Taking her ass virginity (slowly)

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  1. Imported

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    thingsteal: The mizzus and I have been together for 15 years. She wasn't very experienced when I met her, whereas I'd done 3-somes, had gfs who ejaculated, deep throated, and did anal. I had a fairly enlightened view of sex, but it took a while for her to warm up to the idea of me performing oral sex on her. After the first orgasm her view changed considerably.

    Lately we've just been insane. Total fuck bunnies. In the past few months she's finally opened up the idea of performing oral sex on me as a break in the middle of intercourse. I did this once to her and she was totally turned on by it, so she reciprocated. For years she hated her "smell", but now it's no big deal. She's also really turned on by having me fuck her from behind.

    I've been slowly working on her ass in the past few weeks. If she's on top and we're doing it I like to get my fingers in her juices and move them all over the place. I've intentionally "brushed" her anus a few times with my fingers. Initially there was a "you're not going there" attitude, but the other night there was a total willingness to let me explore. I was able to massage it gently and inserted part of a tip of my finger for a while - actually it was up to the point when she experienced orgasm.

    I've always wanted to take her ass virginity and open another window for her to experience sexually. I'm well aware that you need a lot of lube, have to go slow, that it has to be a mutual thing, and that she has to be in control. She's mentioned it a couple times in sexual talk ("I know you want to fuck my ass") but I haven't been given the green light yet. I figure she might be up for it, providing she has a few too many drinks first, but I'm pretty certain the size of my dick is a factor in her decision to let me get in her ass. I know that I don't have to put the whole thing in - just 3 or 4 inches in order to get enough sensation to cum.

    Is there anybody else out who's "above average" in size who has convinced their wife/girlfriend to do it anally? How long did it take for you to get in there? Do you still do it? Does she like it? Thanks for your replies.
     
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    gigantikok: not to sound negative, but i wouldn't ever consider anal sex. I'm too big, and the anus in general disgusts me, especially when it involves sex. Just reading about you massaging your g/f's anus made me wince. Maybe I'm wierd or something. I hope i'm not being rude, just expressing my opinion.
     
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    aj2181: [quote author=gigantikok link=board=sex;num=1059861112;start=0#1 date=08/02/03 at 16:00:06]not to sound negative, but i wouldn't ever consider anal sex.  I'm too big, and the anus in general disgusts me, especially when it involves sex.[/quote]


    Well I'll venture to disagree. I find anal sex very erotic but like gigantikok its not good at my size. It took me a while to convince her, and it didn't take long for her to tell me to stop.
     
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    MYDEEPTHROAT: [quote author=gigantikok link=board=sex;num=1059861112;start=0#1 date=08/02/03 at 16:00:06]not to sound negative, but i wouldn't ever consider anal sex.  I'm too big, and the anus in general disgusts me, especially when it involves sex.  Just reading about you massaging your g/f's anus made me wince.  Maybe I'm wierd or something.  I hope i'm not being rude, just expressing my opinion.[/quote]

    I'd like to disagree with you as well 'gigantikok'!
    I can try to understand your feelings regarding anything to do with anal sex, as we all have own individual preferences ...
    But I think Anal Sex can be more accommodating than being Fucked Vaginally ...
    Especially for very large endowments !!!
    Especially with gay men, who have the benefit of the prostate to arouse them !!!
    Many gay men can handle some very large endowments or objects, and actually seek out the 'biggest' men they can find !!!
    I've certainly enjoyed being able to handle some very 'large' men who would usually or always have quite a bit of trouble being able to get it all the way in ... :)
    My problem ... is finding the Very Well-Hung Guys in my area who really want to be able to BURY IT IN all the way ... :)
     
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    Longhornjok: As with anything new and different, it's about taking your time and making sure both partners are communicating. If she doesn't like it, she doesn't like it. There are actually some women who can more easily accomodate a big guy anally, if that's something they're comfortable with trying. In terms of it being gross or disgusting, it's called hygiene. For sure if THAT is going to happen, you want to either plan ahead of time or she needs to make a little trip to the shower first. Personally, I am obsessed with cleanliness, and I would never "go there" unless that was taken care of already.
     
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    I love to give and receive anal sex. You have the right idea, but you may want to rim her(tongue in ass) first. I am 6" around and with the proper foreplay, I have gotten into most of the asses that I have tried to get into. I myself as a bi male have taken a guy the size around as a coke can. It just takes time.
     
