Taking Forever to Cum

[taskman]

For the longest time, I've wanted someone else to be saying that. Everytime I would talk about this to my team (back in the day- i played puck) none of them could understand. I smoke alot of ganja but fuck, I mean I don't cum unless I'm really concentrating. It gets really frustrating, my lady will cum twice before I even get a chance to bust a nut. Whats this is hear about some pc muslce?


-taskman

 

[FuzzyKen]

Taking a long time to ejaculate is common and is in fact preferable to spraying before penetration. Yes, medications are a problem. I found when I used Viagra that I had that problem. I have found that Quadmix injections however if anything made an old 55 year old guy able to do a great deal better in that area too.

Change your techniques and really examine if your partner is working on your own erogenous zones. This is not a "fault" situation at all. Bodybuilders change training routines all the time and sex can also become a rut. Age has no bearing on that fact and boredome happens just as well at age 20 as it does at age 60!

Good Luck

 

[D_Edwin Eatser]

Wish I could take forever! I'm the other way, particularly with a new woman; I cum after a few minutes, but fortunately I don't go soft if I'm still fucking, so can keep on until she cums, then I pretend to shoot. It usually works, but if they do notice they don't really mind, because I get hard again very soon after fucking so can give them another seeing to before they go off the boil!

I'm not unhappy about the situation, I'd sooner cum too soon and be able to keep it up rather than keep going for hours, cum, then not be able to get an erection for a long time.

 

[Infernal]

Being able to fuck for hours hasn't really been a bad thing. I get a lot of pleasure from giving pleasure to someone else. I love watching their response to what I'm giving them. Getting off from oral sex has always been the problem. Let's face it, some people have no clue when it comes to sucking dick, others have a great talent for it. It just never seems to work for me. It feels great, but never quite enough to get me over the edge. The number of people who have is really small.

 

[goodwood]

Thanks guys for the replies. I guess it is somewhat helpful to know that this is more common than I had thought.
What are Quadmix injections, where does one procure them and how are they done?

 

[Siq]

It usually take me 45 minutes to jack off. But I don't get fully hard and lose my hard on a few times throughout....I think I should see the doctor about it...

 

[anoushka]

Being able to fuck for hours hasn't really been a bad thing. I get a lot of pleasure from giving pleasure to someone else. I love watching their response to what I'm giving them.

Agreed! Doggie-style always seems to bring me to the edge very quickly though.

Getting off from oral sex has always been the problem. Let's face it, some people have no clue when it comes to sucking dick, others have a great talent for it. It just never seems to work for me. It feels great, but never quite enough to get me over the edge. The number of people who have is really small.

The difference for me with oral is if my partner is really into it versus just doing it. Some of that is the emotional connection in the relationship, but some of that is a simple question of technique and skill.

One girlfriend I had was into it - to the degree she could edge me for an afternoon, and she loved doing so. She also knew that after all that teasing she could place her lips right on my frenulum and swirl her tongue there as she pumped me with her hand and I would squirt a gusher!

With my current partner, I take as long as I take - sometimes more, sometimes less. I seem to be able to fuck as long as I like until she makes a certain kind of noise which signals her level of excitement. When I hear that certain noise, I come nearly instantly.

Overall, I'm slow to boil, and have no problem with that.

 

[LongTimeComing]

Well, my name says it all...
It's always been a problem for me, off and on when I was young, becoming more consistent as I got older. Then I went on antidepressants for about six months, (about five years ago), and they ruined me maybe for good. My advice to anyone considering antidepressants is to try to avoid them if at all possible. No one even understands how they work, and there is an increasing body of evidence that they can have PERMANENT side effects. The doctors will largely poo-poo this because the pharmaceutical companies haven't done long term studies.

Now as to those who say "I wish I had that 'problem,'" think about it... Doesn't your partner get off on pleasing you, just as you get off on pleasing them? Personally, I have learned to live with infrequent orgasms during sex, but it has put a lot of stress on several relationships. My girl wants to feel desirable, wants to feel that she gets me hot, wants to see me lose myself in ecstasy, just as I love to see her lose herself in ecstasy. It is a real problem, and I haven't found a good solution.

 

[D_Bob_Crotchitch]

Maybe, some of you need to relax, clear your mind of all the clutter, and turn off distractions. Stress can make it difficult to have an orgasm.

 

[Mike7]

Tensing my leg and ass muscles helps me to cum if I'm talking too long. Builds up pressure and tension which seems to release it for me. I go no where near as long as you do for hours but thought I'd throw out that trick I use.

 

[D_Bob_Crotchitch]

Goodwood, I read something in a mag that would help increase sensitivity but I am reluctant to post it in open. Pm me if you are interested.

 

[peachbear]

You might be interested to know, there are people (men and women) who have a fetish for men who take a long time to cum. everytime i'm with a guy i beg him not to cum and stop / slowdown to make him last as long as I can. one guy i was with took 7 hours to finally get off and i loved every single minute of it. For everyone that thinks they have a problem, there is someone that likes you because of it. (one persons problem is another persons pleasure so to speak).

