a lot of beef interferes a little with the "ejaculation system". Might be worth a try and see if it makes a difference for you!

    Rick
     
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    my friend luke is like that... i can suck on his cock forever and he may never blow... the quickiest time i ever blew him off was like 15-20min... but usually it's at least 30min... and a lot of the times it just takes him too long and we have to stop.

    when i'm doin it, i go between rim jobs, hand jobs, and licking his gouch.. things he has told me to do in his "sleep" (he pretends to sleep while i blow him, very much in the closet)..... nothing really seems to help him blow quicker.

    my friend told me that this girl we know, went to suck him off, and she couldn't get him off either. so at least i'm not the only one.

    but it really sucks... if i'm sucking cock for that long, i want the prize at the end, but it doesn't always work out that way. but his cock is really large, and i just love sucking on it. :biggrin1:

     
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    Man this is a real eye opener. I fit into this group as well, but thought it was just me.
    I have had times when she has just stopped due to the length of time it has been, and even though I felt a bit guilty for not cumming, I reached a plateau where I was close to cumming without going any further and found it almost mind blowing. (I made sure I told my partner this). I mean I was at the point where when she stopped I found out I was shaking.

    I do have some tricks though.
    Do some other stimulation to yourself, like rolling your nipples between 2 fingers.
    I luv pushing their head towards myself, although I've never had anyone take all of me orally, and so I have to resist chocking her.
    Sometimes I get a hand down there and either hold my cock with one hand at the base, or with 2 fingers (like the peace sign) and have the base of my cock between the 2 fingers.
    I've also pulled the skin back tight enough to not hurt but increasing the sensitivity around the glans helping me come quicker.
     
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    You've got two solutions...

    1) get hornier before the blow job starts.
    2) have her learn how to give better blow jobs.

    For #1, I have watched porn (or even some TV shows) while getting head to make it easier to come. I have also gotten horny while out and about, so I was ready to pop before my zipper was unzipped.

    As for #2... I hadn't come orally in years, then I met this woman at a party who made it very clear she wanted to leave with me (she pulled her D-cup breasts out of her low cut blouse when I told her that my digital camera's battery was about to die and if there was anything she wanted me to photograph, she better do it quickly).

    At her place, we had regular sex. Then, a couple hours later, she said she wanted to fellate me. I told her, "Okay, but don't expect me to come."

    Not only did I come, I came well. Half a dozen other women had fellated me that year and none of them came close to getting me off... she did it easily.

    Her explanation was that, after a difficult birth, she could not have vaginal sex for almost two years, so she and her husband could only have oral sex.

    She paid attention and got very good.


    Jeff
     
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    I appreciate all the responses, but it's moot now. She broke up with me this morning for a reason unrelated to my slow cumming.

    Thanks though.
     
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    This is quite interesting, and ties in with something I've frequently heard: that big cocks take longer to cum than normal-sized ones. I've heard it so many times I can't ignore it, from both ladies and guys. And it's not always been words of praise, either. Someone said, "I'm so bloody tired of all these big dicks which take forever to cum, it's such hard work!". I'm no exception to the rule - I can go on for ever. I wonder if anybody else has noticed a correlation between cock size and the required time to cum.
     
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