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    One_Hung_Low: I'd have to agree with gigantikok; the anus is a one way street dudes! That's why it doesn't stretch like a vagina! The respond to geo8x6--someday due to your taking Coke can sized erections in thine anulus--an adult sized diaper is in your future. It's shit! It stinks, it tastes bad, it looks bad, and it carries with it several types of bacteria that can cause nasty infections. If you must get that close to shit, have your partner give you a plate-job. Don't use a paper plate, use a strong clear glass serving platter. That way you get to appreciate shit in all its glory, but the possible health risks are eliminated. :D
     
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    Justin: [quote author=gigantikok link=board=sex;num=1059861112;start=0#1 date=08/02/03 at 16:00:06]not to sound negative, but i wouldn't ever consider anal sex.  I'm too big, and the anus in general disgusts me, especially when it involves sex.  Just reading about you massaging your g/f's anus made me wince.  Maybe I'm wierd or something.  I hope i'm not being rude, just expressing my opinion.[/quote]

    I totally agree with gigantikok on this issue. I also share exactly the same feelings and concerns.

    Justin
     
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    aj2181: I agree with you guys about cleanliness. I wouldn't have anal sex with out wearing a condom. I do admit that receiving it dosn't apeal to me either. I sound a little selfish, oh well.
     
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    thingsteal: Since when did this thread become a referendum on whether YOU like anal sex or anal play?

    If you don't like anal sex or anal play, please open your own thread and share your remarks. Otherwise, please be respectful and post comments specifically related to the initial post.
     
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    One_Hung_Low: thingsteel - It became an issue whether or not someone likes anal sex after geo8x6 disclosed that he has taken a Coke can sized penis in his anus. He didn't have to disclose information about being bi, he merely should've answered the post. We all have veered from the point of this topic so let's get back on track. My bad for discussing whether or not anal sex is good or bad. I intended my reply as gross humor, but it turned into some bad shit! :) Nobody has really stated how big is too big! I believe that "too big" has got to be larger than "huge". You can probably get into a lot of places with a "huge" tool, but one that is "too big", would mean you couldn't get it into many places. Mine has never been "too big". If it won't fit in, in the state it's in, I merely fold it in half and proceed. Mine is so long that I can lick a woman's clit and still have the head of it in her vagina. Is that "too big"?
     
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    Dantesco: Cmon, guys; whats the big fucking deal? Given the wide variety of kink available out there anal intercourse is not that far out. Compared to some subjects discussed on this board, its positively tame. Im a straight man who particularly enjoys anal sex. One_Hung_Lows comment about the anus not stretching was off-base. Longhornjok was right when he said that some women can accomodate a big guy anally than they can vaginally. That has been my experience as well. He is also right about hygiene; we could say the same thing about vaginal sex. I would think my parners are serious enough about cleanliness that such concerns are not an issue. aj2181 is right about wearing a condom, but then again, I wouldnt engage in vaginal intercourse without a condom. And One_Hung_Low, surely you realize that there can be as many bacteria in a vagina as in the anus? Again: Condoms! Anal intercourse will not appeal to everyone, but Nony is right. If its not your thing, so be it, but let those of us whose thing it is enjoy it. Hey, its finally legal!
     
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    Boy, you guys here are so misinformed about anal sex, it is pitiful. I won't even bother to point out your faults. Anal sex does not equate to anal incontinence. You can talk to the bi and gay males on the line here and they will tell you that they have better control of their sphincters than you ever will. Being able to relax to allow penetration takes alot of practice and patiance. Pick up the book "Anal Peasure & Health" by Jack Morin, Ph.D. (That is if you can read). Having a big dick is no reason to be ignorant.
     
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    gigantikok: [quote author=Dantesco link=board=sex;num=1059861112;start=0#12 date=08/03/03 at 23:29:34]Cmon, guys; whats the big fucking deal?[/quote]
    I will respond to Dantesco simply because he asked, not because i am trying to offend you, thingsteal.

