Taking Forever to Cum

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same problem at times. For me the less frequently I have sex the easier it is to blow my wad. Stop the jerking if you are. Give yourself several days of "rest" before giving it a go. Don't delay your climax - just go for it - do whatever tends to get you there. For me it is most always the missionary position that gets me off. If you can't get there after a reasonable time just tell your partner it won't happen and try to please them in some fashion. Try again another time. Watch the drugs and alcohol.

Hope this helps.
Agreed,alcohol and drugs dfinately screw up the orgasm process....
 

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On the opposite end of the spectrum of ejaculating too fast, it takes me a long time to cum. I can have sex for two hours before I cum. Many women want it to happen long before that. A very few enjoy this time frame. I make sure they cum of course and on many occasions will fake an orgasm to make them happy. But is there anything that will help a guy cum faster?

Does this happen you jack off too or just when you are having intercourse?
 

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I have a similar problem...but i Can't really call it a problem any more....I used to hate it but now I know you can really satisfy a woman the longer you go.....just a week ago I made my friend cum five times in a little under two hours...if you use the time right, it can be a great experience.
 

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I have the same problem..It takes me a really long time unless im jacking off myself. The only way i cum from sex is if I fuck her really hard doggie style. Im in really good shape and take no drugs or perscriptions. Its always been this way for me.
 

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Let's see - we have self fun and vodka/redbull.
For just myself, i don't have this problem.
Vodka/red bull does make me horny - for along time.
Thanks Jimbo. Duly noted.
Thanks antonio.
Thanks guys for the suggestions.
Now - get to it! lol.
 

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So much about orgasming is psychological. And this problem becomes more and more sort of a self-fulfilling prophecy. You can't cum. Then you worry about it. So it gets in your head. And then it's even harder to cum. And that's probably why it's easier to cum when you're with someone that you're comfortable with and care more about. You're less worried about the reaction he or she will have if you end up going for hours or ultimately not orgasming.
I often have this same "problem," and usually need to finish myself off (if at all.) But, I usually try to play it off with my partner, trying to convince them that eh, I cum all the time. I don't need to. It's more about pleasing THEM. And just because I didn't cum doesn't mean I wasn't enjoying it. There's a common misconception that the entire point of sex is the orgasm. Me, I tend to think the entire ride is what's fun. And if I don't get that last 10 seconds? Not the end of the world (and it shouldn't be for my partner, either.)


The other side to remember... it's a LOT better to have this problem than the opposite - I'd rather take 2 hours to cum than 2 minutes....

Good luck!!

:smile:
 

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curious...

how many of you guys with trouble ejaculating are circumcised?

if you're suffering from drug-inducend sexual side effects please don't answer.

I know that men can build up their stamina however, an hour to two hours to ejaculate seems excessive.
 

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I always make sure she gets off, but I have got the remark from a couple girls......"are you almost ready to cum?" then I ask "r u?" :wink:

Really tho, never had a prob with coming besides last time I ate X. I fucked for about 2 1/2 3 hours, cock was rock hard the whole time. Babe had my cock all creamy and she didn't have a problem getting off at all, it felt great, I was sweating my little balls off............just couldn't nut for shit. We pasted out for a few hours, went to the lake on the boat, my nuts were killing me and I told her. I pounded her for about 5 10 minutes doggy on the boat and blew the fattest nut ever. Then I felt awesome for like a week:laughing:
 

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Ginger, the effects of circumcision is a radioactive topic. Many folks avoid it in a non-circ thread.
 

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2nd comment on this thread....idaho's advice is good...plow into the cunt...get it done if you have this problem...then attend to her longer need...this has worked for me recently...but if the session will be a longer adventure and i want to last for an hour or more...the finish requires my help, masturbation with her sucking my balls...yes it is worth the wait for that treat...by that time she is ready to end the event as i am also...also buy good quality lube...that warming kind sucks..longtime friction get hot, not warm like the commercials
 

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It's not mind over matter. To say it is all mental is both flippant and outdated. Don't believe it's chemical? Try taking a high dose of SSRI anti-depressants and watch what happens to your orgasms (they can go bye-bye).

It's not fun to have delayed ejaculation.

It doesn't make you feel like more of a man. It makes your partner feel like less of a lover.
 

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If nothing is wrong with you physically, it could be stress or you aren't really into it. Anti-depressants can cause major problems with reaching orgasm. Prozac, Zoloft, and Paxil all have that side effect.
 

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I've always had delayed ejaculation, ever since I started jacking off. Most times it took me 15 minutes of hard and fast jacking before I could cum. Then, when I started experimenting with mates at school, they were never able to finish me off, so I had to do it myself -that was until I found out that if the other guy stood behind me and jacked me just like I do it myself (right hand only, and fast), then I could cum, eventually (though it still took me a while). Several times I tried refraining from my twice-daily jacking, but it never seemed to do any real good - when I abstained for several days. I just came a bigger load .... and it still took for ever. Obviously, I wasn't taking any pills back then, so I'm clueless about why I've had always had this problem. Like others have said here, it's not as uncommon as people think, and I'm wondering if taking Viagra pills will improve my performance.

It's mainly because of delayed ejaculation that I've never considered getting married. It would be a disaster (to me) if I couldn't fuck and cum on a regular basis for her. I just don't see me jacking myself off for 10 minutes while kneeling over her, and then pushing my cock in for the last 10 seconds! I think I'll just have to stay single, and enjoy the pleasures of self masturbation.