 

[stateofblues]

I'm right there with you. It seems to be part psychological and part physical makeup. But every time I think I've got it figured out, it happens again. I've tried not cumming for weeks, no porn for months, kegels, etc. So far noting has worked. I'm not on any medications either. There have been a handful of times that I've cum within a couple of minutes, but I can't figure out what the difference was in those times. It gets worse if I think about it, knowing my partner is going to feel like it's an attraction issue, or when I'm concerned that I'm going to wear them out. If I start to get bummed about it, I go limp. I wish there were some cream or patch or something to help.

 

[stateofblues]

It happens to me, and I am not circumcised (or on any meds).

curious...

how many of you guys with trouble ejaculating are circumcised?

if you're suffering from drug-inducend sexual side effects please don't answer.

I know that men can build up their stamina however, an hour to two hours to ejaculate seems excessive.

 

[D_Mimosa Rain]

I am really sorry for all of the difficulties that many of you are having and want to thank you for sharing your stories. I'm female and only ever knew about premature ejaculation... not the other extreme.

I sometimes take a long time to cum and as a woman have found it normal to fake orgasm on occasion. I mainly did that when I was 18-20 and was with someone who was quite dominating sexually and I never wanted to admit that I hadn't cum, or couldnt or that he wasn't touching me right etc. I just didn't have the courage to speak up.

I'm a lot bolder now but still feel awkward when I'm taking a while. I thought this was just a female problem and I'm glad to hear that you guys suffer the effects also.

My first boyfriend got drunk a lot and sex with him like that was a chore and took ages. He just couldnt cum and I wasn't into it. It was such a turn off. Not because of his physical inability to orgasm, but because of the way he got himself into that state.

I am healthy and take care of my body. I find drunken men really unattractive and my past sexual experiences have a lot to do with it.

A later boyfriend would feel the need to cum too soon, he would admit it and we would slow down, take a break and then keep going. Other times he would take longer and again it was all about communication.

Communicate with your partner and find out what turns them on, what brings them to climax etc and share your feelings and needs. I would love to come with penetration only but haven't so far.... only with a big vibrator which started by fascination and curiousity with big cocks.

I cum the best the oral and fingering at the same time... feels great and I have nearly cum with doggy style pounding and anal. It's all about being comfortable in your own skin, comfortable with your chosen partners skin and being able to communicate.

 

[TheDeTour]

I have also experienced this, Im 60 but I have always taken a fair time to cum, it can be a blessing but not always. I suspect its partly insensitivity but also worrying about not ejaculating. This causes anxiety and a vicious circle is created.

 

[hutspah]

Thank god, someone else has this problem. I own three fleshlight sleeves, the lotus, the super ring, and the endurance trainer, and even with them (with a vibrating bullet in there) i have never come in under 15 minutes. and thats with going at it like crazy and with a really good fantasy or a girlfriend assisting. my average time is closer to an hour. I'm not on any meds right now at all. I am 20.

 

[D_Tim McGnaw]

It's always taken me ages to cum, both from masturbation and sex, sometimes it can be a problem if you're trying to have a quickie, and some partners can take it as an indication that you're not as turned on by them as you could be, but it can also be a big bonus too, especially in group sex situations or big ol sessions where you want to fuck for a long time.

Mind you it can make sex pretty exhausting, in my case I have to fuck like a jackhammer for ages to get off and have been struck by sudden and painful cramps in my butt cheeks and legs while going at it. Mixed blessing I guess. Sometimes wish I could cum when I wanted rather than taking so long.

 

[yamahard]

I'm 40, uncut, no meds, physically fit and from day one (of masturbating) I have taken ages to cum, and only twice in a varied sex life without self-assistance (once missionary, once blowjob).

I'm currently seeing a therapist who has me doing kegels, relaxation exercises and self-awareness routines. I do think that some people are naturally less sensitive (in the physical touch sense) than others, however I'm pretty sure I have some other issues (anxiety over unwanted pregnancy, wanting to satisfy, fear of vulnerability at point of orgasm) that have contributed over the years.

I masturbate regularly, have tried abstaining but as another poster said this didn't affect the time it took, just gave a thicker load.

I've always been fairly ok with it, as I figured it was preferable to being a one-minute man, but it definitely does cause problems in intimate relationships - it's hard for a girl with a 'normal' (you know what I mean) orgasm function to understand and not take it personally.

If I find any breakthroughs I'll be happy to post them!

 

[RawDog]

I think the key is relaxation.

I can cum in fairly normal fashion (5-10 minutes), if I want to from the start which I almost never do. With me there seems to be some kind of a "bridge" where I'm about to cum in about 5 to 7 minutes after penetration. If I can get over that feeling, I won't be able to cum again until the next time we have sex, or we take a 5 minute break. An ex called it my perma-hard mode.