taking it up the butt. not necessarily gay?

[sexplease]

http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Pegging_(sexual_practice)

 

[D_Jared Padalicki]

I typically agree with you on many things but you are all wet on this one. Using your logic, every woman who liked to get fucked in the ass is bisexual. It simply is not true.
I wasn't really talking about women... I thought it was about men :smile:

Maybe in the pre-70's-'80's days there were more "defined" stereotypes and labels but not anymore. Since the world has grown from a "sex for procreation" to a "sex for pleasure" paridigm anal sex is simply another pleasure that more and more people, women and men, are willing to experience in order to heighten their pleasure.
I don't agree totally with that, it's more on this board that people are more open for sex and labels, but daily it is still a big issue between people, pitty enough.

I seldom allow anal penetration due to it is a trust issue with me but I would much rather have a warm, pulsing and ultimately, shooting cock with a man attached, heightening all my nerve endings than a piece of plastic, rubber or whatever they are made of, more than likely missing all the sweet spots.
Can't argue that hahaha, never had that hahaha

Women like anal sex because of the nerve concentration and men like it because of the nerve concentration and for the prostate stimulation that allows them to experience 1) a totally different-feeling orgasm, 2) a stronger, fuller orgasm and 3) a new mind-blowing ejaculatory experience.
I do agree :smile:

No, it is not as quick and easy as a penis only experience (whether oral, vaginal or JO), but it *is* a new experience and men and women who are willing to experiment in order to increase their pleasure will get beyond any pre-concieved notions, sexuality insecurities and any stereotypical old time boundaries.

Whether or not you are gay or straight has to do with who you *love* not what type of sex you have.
Still have it difficult with the fact you want a dick fucking you, but don't want to see that as a gay-act... Because when a man puts his dick in a male his ass, that is quite gay . So in the OP his case, I see it as a bisexual act to give it a name.

 

[Deno]

You suck one cock you gay for life, you take it up the ass your not, OK what is this world coming too.

 

[cjc3552]

You suck one cock you gay for life, you take it up the ass your not, OK what is this world coming too.

Lol.

I think wanting anal pleasure is not inherently gay. I think it becomes gay when you want a dude to do it. Examples:
Wanting a blowjob. Not gay
Wanting a blowjob from a dude. Gay
Wanting anal pleasure. Not gay
Wanting anal pleasure from a dude. Gay


If you are a dude and you want another dude to perform sexual acts with you, watch your step because you just pulled into Gaytown.
It's more about who you are attracted to than the acts that are done. I think this is what shooter was saying, albeit he did it in a more eloquent way. :biggrin1:

 

[eastbaydude]

I agree with CJC.

The idea of enjoying having your butt played with has nothing at all to do with being gay. It just means it feels good to have your butt played with.

Having a guy stick his cock up your ass is gay sex. If you're doing it for money, you're a whore. If you're doing it in prison, you're surviving. If yuo're doing it against your will, you're being raped. If you're doing it to see what it feels like, you're experimenting. If you're doing it beacuse you really get of on it - well...

There is nothing wrong with it, just be honest about what you're doing.

 

[SpeedoMike]

and I thought I'd heard it all from the politicians. what a load of BS being promulgated here. didn't you learn in catechism class that sex with the same sex is gay??

 

[TopDudeFtl]

Being gay has, in my opinion, nothing to do with sex; but it has everything to do with love. There is nothing wrong with a straight guy liking the feeling of a cock in his ass. I have a very close, straight, married friend who I used to fuck quite regularly. We lived in different cities after high school & would fuck around whenever we got together & visited each other. Several years later I ended up moving to his city & moving in with him. He had his share of GF’s but always loved getting fucked by me. He once told me that I was the only guy with whom he trusted & felt comfortable doing such an act with. He got married a few years ago & doesn’t like the idea of us doing it again (he’s a good Catholic boy) but said that he’s thought about it.

 

[DiscoBoy]

I agree with cjc for the most part; being gay is about whom you're attracted to and not the actions you perform. But receiving oral or performing anal sex with a man doesn't necessarily make one gay. A mouth is a mouth and an ass is an ass afterall. It all comes down to whether you'd PREFER to have a female or a male performing the action.

 

[B_Bonky]

I remember in 6th grade all the boys and girls were split up and did a week of sex education. There was only one male teacher in the school so he taught the boys. And I remember a kid asked "How can you tell if you're gay?" and he replied, "If you'd rather have sex with men than women, you're gay."

Guess it's a bit of a simplification but probably as close to a good definition as I've heard.

 

[B_CoffeeWithCream]

Being gay has, in my opinion, nothing to do with sex; but it has everything to do with love. There is nothing wrong with a straight guy liking the feeling of a cock in his ass. I have a very close, straight, married friend who I used to fuck quite regularly. We lived in different cities after high school & would fuck around whenever we got together & visited each other. Several years later I ended up moving to his city & moving in with him. He had his share of GF’s but always loved getting fucked by me. He once told me that I was the only guy with whom he trusted & felt comfortable doing such an act with. He got married a few years ago & doesn’t like the idea of us doing it again (he’s a good Catholic boy) but said that he’s thought about it.