    Anal sex completely turns me off because the anus is absolutely disgusting. You would have to completely rinse out and disinfect the area for quite a while to clean up all the shit trapped up there. They take the time for porn stars, but most people dont spend 10 minutes in the shower cramming a bar of soap up their ass as far as it can go. It has been reported, and from what i have heard, condoms are important for anal sex simply due to hiegene. Traces of feces (or more for that matter) is encountered at least 80% of the time. Sorry, but I happen to think shit is one of foulest substances on this earth. It absolutely disgusts me, and running into it during a sexual session would most likely traumatize me. Maybe I'm being too dramatic, but it's gross.

    SO, in my opinion, anal sex doesn't cut it for me because:
    -the anus smells and is nasty looking
    -there is a high chance of encountering feces
    -it would be very difficult to fit

    Just my opinion, of course, that's your answer from me Dantesco.
     
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    Longhornjok: [quote author=gigantikok link=board=sex;num=1059861112;start=0#14 date=08/04/03 at 00:13:16]most people dont spend 10 minutes in the shower cramming a bar of soap up their ass as far as it can go.[/quote]"Most people" don't need to. If you need it spelled out for you, someone interested in engaging in anal sex, whether m/f or m/m, should a) make sure they've had a bm or else take care of that and then b) give themselves a quick enema, maybe adding a bit of lemon juice for a cirtusy zing (much like a woman may choose to douche upfront for that "fresh" feeling).

    [quote author=gigantikok link=board=sex;num=1059861112;start=0#14 date=08/04/03 at 00:13:16]Traces of feces (or more for that matter) is encountered at least 80% of the time.[/quote]Ummm, did you pull that out of your ass (no pun intended) or do you have an actual source for such an odd statistic?

    [quote author=gigantikok link=board=sex;num=1059861112;start=0#14 date=08/04/03 at 00:13:16]Sorry, but I happen to think shit is one of foulest substances on this earth.  It absolutely disgusts me, and running into it during a sexual session would most likely traumatize me.[/quote]Yes, that is apparent.

    [quote author=gigantikok link=board=sex;num=1059861112;start=0#14 date=08/04/03 at 00:13:16] SO, in my opinion, anal sex doesn't cut it for me because:
    -the anus smells and is nasty looking[/quote]It shouldn't smell (see above); the 2nd part is purely subjective.

    [quote author=gigantikok link=board=sex;num=1059861112;start=0#14 date=08/04/03 at 00:13:16]-there is a high chance of encountering feces[/quote]Not if precautions are taken.

    [quote author=gigantikok link=board=sex;num=1059861112;start=0#14 date=08/04/03 at 00:13:16]-it would be very difficult to fit[/quote]Nope - see earlier posts by Dantesco and myself - many women can actually accomodate a large guy more readily back-door.

    Your personal aversion to it is your business, but those of us who have done it and enjoy it have a more informed perspective on the actual experience.
     
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    sammygirly: ~laughs @ lemon in the enema~

    Just a word to the wise, constant douching and enemas are not great for the internal balance of things.

    But back to the the ORIGINAL issue, I think Nony has given the best advice so far. It is important to let her know that the changes in your sex life thus far really turn you on and that further exploration excites you - and I think it excites her too. If you make it her choice, maybe make her get the notion it was her idea all along even (women are experts at this trick, I hope men can do it too) you might be surprised at what she opens herself up to.

    Finally, keep doing what you're doing. Sounds perfect to me - and if she tries it and doesn't like it...please respect that as well.
     
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    aj2181: [quote author=sammygirly link=board=sex;num=1059861112;start=0#16 date=08/04/03 at 10:18:42]~laughs @ lemon in the enema~



    I think Nony has given the best advice so far.  It is important to let her know that the changes in your sex life thus far really turn you on and that further exploration excites you - and I think it excites her too.  If you make it her choice, maybe make her get the notion it was her idea all along even (women are experts at this trick, I hope men can do it too) you might be surprised at what she opens herself up to.

    Finally, keep doing what you're doing.  Sounds perfect to me - and if she tries it and doesn't like it...please respect that as well.
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    Both Sammy and Nony are right about this. I agree with them. I just didn't articulate it well.
     
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    thingsteal: You gals rule! ;D

    Thanks for the pep talk!
     
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    it is gigantikok's right not to like anal sex. But anal sex has been around since the caveman. If you don't like it, don't do it. Don't knock the people who do like it. You may want to read the book I suggested or some of the other ones out there before you jump to any conclusions. I don't like S&M so I don't do it, but I don't go off on the people who do. I know this site is for use to share, but being negitive is not helping thingsteal.
     
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