That guy is actually bisexual and so are any "straight" (said with sarcasm) guys who seek out and have sex with men. Ask a guy who actually is straight and heterosexual if they have ever wanted to or have fucked around with a guy, do not be surprised when he looks at you oddly and says no to both questions. It's like how if a man is gay he is not going to somehow just one day wake up and suddenly crave some pussy or go out and just do some woman.

 

[MalakingTiti]

some people would say that the epitome of being homosexual is takin a dick up the butt
but i think it's a little more complicated than that
if you look at just the act of one guy being fucked by a penis you can say its homosexual
but i hear that anal sex for guys can be an amazing and an entirely different experience from anything else
and that's something that girls can't really offer
so can you call yourself gay for being curious or wanting to know what it feels like?
what do you think?

I'm not gay but it seems to me that being gay is more complicated than to be reduced to just one sex act, therefore I don't know that I would say enjoying being fucked in the ass makes one gay. I am however certain that it doesn't make a one straight.

 

[BigDallasDick8x6]

true. i found a guy on a str8 swingers site; offered him $$ to blow him while he watched porn. He agreed. Next month, last few days of the pay period; I get a call from him, asking if he could have more money and what he would do for the add'l amount. I agreed. As long as he can see str8 pussy on the TV he can doesnt mind being blown or fucking. Scared shitless the first time he was in my house (he's builit like a pro footballer which was the attraction I found in him). Not gay, but $$ is a great motivator.

HOT story - thanks for sharing!

 

[johnjacobs]

some here will say that it means you are 100% gay but probably not, even if you liked it. Being gay is more of a state of mind than what you do sexually and with whom you have sex.

tha truth!

 

[B_Nick8]

Most heterosexual men who've been stimulated anally, ie: had their prostate stimulated, will tell you they liked it. A lot. How it happened isn't particularly important and it doesn't make them gay. It's the emotional component that tips the scale.

 

[B_Bonky]

I'll freely say that I don't really like anything in there. Anuses -- whether the girl's or mine -- just don't turn me on. And yes I have tried it. I had to dump one older chick who was intent on messing around with my ass. She was very intent on it and I just don't want anything near it. I don't think it's sexy, I don't think it feels good, and I don't particularly want anybody focusing on it in any way. That's just me, though, and I don't think it makes me "straight".. it just means that sex and shit don't go well together in my book.

 

[B_Nick8]

I said "most". You want I should downgrade to "many"? :tongue:

 

[B_Bonky]

how 'bout "some".. that could be anywhere between a few and most. I just don't want some chick I know to stumble across your post and think there's a high likelihood that I'm going to want her to stick stuff in my rear.

 

[B_Nick8]

Well, it's clear you're out of the equation, but I've been around long enough to feel comfortable saying many. Who've really tried it, that is. :wink:

 

[engorged]

some people would say that the epitome of being homosexual is takin a dick up the butt
but i think it's a little more complicated than that
if you look at just the act of one guy being fucked by a penis you can say its homosexual
but i hear that anal sex for guys can be an amazing and an entirely different experience from anything else
and that's something that girls can't really offer
so can you call yourself gay for being curious or wanting to know what it feels like?
what do you think?

i think if you form emotional/loving relationships with the same sex then your gay...

otherwise..your bi....just into the sex..

takin cock up the butt is beyond bi-curious though...

hope the answer helps with your journey

 

[D_Pubert Stabbingpain]

Okay,
I am going to "stick in" :biggrin1: another example of a co-worker about 20 years ago in Reno that I have talked about before in 1 thread. This dude was as str8 as an arrow and had 2 gf's (at different times) while we were co-workers. He was physically (or perhaps mentally) incapable of achieving orgasm without (in his words) having his gf stick a screwdriver up there (I always hoped the handle!). He told me once that I was the only guy he would ever, EVER, allow to fuck him because he trusted me. Alas, I was an ignorant, naive, monogamous boy who at the time, had a bf, so I did not oblige my co-worker. He invited and I turned him down and it is my fault if he, or his gf, has since damaged his body using screwdrivers. He was not gay or even bi-sexual. He simply had a physical need and wanted to find a more um, for lack of a better word, normal, way of achieving orgasm.

It simply does not make you gay. Hell, it never even made you gay way back in the 60's and 70's. The "telltale" sign? Kissing another dude. And everybody knows all the Soviets then, were gay. I have no doubt that kissing would have been his hangup as well.

I think there are a lot of people here that are really sexually hung up about anal sex. So sad. :frown1:


Screwdriver (and I still remember your full true name!), my 8" uncut coworker from 20 years ago, dude, if you are out there, PLEASE LOOK ME UP. I miss you!
:smile: